Successful cases of education 1:
When I started my school in Taiping Road Middle School in Haidian, Beijing in 2005, my second nephew Zhu was still a junior one student. Due to the decline in academic performance, he didn't dare to take the exam until the second semester of junior high school and went to school to study classics. In a year and a half, he recited the four books and the Book of Changes, went back to his hometown in Henan to attend high school, and was admitted to Dalian Ocean University on 20 10.
Education success case 2:
Cultivate the awareness of rules from the time children go out to play.
Parents should make a rule with their children in this matter.
For example, in primary school, when you go out to attend class reunion and other activities, your parents must pick you up at any time; Junior high school can only participate in activities at lunch and tea time, and must go home at dinner time; In high school, the time limit can be relaxed and you can come back before 9 pm. After entering the university, children become adults and are no longer restricted by these rules.
When you communicate this matter with your child, he will feel that it is a very fair thing. This not only established his sense of rules, but also made him? Look ahead? Understand and look to the future. There is a lot of learning to draw this box well. Here, it is very important to give parents a suggestion: once you observe your child's hobbies, don't directly suppress them even if you don't agree with them. Because, maybe the final result will surprise you!
My daughter loves to dress up since she was a child. She can stay alone in front of the mirror for a long time. When she had only tens of dollars of pocket money a month, she began to buy expensive fashion magazines. Maybe conservative parents will suppress this hobby, but we chose not to interfere.
As a result, I was particularly moved that in the year when she went abroad to study, she gave me 30 sets of clothes, from coats to scarves to bags. Each set was posed on the bed and photographed, and finally printed and posted on my closet door. She wants her mother to sleep a little longer every morning, without worrying about the matching of clothes, and she can guarantee that she will not dress again for a month. Now my daughter is probably the most fashionable among schoolmasters and the best among fashionable girls.
Education success story 3:
Contradiction may be a good opportunity for communication.
One summer vacation, my daughter went to an internship in a foreign-funded pharmaceutical company. At the end of the internship, the company wants to invite her back to open an internship forum. My daughter said that the company was too far away from home to go, but she felt that the company was good to herself. She didn't know how to refuse and began to sulk at home.
Ordinary parents will definitely find their children's performance inexplicable. However, you should try to see the essence through the phenomenon. After analysis, in fact, she wants to go, but she is a competitive person. She thinks that other interns are college students and will perform better than her, so she is worried.
I found her psychology, I didn't find it directly, I just gave her an idea. I might as well make a video to express my thoughts. On the one hand, it can be modified continuously during recording, and at the same time it shows courtesy and respect. As a result, after receiving this video, the company wrote her a long letter to express her gratitude, and she was very happy.
Therefore, in the event of conflict, parents should see the root of their children's troubles, but not find them, but help them find ways together. This is a key in parent-child interaction. But only if you know your children!
Education success story 4:
The essence of traditional family education in China is to teach children to be human beings. China's family rules, family training, and family model of family education in past dynasties all focused on educating children to be human beings. Historically, loving fathers and loving mothers have been praised by the world for teaching their children to be human.
In the mid-Northern Song Dynasty, Bao Zheng paid special attention to moral education for future generations in view of social corruption at that time. In his later years, please ask masons to set up family instructions? Future generations, officials, are not allowed to belong to their own families when committing crimes. After they die, they are not allowed to be buried in a big house, not to obey my will, and not to be my son's grandson. ? Carved on the monument, the monument will be erected on the east wall of the hall for future generations to observe and strictly abide by.
In his later years, Emperor Taizong had a premonition that he was running out of time, so he conscientiously summed up the ruling experience of various dynasties in history, especially the Sui Dynasty, and made Twelve Articles of Fan, which was passed on to Prince Li Zhi. He said to Li Zhi:? The method of self-cultivation and the way of governing the country are all said in this book, and I don't need to say other last words. ? Taizong also warned:? Building a country is difficult to succeed, but easy to destroy; It is more difficult to keep a stable throne, but it is easy to lose it. You must cherish it and be careful! ?
The ancients not only regarded Lide as the focus of family education, but also required their children to have the spirit of self-reliance and self-improvement. Wang Dan, the prime minister of the Northern Song Dynasty, never gave up farmland and houses all his life, saying: Children and grandchildren should strive for self-improvement, why land and houses are needed, and the struggle for money is unjust! ? Guan Banqiao, a painter in Qing Dynasty, had a son at the age of 52, but he was strict with his son. Put forward? First, be reasonable and be a good person? Principles of family education. Before he died, he left his son a suicide note: dripping his own sweat, eating his own food, doing his own thing, relying on the sky, the ground and the ancestors, not a hero. ?
