1, set an example
Example is an important way to influence and educate children with other people's good thoughts and behaviors. For example, classmates, neighbors, teachers, heroes and model figures, positive figures in literary and artistic works, and excellent qualities of revolutionary leaders are all objects for children to learn and imitate. No matter what parents say or do is right or wrong, it has a profound influence on children. Therefore, parents should always show themselves everywhere in their daily lives.
2. Environmental influence
Parents should consciously create a good living environment for their children to be infected and edified. Family is the main place where children live. Parents should organize their own lives, handle the relationship between members, adhere to the correct moral behavior as the criterion, form a United and harmonious family atmosphere, establish an orderly life order, and cultivate children's beautiful sentiments.
3. Moderate criticism and punishment
Criticism and punishment are the negation of children's bad thoughts and behaviors, but the latter is an educational means for serious bad thoughts and behaviors. When criticizing and punishing, we should first fully understand the situation, grasp the specific situation and severity of bad thoughts and behaviors, and proceed from the wrong reality. Criticism means pointing out the harm and ideological roots, denying their thoughts and behaviors, making them feel ashamed and miserable, and then generating the motivation to correct their mistakes.
When criticizing, don't be sarcastic, sarcastic or abusive. Punishment is mainly deprivation of certain rights, not corporal punishment, not insulting personality and destroying body and mind.
4, guide the arrangement of life order
A good life order is an effective way to cultivate children's good habits. Guide children to arrange their daily lives, arrange their living environment, and teach them to study and use their time in an orderly way. Let the children make their own arrangements, and parents can give directions.
5. Persuasion education
Specific methods of persuasion education:
First, talk about. Parents should put facts and reason according to their children's thoughts, so that children can understand certain truth. Speak with pertinence and flexibility, and have a pleasant attitude. Don't keep a straight face, condescending and sarcastic.
The second is discussion, where parents and children discuss together. When discussing, we should respect children, listen to their opinions patiently, have incorrect opinions, reason patiently, and let children distinguish right from wrong. Parents should have the courage to admit that their views are incorrect.
6, the actual exercise
The content of practical exercise is quite extensive, such as adapting to the surrounding environment, exercising, taking care of yourself, housework, working independently, being polite, socializing and so on. To carry out actual exercise, we should first let the children know the purpose (why), put forward specific requirements (how to do it), and encourage them to overcome difficulties and stick to it.
The content of exercises should be suitable for children's age characteristics and personality characteristics, and the tasks and requirements given should be based on children's actual ability and appropriate. Children should be allowed to make mistakes in practice and not be too demanding. Parents can't stop exercising because they are afraid of their children suffering.
7. Praise and reward
Praise and reward is to affirm and praise children's thoughts and behaviors. Through affirmation and praise, strengthen children's enterprising spirit and sense of honor, and strive for greater progress. Praise and reward should be realistic, timely and explain the reasons, and should be based on spiritual rewards, supplemented by material rewards.
8. Lead children out to contact the society.
Take children to parks, scenic spots, shops, factories, and rural areas, or visit classmates, relatives, and friends for social interaction, so that they can broaden their horizons, get in touch with society, and get to know society.