I often feel distressed that I can't find a good way to educate my children. I always feel that other people's children are so obedient and how their parents educate them. I bought a lot of books about parenting education, listened to expert lectures and so on, but it seemed useless. Instead, I feel that the child is becoming more and more disobedient.

Today, I read an article written by Professor Qian Wenzhong. Professor Qian disagrees with what we call happy education today. It is self-evident that he believes that education is bound to be painful. Then we can't give in to our children. "Now our education for children is mostly encouragement. So, what about punishment? Can education be without disciplinary measures? Can you complete education by encouragement alone? " The answer is no, too. Professor Qian believes that today's children can't scold, say or criticize, and can't accept any setbacks. Now the main idea of our education is to constantly accommodate children and give them more fun and time to play. But if the college entrance examination system does not change, our education will not change. The college entrance examination is a baton. The reason why the college entrance examination system cannot be changed is because we can't find a system that is no worse than the college entrance examination system. The college entrance examination system is not the best system, but it is the least bad system.

We all say that it is right to encourage children to be confident, praise him and encourage him to be confident, but we can't go too far. This kind of education for children, in the society, the contrast he faces is enough to destroy him. We should tell our children that this society is cruel and we should be prepared to suffer a lot of grievances. We don't have any control, restraint or bondage to our children, but we just give in to them in the name of love. This kind of education is wrong. We should tell our children that there is a price to pay for mistakes.

After reading Professor Qian Wenzhong's article, I feel that my education method is completely different from my parents'. Because parents are too strict, I don't want children to be too bound and sometimes give in or even indulge. Therefore, children have developed this selfish and irresponsible character. Of course, you can't blindly educate children with traditional educational methods, you must take the essence.