There is an old saying: "It is the father's fault not to teach." Now the task of educating children in the family is not only the father's, but also the mother's. Today, when appreciation education and happy education are advocated, a new generation of parents try their best to make their children become adults, have a foothold and make achievements in the competitive modern society.
Beating children should follow the following principles.
First: the principle of moderation
Corporal punishment of children must be "moderate". As the saying goes, it is not surprising to scold often, but not afraid to fight often. If children are often beaten, they will get used to being beaten and gradually develop an attitude that doesn't matter even if they are beaten. In this way, the child will become a person with tenacious resistance and violent tendencies. One of my former colleagues, his son played truant all day, indulged in internet cafes all day, and fought with some bad teenagers. Colleagues are so angry that they will beat them up every once in a while. But not only does it not work, but it will also make children worse. According to my colleague, the child was beaten, not only did he not move, but he also looked like a dead mouse. It was not cold to watch him. Later, I left that unit. I don't know how the child is now, but I don't think he will become a mentally healthy person.
If parents really want to teach their children a lesson, they must not use any tools and just spank their children a few times with their hands.
It must be wrong for parents to expect to educate their children entirely by telephone. Blindly fighting will only cause all kinds of bad mentality and psychological deviation of children, and will never achieve the effect of educating children.
Second: the principle of timeliness.
When the child has bad behavior, try to punish the child as soon as possible, because in the child's mind, the causal relationship between things is close, especially the younger. If something is punished these days, or several things are punished together, children will ignore it and even don't know why they are punished. Therefore, punishment should be timely, that is, after the child is found to have done something wrong, he should be punished in time, pointing out where his mistake is and the consequences he should bear.
Third: the principle of concealment
The traditional education method of "teaching children before teaching others" is out of date, so we must pay attention to the place where children are beaten and punish them to avoid their arrogance in public places and in front of outsiders. Being unfriendly in public will hurt children's self-esteem, and parents will lose face if children contradict in public. Hu Shi's mother is a model of educating children and never hits them in front of others.
In addition, after playing, you should caress and reason, let the children know that mom and dad beat him for his own good; After the child is punished and corrected, parents should affirm the child in words and actions in time, and don't let the child feel neglected and left out. Parents should let the child know that he was punished not because he was a bad boy, not because his parents didn't like him, but because he did something wrong.