The chapter on positive education says: The blueprint of children's happy life, the starting point of children's life, starts with positive education and cultivates character strengths. To cultivate excellent character strengths, parents should have positive psychology, that is, parents should be better themselves. Parents should be sunny, positive and optimistic in words, focused, serious and responsible in their work, satisfied and happy with their own lives, so that children can see and feel these States from their parents before they go to their parents.
Emotional power is about guiding children to manage their emotions. Speaking of emotions, do we know their emotions? In fact, behind every emotion, there is a small point that we need to see. When we see it, we will say it, or accept it and understand it, and it will gradually decrease or disappear. This is my own summary. The author divides the factors behind emotions into three types from the psychological defense mechanism: immaturity, neutrality and maturity. Immature is depression, denial, fantasy, behavior retrogression and venting; Neutrality means transfer, inhibition, reverse behavior expression, projection and rationalization; Maturity is a public welfare behavior of separation, compensation, sublimation, humor and altruism. When I compare myself, there are immature and mature ones. I appreciate reading. Let me verify myself step by step, find myself and correct my mistakes. When we treat our emotions correctly, we will face them, deal with them, treat our children equally, guide them to face up to their emotions and teach them to express them. For example, if mom just saw you fall, it was painful and sad. If mom fell, let's watch our step next time. If the mother correctly expresses the child's emotions and helps him find a solution to the problem, then the child will have a good mood.
Resilience allows parents to learn to give their children a shot in the arm and cultivate their resilience. Let children feel life by themselves, give them space, and give them all-round emotional, cognitive and thinking support when they encounter difficulties. Only in this way can children feel safe, confident and confident to face the world.
Self-efficacy is to help children establish a "I can do it" attitude towards life. Self-efficacy cognition is very important. A child with high self-efficacy will be more positive and optimistic when facing difficulties, and willing to learn from failure. Therefore, we should reward and appreciate children correctly, and pay more attention to the process of doing things when evaluating children. Finally, allow children to make mistakes and encourage them to grow up from failure. In fact, mistakes and failures are opportunities to help children learn and grow. Therefore, we encourage children to try more and constantly break the limitations of thinking, so as to find new opportunities. This is also to cultivate children's growth thinking.
Summary: First, parents should have a positive attitude; Second, parents should not only know their emotions, but also learn to help their children know their emotions and get along with them, instead of being led by emotions; Third, encourage children to do things, even if they fail, it doesn't matter, so that children can think and act positively again and develop growth-oriented thinking. Come to think of it, every step is related. In the final analysis, parents should take the lead. The power of example is crucial. If parents do well, their children will certainly form a positive character.