Most people admit that they have an unusual attachment to their parents. And this kind of relationship will subtly occupy our hearts in different ways. With the passage of time and the approach of maturity, our understanding of this attachment has also changed, and we have drawn our own hazy concept from experience. Maybe what we get is a superficial understanding of love. It may first appear in physiological needs, and then form a habitual behavior pattern, which may determine our future personality.
When we are carefully raised by our parents like small animals, we have become a member of the human family. Almost all the characteristics of animals have been preserved, they know nothing about the world, are hungry for food, and need material satisfaction. When I am a little dissatisfied, I feel how much injustice and pain I have suffered, and I am easily agitated. My emotions and spearheads are directly directed at my parents who support me. When food needs are met, he will experience the greatest happiness. During this period, physiological needs constitute the whole world of this little life. The happiness that babies feel from their own bodies may be the initial consciousness of sex. We have experienced that the pleasure of meeting the basic needs of life, such as eating and keeping warm, is very similar to the pleasure of touching the body, and both are the satisfaction and pleasure that the body feels.
We communicate with the outside world every day, even keep in touch, increase our accumulated emotions from the changes of things, form our initial thinking structure, and gradually develop a subtle attachment habit. Just like the two seeds in our hands, there is no special change before planting, but it is easy to distinguish from the shape of flowering and fruiting. Growing to maturity, all the way is demand, and there is abundant and vigorous energy to get happiness and pleasure. It is a series of satisfying desires given by the external environment, while the inner world is an inexplicable impulse. Although the origin of sex has existed in childhood, it is only a subtle reaction brought by contact and touch, because the development process of an attached emotion is completely different from the happiness brought by a relatively stable emotional reason.
People have learned a lot in practice. Because they have felt happiness through physical contact with the outside world, and they have also experienced some elements of love. As a result, desire, happiness, sexiness and inexplicable impulses constantly dominate their hearts, from which they determine a certain component they need, from obtaining simple' satisfaction' to obtaining eternal pleasure, thus feeling the importance of constantly using a certain part, and finally rising to strong emotional exposure. The heart that needs to be satisfied grows day by day, and all kinds of senses are absorbed at the same time. We soon know where our greatest happiness lies and don't want to break away from this habit. At this time, we don't want to hide our yearning. We have seen the simplest and most primitive form of love and the new state of love.
Of course, life will not be so simple forever, and neither will love. Where there is joy, there is pain. The attachment relationship that begins with happiness is due to many factors that presuppose satisfaction. We know that human desire is a bottomless pit and a source of misfortune. When our emotions can't get a really effective response and we find that all good wishes are wishful thinking, we feel that our fiery heart has been hurt, and that restless hunger and thirst will be associated with misfortune. This once dependent relationship will become a look back. But we know that this attachment can't end immediately, and we don't know how many times it has been brewed in our hearts, because the pleasure we once had is still lingering, hoping to reunite with the good one day. But from beginning to end, people don't know where what they need is hidden. It's just an illusion in consciousness, which is hard to find in reality.
Maybe we have realized this. Emotion is an emotional expression of things at any time, which is easy to satisfy and easy to hurt. This is a flammable substance, which is difficult to ponder. When this substance rises to love, there is a relatively stable reason for thinking and a tacit communication with our habitual attachment. We stick to a habit because it can bring us happiness and make us feel comfortable in life. Each of us is looking for happiness, and we all hope to keep some happiness forever. But in fact, we all know that we may not be able to do what we want easily. We are succumbing to a certain habit, radiating our emotions into our behavior, and showing various reasons for our love.
The factors of love are so complicated, the emotions are so simple, and everyone's attachment is so close. When we choose a lover, maybe beauty is our first impression. We fall in love with her and want to marry her. This idea comes from the attachment judgment in childhood to a great extent, without looking at her thoughts and abilities first, because he thinks her appearance is the basis of his happiness, and he can fantasize about her. Although this logic was constantly subverted by later people, there are still many people who follow this path. Perhaps this is the most real and effective feeling, and everyone is happy for it.