As a reflection on the so-called "exam-oriented education" and traditional "stick" education under the influence of the examination system, the proposal of happy education and appreciation education has certain significance. However, we should not take this as something new and think that this lofty idea is the absolute truth. In our normal education, it is the connotation of education itself to properly use encouragement and praise to make students grow up happily. Besides, there are many contents in education, such as guidance, such as restraint, and correcting bad habits, such as criticism and supervision.
I have a friend who has been doing one-on-one tutoring in a teaching and research section for a long time. He attaches great importance to appreciation education. I know that in his own children's education, he mostly follows the method of appreciation education, and the initial effect is better. Later, with the passage of time, some small problems of children piled up into bad habits. Children like to play some small pranks since childhood, such as hiding their parents' things for their parents to find out. At this time, friends usually encourage children to have ideas. My mobile phone was once hidden in a rice bag by this child, and it took us a long time to find it. At that time, I also felt that children played too much. If I didn't restrain criticism, I'm afraid it would be difficult to change old habits.
Unfortunately, as I expected, my friend has been a big head since elementary school. Today, this parent reported him playing tricks on others, and tomorrow the teacher called and said that he would not listen to education and contradict the teacher to interfere with the classroom. Once in the square, I played a trick on a skateboarder, causing others to fall and hurt their elbows. How many good words my friend said, and finally I lost. Friends fully hope to encourage and praise, so that children can release their nature and grow up happily. At present, the child has not grown into an ideal appearance. Later, I found that my friend had changed. I bumped into him myself, turned blue with anger, and held a slender stick to teach the child a lesson. I can only persuade my friends and comfort them. Sometimes, I secretly worry about him. If I want to correct my child's mistakes, he really has a long way to go!
Whether in family education or school education, the educational concept based on the assumption of children's super self-discipline is debatable. On the contrary, it is precisely because children lack self-discipline that they need educational guidance and correction. This process is not only appreciation, but also criticism and punishment. There are not only happiness but also setbacks. Otherwise, how can children grow up and mature?
In short, education is teaching and cultivating. Education is incomplete only by appreciation and encouragement, and only by satisfying students' nature, and it is difficult to achieve the purpose of education.
This answer comes from "Ye Yi" in Zhihu /answer/ 13622847.