First of all, in the "happy education" mentioned in this book, family education accounts for a large proportion (60%-70%), and Spencer's success in "happy education" for his nephew is largely due to Spencer himself as an excellent educator with self-education significance. He provided a very good atmosphere for young Spencer to grow up (that is, a good family education), so young Spencer finally succeeded.
China's national conditions are that the people at the bottom and the rich are busy with work and have no time to estimate their children's growth. In the middle part of the family, it is rare to rely entirely on parents to educate their children, and most of them are educated by the elderly and their parents together. One of the big problems is that it is inevitable for the elderly to dote on their children, while parents are relatively strict with their children, which leads children to be more willing to be with the elderly than with their parents.
Secondly, the real happiness education refers to "learning what you are interested in will make children feel happy, and happy learning will help improve learning efficiency", which guides us to cultivate children's interest in learning.
However, many parents in China (whether advocating or opposing happy education) have many misunderstandings about happy education. Common ones are:
1, "happy education" means "play"
In order to give their children a happy childhood, many parents never let their children go to remedial classes and let them play as they want. Euphemism is, "childhood is only once, stick to happy education and release your nature!" "
And such parents often begin to regret after the third and fourth grades, and feel that they have been taken in by "happy education".
It is true that Spencer's "happy education" cannot be separated from games, but how to play it? It is mentioned in Weibo (3) and (4) of QE official WeChat "Happy Education" series.
2 "Happy education" is approximately equal to "escaping education"
Some people think that human nature is "pursuing happiness and avoiding pain". With the development of the city and the increase of life pressure, people pay more and more attention to "happy education" to escape the pressure, so "happy education" is about equal to "escape education".
If Spencer sees such remarks, he will jump out of the cemetery with anger! Anyone who has carefully read Spencer's Happy Education will not equate "happy education" with "avoiding education"
3 "Happy Education" can always be happy.
Interest in learning is actually a very unstable factor. With the disappearance of novelty, this "happy" mood will gradually disappear, and learning will become a particularly boring thing at this time.
4. Go to school as long as you are interested.
This is a mistake that many parents make in kindergarten and primary school. They think that as long as children are interested, no matter how much they spend, they should let them learn and put their interests first.
But as Xiao Yi said before, interest in learning is a very unstable factor, and children's so-called interest is probably just a temporary curiosity.
Learn what? What is the purpose of learning? How long will it take? How to study ... this requires parents to think carefully before making a decision.
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