Plato, a famous educator and philosopher in ancient Greece, famously said: Where a person is guided by his education since childhood, he can decide where he will go in the future. ? He advocates educating teenagers through stories, poems, plays, history, speeches and technical music. Cultivate the soul? . He thinks that the content of stories and poems should cultivate teenagers? Gentle and brave? Can it be developed? The virtue of self-discipline? . 17th century British thinker John? Locke (1632? 1704) Advocacy for teenagers? Gentleman education? He attaches great importance to moral education. He said:? I think among all the qualities of a gentleman, virtue is the first and the most indispensable. ? As can be seen from the quotations, family education at all times and in all countries focuses on educating children to be human beings, which is also one of the most important experiences of successful family education.
Education success story 5:
When my daughter was 8 years old, I asked her to manage a sum of 6000 yuan? Huge sum?
Every new year, children will receive a lot of lucky money. When the daughter has no concept of money, she will already vaguely feel that it seems uneconomical to give all the money to her mother, but it is impossible to keep it all for herself.
What our family made was that when she was 3 years old, we made a hand-painted family passbook together. After she received the money, she saved it one by one. We will tell her that if the money is not spent for a while, it will generate interest. So, she is right? Interest? Formed a shallow concept. A relative gave her some foreign currency, so we went online with her to see how much RMB the money could be exchanged for. Exchange rate? Tell her this concept.
Then we will guide her, since these are all your money, you have the right to control it, but you need to discuss with your parents where to spend it.
When she was 8 years old, I tried to get her to manage 6000 yuan? A large sum of money for our mother and daughter to travel to Beijing. At first, she felt that she was a millionaire. But she looked up a circle of information on the internet and came to tell me that we were going on a poor trip.
She analyzed that if we had a simple lunch in one day, we could take a taxi. If you want a good meal, you must take the subway. She will also tell me which scenic spot to go after four o'clock in the afternoon, because the tickets will be half price.
When she went abroad to study in junior high school, we also made an annual plan with her. The monthly pocket money can be adjusted and controlled by yourself. In addition, we have set up some special funds, such as special tourism projects. Some special projects have no names. She can decide where to spend them, but she must apply to her parents in advance.
Now that she is about to enter the university, we have also agreed on a plan together. According to the financial analysis list provided by the school website, we take the average of each expenditure item and calculate the total amount for her, but the specific distribution can be decided by her.
As you can see, with the growth of age, this box is slowly expanding. We not only gave her free space, but also guided her.
Education success story 6:
When my son Yuan Yifan studied classics in 2005, he was a pupil of 1 1 year old. In the spring of 2008, I went back to the city to study in the second semester of the second grade, and studied at No.206 Middle School in Haidian District. While reading the Bible, he only taught himself a little math in the sixth grade and junior high school. He didn't study any other school courses, nor did he enroll in extracurricular classes or do any homework. During my study in No.206 Middle School, from the first semester down, my grades were in the top 30, the second semester ended, the top 18, and the third semester ended. He was admitted to Beijing No.4 Middle School and became the first student admitted to Beijing No.4 Middle School in the 30 years since the establishment of No.206 Middle School. His headmaster was very excited. Reading classics not only did not weaken his interest in scientific research, but also protected and enhanced his interest in science, especially in biology. When he was admitted to the university, he only applied to the Agricultural College, regardless of other universities. 20 12 was admitted to China Agricultural University, and now he is a sophomore majoring in plant planting in Agricultural College.
Education success story 7:
Zhu Ruiqi, my nephew. In 2005, 12 years old. He doesn't like math and English. He studied classical literature at school for seven years. He not only recited four books and five classics, but also recited beautiful poems of past dynasties and medical classics such as Treatise on Febrile Diseases. In 2065, 438+03 became a soldier. Compared with his comrades in arms, he is the most educated soldier in the army.
My parents often call me to ask me about reading the Bible. The most frequently asked question is the fear that reading famous books will delay school study. My practical experience is that reading famous books will not only delay your academic performance in regular schools, but also promote your study and make you feel better than you think. Let children read books and read the best books. What is the best book? Those books with thousands of years of history are good books. A classic is better than a thousand miscellaneous books! Don't hesitate, don't wait and see, and entrust yourself and your children to the sages. Exactly!
Education success story 8: