Parents educate their children and share successful experiences.
First, always have an appreciation attitude towards children.
In the process of interacting with successful parents, you will feel that their appreciation of their children sometimes moves you. For example, excellent children have their own nicknames at home. When parents call, you will feel that nicknames belong to their parents through their voice and intonation. People will be eclipsed when they call. They never scold or complain when talking about their children. Even if their children are unattractive and sometimes do poorly in exams, they never complain and help them analyze problems calmly. Appreciation is not unrealistic praise and encouragement, but a kind of silent support from the heart, a kind of tacit power. In the contact with successful parents, you can feel that parents have an inexhaustible motivation to appreciate their children from beginning to end.
Second, it is principled, and it is not easy for people to change their views because of things.
Parents clearly know what their children should and should not do, and make rules. Never change easily. For example, when it's time to do your homework, you must do it. When it's time to study, you must study. It won't change because today is a weekend or because today is a special situation. Respect parents, don't lie, be honest, and offenders will never be soft. This is the bottom line of being a man.
Third, be good at running your own family.
A good family atmosphere is the foundation of children's growth. Look at the family of successful parents, and the family atmosphere is harmonious and warm. There are few disputes between parents, and children feel warm and dependent in such a family. Mothers usually play an important role in the family. They keep the house clean and tidy. It doesn't matter how expensive clothes you wear or how expensive things you use. The key is to dress children and adults neatly.
Fourth, be reasonable, behave steadily, and be simple and low-key.
Parents are very reasonable and considerate. Views on problems are often very eclectic, not extreme and stubborn, with steady manners and elegant speech, which will not give people the feeling of arrogance, and rarely boast about their family and income in front of others.
5. Care but don't spoil your children.
They are very concerned about their children, but they can flatly refuse unreasonable demands on their children, never regret it, and will not tolerate their mistakes.
Sixth, parents cooperate tacitly.
On the issue of educating children, they echo each other and cooperate tacitly. A good COP must be a bad COP. Parents should not undermine each other and blame each other. This is a big no-no. I have seen it with my own eyes. A child didn't listen to his mother and had an argument with her. His father severely reprimanded him for this behavior. The child cocked his head and refused to accept it. His father went over and kicked him. The child cried, but the father did not compromise. Seriously point out his misconduct. Mother told her the truth at once, and the two of them cooperated tacitly. Soon the child will no longer be stubborn.
Seven, work hard and be practical.
Parents' attitudes towards life and work will exert a subtle influence on their children. Look at the successful parents. They not only educate their children to succeed, but also work diligently and conscientiously. I also did a good job in the unit. It can be said that work and life are correct.
Eight, pay regular attention to children's learning.
Every day, I will spend a certain amount of time paying attention to my children, which can be fixed regularly. When my children finish their homework, they should check it again. I have time to study with my children, even if I don't study, I will stay with them. They all have their own desks at home. There is a period of homework reading time every day, and parents will lower their voices or turn off the TV so as not to affect their children's study.
9. I'm not proficient in the Internet. I never amuse myself by surfing the Internet except looking up information.
It may be hard to believe, but most successful parents are not proficient in the internet, and they don't like it. Maybe I'm too busy with housework to go to the Internet cafe. They hardly spend time and play games on the Internet except consulting relevant materials and completing necessary materials at work. In contrast, some parents go online for recreation whenever they have time, which is in sharp contrast. Children love to play games, and many of them are influenced by their parents.
Ten, pay attention to children's healthy diet and cook well.
They are very concerned about the health of their children's diet. They make a reasonable and healthy diet for their children. Those things have new additives, and those things are not good for children. Obviously, they cook in person most of the time and seldom buy ready-made ones. A carefully cooked dish.
Eleven, never let children make friends.
Let children only communicate with children who know each other well among friends. They never * * * make friends, and rarely see their Zhazha calling for friends. Parents have strict restrictions on their children making friends. Never let children associate with children who have bad hobbies and love to fight and play. They let their children associate with the children of colleagues or friends who know each other well. Both parents are familiar with each other, and the children are naturally not bad.
Twelve, never contact with complaining parents.
They are independent, seldom complain, and can understand others. There is little or no close contact with the parents of children's classmates, so that children can always maintain a state of "friendship between gentlemen is as light as water" with their classmates in class. Always put learning first, and never dilute the main task because of other things. Never contact complaining parents, and always keep a healthy and upward attitude.
