Methods of educating children to be filial to their parents Part I: Establishing a harmonious family relationship between young and old.
Isn't this a feudal society? What's the difference between young and old? It means that parents should respect their children's independent personality and their opinions and suggestions; At the same time, children should respect their elders, listen to their parents and understand their hard work.
Nowadays, many children are at home. Little sun? Adults have to revolve around children. Imagine, how to train children? Little emperor? How about letting children honor their parents? Therefore, we must let children know their relationship with their parents, grandparents and other elders, and we must not put the cart before the horse without order.
Cultivate children's ability to do housework
Let children do housework from an early age, so that children can know how to be grateful and understand the hard work of their parents. As long as children are aware of their parents' hard work for their children and their families, they will be able to care for their parents and share responsibilities for their families with gratitude when they grow up.
Infect children with family stories
Can you tell the children about it? Twenty-four Filial Piety There are many stories about filial piety that can be read to children often, such as the story of Lutz borrowing rice, Huang Xiang warming a banquet, camel mother, etc.
Parents should set an example of respecting their elders.
Children's attitude towards their parents is directly influenced by their parents' attitude towards their elders. Some parents not only don't take care of their parents, but have a particularly bad relationship with the elderly and have a particularly bad influence on their children.
Methods of educating children to be filial Part II 1. Parents and children honor the elderly together.
When parents visit their parents (children's grandparents, grandparents), they should take their children with them and let them see for themselves how their parents honor their parents.
That kind? Love only your own mother, not your husband's mother? This phenomenon is quite common among young mothers. I can tell these mothers clearly that you should not call them in front of your mother-in-law. Mom? Behind your mother-in-law's back, do you call your child grandma? Old stuff? One day, your daughter-in-law will call you? Old stuff? . By that time, your son must take it for granted!
2. Let children feel the hardships of their parents and provide them with opportunities to honor their parents.
Nowadays, in many families, love is only a one-way inclination of parents to their children, but it can't realize two-way communication of love, so this kind of love is abnormal love. Only when the child transforms the love his parents gave him into his love for his parents can the seeds of this love take root, sprout and bear fruit in the child's heart, and this great love on earth can spread like this. 3. Ask children to be confident in doing things for the elderly.
When parents are sick or unwell, they should confidently ask their children to do what they should do, such as carrying water to send medicine or accompanying their children to see a doctor. Don't be afraid of delaying his study time.
Educating children to honor their parents should start with guiding them to do these little things for their parents. When a child disrespects his parents, he should be properly criticized and punished. Never think that children are too young to be reasonable. Don't care much about his words and deeds. When he grows up, he will naturally know how to honor the elderly. This understanding is definitely wrong.
4. Let the children celebrate their parents' birthdays.
Let children remember their parents' birthdays. For children above junior high school, children can host their parents' birthdays. Parents should not only celebrate their children's birthdays, but also not celebrate their own birthdays, which is not good for their children.
5. Make demands on children from trivial matters in daily life.
If you go out to say goodbye to your parents, go home and say hello to your parents; When eating, let parents sit down first and serve their parents good food; Speak respectfully to your parents, not rudely. When parents can't meet their children's requirements, tell them not to lose their temper, be considerate and understand their parents' difficulties. If their children lose their temper or stick to this principle, parents should always stick to it. Parents should never refuse their children's demands at first. If the children lose their temper, their parents will give in. The child was so stubborn that his parents had to give in. This is tantamount to encouraging children to constantly make unreasonable demands.
6. Let children experience the hard work of their parents.
You might as well tell your child about your daily work, or take your child to class once or twice to let him know what route you take to work, what you do every day, and what difficulties you have in your work; You can also tell your child what to buy at home next month and how much it will cost.
In short, let the children see and feel the difficulties of their parents, not just let them listen to their parents? I work hard, okay? .
7. Build family ties in intimacy.
When children's time permits, parents should ask their children to help their mothers brush chopsticks and wash dishes, and give their fathers back rubs and shoulders rubs. The cultivation of family ties is often just some details that are easily overlooked by us. In this respect, I don't approve of children going to boarding schools far from home from kindergarten or primary school, because it is not conducive to the cultivation of family ties. Family ties are built up in intimacy all day.
