1. Educate children to choose the best time. Farmers should pay attention to breeding, and so should educating children. They must choose the best opportunity. The same culture and education have different functions if they have different opportunities. For example, Li Xiuzhi, the host of the film Herdsmen, got a huge salary when her lover made various policies. Their innocent boy said, "Ah, with so much money, I want to be a rightist when I grow up!" " The protagonist of the film seized this opportunity and never let it go. Cultural education children say: "money should be earned by your own hands." What's interesting is flowers, not making one yourself! " Although there are not many words, it shows the elegant quality of self-reliance and diligence of professional women, and at the same time grasps the best "proficiency" in educating children. That kind of "familiarity" can be found anytime and anywhere in people's real life, so we must seize this golden time when educating children.

2. Educating children must pay attention to the close combination of "vigilance" and culture. When the regulations clearly put forward by children and parents produce "top cows", we should take a tortuous approach. Cultural education can only be carried out when he is distracted, plastic arts and properly solved and his mood is stable. For example, you take your child to the children's toy store in a department store for an inspection. Originally, you wanted to broaden his horizons, but he wanted to buy a children's car for 100 yuan. There are two reasons not to buy it for him. One is an old man at home, and the other is that he didn't bring so much money today, but he cried again. He made you sweat all over. When you can't leave the department store, you suddenly thought of a way to divert your attention and said, "Yesterday, I heard your teacher say that the yard you built with building blocks in kindergarten was beautiful, and it was built quickly and accurately." Come, let's see if this kind of building block is the same as your kindergarten. " As soon as he listens, he will definitely fix his eyes on the building blocks. At this moment, the crying stops, and he will follow you to build blocks and choose a new set of blocks. He will go home with you happily. That kind of family education method is a close combination of "wit" and "expressiveness", which requires parents to be good at adopting corresponding family education methods flexibly according to the details.

Parents should learn cold violence when children are provoked. When children have conflicts and fights, their mentality is very unstable. Parents should be cautious, patient and careful! Rational, calm, rational again! For example, two people quarrel and make you reason. Look how angry these people are. You need to learn to put down what you are doing rationally and calmly, and say with a smile, "You two have suggestions, and you have suggestions for me?" This kind of off-guard question shocked both of them, and both of them would say "no" who is the big singer. At this time, you said, "No, eat this iPhone first and then make sense to everyone. No one can talk while eating. It is unsanitary to eat and talk. " After eating the apples, their anger was almost gone. At this time, don't rush to ask them about the quarrel, just ask them how to eat the iPhone. They will definitely say "delicious". You take the opportunity to say, "It's not good to eat peaches alone. You have to help me take out the garbage. " When they finish moving the garbage. Say again, "Did you just fight?" In this case, it is impossible to blame the other party, and you can only be eager to admit your "mistakes."

4. Be strict with children and love them. Many parents fail to grasp "strictness" and "love" and mistakenly regard obedience as "love". Some people think that strict education is "love", while others think that children can do nothing. In fact, this is all one-sided and problematic. To truly "love" children, it is necessary to comprehensively analyze their advantages and disadvantages. Properly and correctly guide them what to do and what not to do, so that they can truly understand: what is good, what is beautiful, what is true, what is false, what is evil and what is ugly. We should not only emphasize their possible defects as soon as possible, but also praise the reality and make abstract comments. We must ensure that kindness is not coquetry, teaching is not coercion, indulgence is not connivance, and strictness is not scolding. Really reflected in children: "Strict and limited, strict love and integration, love and strictness." Don't engage in that kind of cold and hot parenting education. In this way, children will be at a loss and at a loss.