1. Correctly understanding mistakes means opportunities rather than failures. Beating and criticizing will only make children turn their attention to how to bear and avoid punishment and blame, while parents' understanding, support and help can make children feel forgiven and relaxed, let them focus on their mistakes and learn how to solve problems.
Consciously using a sense of humor can not only cultivate children's respectful, caring and relaxed attitude towards life, but also laughter is the most effective medicine, which can help us relieve stress and is an indispensable factor in establishing heart-to-heart contact.
3 The sense of ceremony makes children believe that they are good enough.
4 often use hugs, kisses, holding hands, holding shoulders, etc. Make physical contact with your child and experience the heart-to-heart connection between you and your child.
Don't let your working day mood ruin your children. Put away the irritability of the working day and be patient and understand every seemingly unreasonable behavior of the child.
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After reading Positive Discipline and 52 Positive Discipline Tools in the Family, I reflected on my problems in educating children and students and seemed to find some practical methods.
First, learn to control your emotions.
Kong Ziyun: "Don't be angry, don't be angry", isn't it telling us not to bring our bad emotions to others? In real life, when we are upset and depressed, can we still deal with problems calmly? Our teachers, in particular, are tired of the trivial work at school. If you face another Xiong Haizi at home, can you solve the problem in the right way? When you have a conflict with your lover, can you turn around and whisper to your child? I'm afraid it's hard for us to do all this. This is what we should learn-to control our emotions. Don't let children become my innocent punching bag. We should learn to let go and accept our imperfect selves. Not everything should be perfect, as long as we try our best and don't be too hard on ourselves. Just like the final exam results, the school always ranks teachers, and the rankings must be in order. As long as we try our best, we will be worthy of our conscience and our children. Don't worry about ranking, and don't affect your family and children because you are in a bad mood. Of course, the best gift parents can give their children is to love each other. Only in this way can children feel warmth and happiness at home. If there is a real conflict, avoid talking to the children alone and don't quarrel in front of them. If you really can't control quarreling in front of your children, you should make up in front of them. In short, it is important to learn to control your emotions.
Secondly, we should master the methods of praise and encouragement.
Encouraging children can help them enhance their self-confidence. Let's not simply say "You are great!" "You are so smart!" Instead, we should sincerely discover the advantages of children and give specific encouragement. For example, to praise a child's neat homework, you can say, "Your handwriting is correct and the size is just right. Great! " For example, to praise a child for being sensible, you can say, "It's nice to close the door gently and talk quietly when dad takes a nap!"
Also, in the face of a wronged crying child, he didn't make sense and reprimanded him to shut up, but spoke his feelings from the standpoint of the child. For example, in the supermarket, he wants to buy his favorite toys, and you don't think it's appropriate to buy them. If he is not satisfied, he will cry. Then he would hug her or hold his hand and say, "Mom knows you are sad. Do you really want that toy? " Mom understands how you feel. But that toy ... "When he hears you tell his feelings and his emotions are satisfied, he will listen to the reasons behind you.
Of course, educating children is really a university question. Let us parents continue to practice on the road of parenting! Read and study, integrate theory with practice, grow up with children and make progress together!