8. Encourage children to honor their parents with family stories.
Parents must take time out to have a heart-to-heart talk with their children regularly, and selectively tell their children about their own difficulties and difficulties at home. Through conversation, children can experience family affection and stimulate their awareness of filial piety.
Methods of educating children to be filial 1. Teaching by example is more important than teaching by example.
There is such an advertisement: a young mother who just got off work finished housework and brought water to wash the feet of the elderly. The old man said to her, have a rest, son! Don't wear yourself out. ? She smiled and said, mom, not tired. ? The young mother's words and deeds were seen by her son who was only 3 or 4 years old. The son silently brought a basin of water. The youngest son walked towards his mother with a basin of water. The water in the basin spilled all over the child, but the child still had a bright face. Put water at mother's feet and wash her feet. The advertising picture is fixed here, and the slogan reads: Parents, children's best teachers? . Yes, that's how filial piety is learned and passed down. Filial piety is cultivated under the example of parents. Therefore, to cultivate children's filial piety and know how to love, parents should first set an example and be filial to their elders, because? Teaching by example is more important than teaching by example? .
Learn to be grateful
Let children learn to be grateful. Gratitude comes from conscience, conscience and virtue, which is the family foundation of filial piety. However, gratitude is not a natural emotion and must be educated. Parents should consciously let their children understand their parents' hard work, it is not easy to earn money to support their families, their love for their children, and their parents also need their children's care and love. Therefore, parents may wish to tell their children the things of the day: getting up, cooking, washing clothes, tidying up housework, going to work and so on. Let children realize how they care about their children, for example, how parents feel distressed when their children are sick and how to stay up late to take care of their children. The details are the most infectious. Knowing how to be grateful is gratitude, and gratitude is gratitude. Let children form the good habit of caring, loving and caring for their parents from an early age, such as combing their mothers' hair and giving their fathers a back rub.
3. Start small and start small.
Let children develop the good habit of filial piety to their parents, and start from small things to shape and cultivate them. For example, educate children to care about their parents' health, help parents share their worries and help parents do housework. Parents should be patient when children can't do it. Don't criticize the child for doing something wrong. Children should be praised and encouraged when they are done well. Only through personal practice and experience can children feel the hardships of their parents and taste the happiness that their parents have paid for others. As a child? My parents raised me, so what should I do for them? When the concept is gradually formed, children will have a sense of obligation and responsibility for life. This is also what contemporary children lack most. Because they usually only know how to accept love, don't know how to give love, and don't learn to care and appreciate. Parents should never think like this: children are still young, and their main task is to study. As long as you study well, you don't need to do anything, but you should change your mind: academic performance is not the only evaluation criterion. There are many standards for a good boy, and filial piety is an important standard. As the saying goes:? Three years old, eight years old? . Because habits become nature, bad habits formed from childhood are hard to change when they grow up.
Make family rules
State-owned laws and family rules. Without rules, there would be no Fiona Fang. A family needs democracy, not paternalism, but necessary family rules are indispensable. Parents can discuss with their children and make? Honor your parents? Code of conduct. I propose? Five to five, isn't it? For parents' reference? Five requirements? It is to understand parents, be close to parents, care about parents, respect parents and be considerate of parents. ? Five, isn't it? Yes: don't interfere with parents' work and rest, don't make parents angry, don't contradict parents, don't monopolize parents, and don't compare with others. Cooperation? Five to five, isn't it? There are several specific requirements: ① Remember parents' birthdays; Do your own thing; I will be a parent one day; (4) go to find relatives alone; My father (mother) and I work together for a day.
5. Parent-child interaction
Parents should communicate with their children more, play games and engage in activities together: parents and children should read an article together. Such as: filial piety is priceless; Parents and children sing a song together. Such as: Letter from Home, Visit Home Often, Mother by Candlelight, Mother's Kiss, Ode to Mother and so on. Parents and children recite a poem together. Such as: wandering sons, mother's rainy season, mother, my patron saint and so on In the activities of parent-child interaction, we can not only enjoy family happiness, but also cultivate children's good moral character of respecting their elders in a subtle way.
6. Home-school cooperation