Thirteen, strict with children.
Strictly speaking, it's not about beating and cursing, but about controlling children's behaviors and habits and paying attention to her little by little. If there are any deficiencies, correct them in time. For example, strictly control children's play time, and "work and leisure" is the unchanging creed of educating children.
Fourteen, understand the child, don't ask too much of the child.
Evaluate your children objectively, don't give too high expectations and don't be pessimistic. Instead, set goals according to children's actual abilities. A successful father said, I don't expect my children to be the first in the exam. I just want her to strive for the best result through her own efforts. If she can't get into Tsinghua, she will get into a big school. If she can't get into a university, it's not bad to get into a local college. All she has to do is work hard. In fact, the father is trying to pay attention to the process, not the result.
Make friends with children and listen to their voices.
Successful parents respect their children very much, and they will listen to their voices. Whenever children talk to them, they will put down their housework and listen carefully. Even if what children say is trivial, it is an important part of their lives.
Parents' suggestions on educating their children
First, it is not because of learning to beat and scold children.
My child has had poor academic performance and low ranking, but I have never scolded him or hit him for this reason. I think it is harmful for parents to scold and beat their children. What are the disadvantages? We can analyze it: children will hate you and you because you treat them like this. If they hate you, then your education for them will be invalid from now on. He doesn't like anything you say, and it makes him sick to see you. Can he still communicate with you? Can you still understand what he really thinks? Besides, he will have a rebellious attitude towards you. You say east, I'll go west. You want me to be good, I'm bad. You want me to win your face, I'll lose yours. In that case, a good boy will be ruined.
In addition, everyone has self-esteem, so what kind of people have strong self-esteem? Someone who is respected by others. He thought, my parents respect me so much that I must be well, so as to maintain the respect of others. Such children will get better and better. If his parents always scold him and beat him, he will think, if my parents don't respect me, I don't need to get better, and I will break the jar, so the child will gradually lose self-esteem and self-confidence Therefore, parents should not beat and scold their children, so as to protect their interest in learning.
Second, don't add too much extra-curricular burden to children.
I found that many children began to make up lessons from kindergarten, and their extracurricular time was almost occupied. In his early years, he was exhausted by various studies. Not only did he consume enough energy, but even his thirst for knowledge faded. How can such a child love learning? How can we cultivate the initiative of learning? How can I have enough energy to study?
So I think parents should not make up lessons for their children casually. They should let their children solve problems at school and ask teachers for help if they have any problems. Make-up lessons are necessary or interesting for children to learn what they can't learn in class. This will not affect children's energy too much, but also protect and stimulate children's interest in learning and effectively broaden their knowledge. Why not?
30 principles of family education
1. Always full of hope for children;
2. Always know what children like and make them feel happy at home;
3. Always encourage children and don't throw cold water on them when they fail;
4. Parents should do what their children are asked to do first;
5. Parents do not quarrel in front of their children;
6. Don't speak ill of grandparents or grandparents to children;
7. Be able to admit your mistakes to your children;
8. Don't scold children in front of others;
9. When others point out a child's shortcomings, don't take sides.
10. Correctly face the child's "why", knowing it is knowing it, not knowing it;
1 1. Often take children to play in nature;
12. Give children time and space for free activities every day;
13. Take children to outdoor activities every day;
14. Encourage children to take the initiative to do things, even if they fail, they think it is worthwhile;
15. Often discuss various issues with children and strengthen the communication and exchange of thoughts and feelings between the two sides;
16. When children have something to say to you, listen patiently no matter how busy they are;
17. When criticizing children, allow children to defend and refute;
18. Don't say things like "You are stupid and can't do anything" to children;
19. Generally, children are not forced to make their own choices and judgments;
20. Fulfill your promise to your children;
2 1. Welcome children to play at home;
22. Pay attention to children's emotional changes and understand their psychological needs;
23. At home, give children a world of their own;
24. You can't buy too many toys for children.
25. Don't scare children easily;
26. Always keep in touch with the teacher;
27. There are major events at home, try to seek the opinions of children;
28. When the child makes a mistake, don't settle old scores with the child;
29. Don't indulge children's comparison psychology;
30. Don't turn a blind eye to children, and don't let yourself go.
1. Successful family education cases
2. Five cases of successfully educating children.
3. Cases of successfully educating children
4. Share the experience of educating children.
5. What are some examples of parents educating their children correctly?