Text/Lu Xu

A reader named Zhou Yu (a pseudonym) told me that she had been dating her boyfriend for two years and met her parents. Just because of economic problems, we haven't talked about getting married yet.

Recently, however, Zhou Yu was very upset, because her boyfriend offered to live with her several times, but she felt that a girl's first night was very important, and premarital sex was not advocated by her family education and moral values, so Zhou Yu refused, saying that she could only live together after marriage and give him the best as long as she got married.

At first, my boyfriend said it didn't matter, but the more times he refused, the more unhappy he became, because his friends laughed at him, thought he was incompetent, even couldn't handle his girlfriend, and even doubted whether he was impotent or not, which made him lose face and face.

But Zhou Yu also insisted on his own idea, saying that if two people really love each other, they should not listen to those gossips, otherwise there will be more gossips after marriage. What should they do? And soon after she started dating, Zhou Yu hinted that she didn't agree to live together before marriage. At that time, her boyfriend also agreed, saying it was acceptable and respected her idea.

But now my boyfriend says that he is a normal man with worldly desires, but he can't live together with a girlfriend, so why make a girlfriend himself? If Zhou Yu always insists on his own ideas, then he can only choose to break up. He said that people nowadays like to get married late for various reasons. Because they got married in 1956 or 1978, is it necessary for him to remain a "monk"? Monks are not as hard as he is.

Zhou Yu thinks that what her boyfriend said is not unreasonable, but it is also her bottom line to abide by not having sex before marriage. She really loves her boyfriend and is afraid of losing him. Now she doesn't know what to do.

Now it is an open society and an inclusive society. This kind of thing really has nothing to do with who is right or wrong. The demands of both sides are reasonable and worthy of respect. It's really hard to judge.

Readers, can you give Zhou Yu any good advice? Please leave a message below, I will tell the protagonist Zhou Yu, and thank you for this!