Children take money to steal money because their self-control ability is insufficient at this age, but their desires are much more than before. They want a lot of things, all kinds of temptations, longings and desires, which are not abnormal. It is true that people want to eat and drink something good when they are born. And stole money from my parents, which has not been solved so far.
Parents should not go online easily and rise to the moral level. Children who steal money should not be punished by simple and rude beatings. Children are still young and psychologically fragile, so they think they are thieves, not good people, and form a traumatic experience. If the education parents give their children is normal, their psychological development is normal, even if these "bad behaviors" are not discovered by their parents, they will heal themselves.
When children are found stealing money, parents can take appropriate measures to help them get rid of bad habits.
Ask the reason first, and then conduct classification guidance.
The most important thing for us as parents is to calm down, create a harmonious communication environment with our children, and let them tell the reasons why they take money privately (don't use the word "steal" easily in this process and in our daily life). Generally speaking, children only take money to buy snacks, toys, play games and surf the Internet. Some are reasonable, some are unreasonable.
If they are just and reasonable needs, then it is necessary to explain to children that these needs are reasonable and natural for children. If you can ask your parents for advice, they will certainly satisfy you. However, the way you take money today is unreasonable and unwise, so you turn reasonable demand into unreasonable behavior, which makes mom and dad very unhappy.
If it is an unreasonable request, it must not satisfy him, but we can discuss it, patiently explain the reasons to the child, and educate him to restrain himself. At this time, it is necessary to guide and guide children with calm and convincing psychology and behavior.
No matter what the child's reason is, whether it is stealing or not, it is not good to take other people's things without authorization. Don't criticize children when they admit their mistakes instead of covering them up. You have to tell him: although you made a mistake, you admit it on your own initiative, which makes your mother (father) very happy.
Second, give children pocket money appropriately.
Reflect on whether you have given him some pocket money at ordinary times; Whether to give it once a week or once a month; Have you explained the use and arrangement of this money to the children?
For example: for example, children's school supplies are prepared by parents at one time every semester, and children are rarely in short supply. What does this practice deprive? That is the happiness of shopping and the happiness of choice.
Mothers all have the experience of shopping for clothes. Even if you are a master who is not short of money, the happiness of buying clothes does not lie in returning with a full load. Choose from different styles of shops and try them on from time to time. You don't have to buy it in the end, but with this process, you will be very satisfied on your way home.
Therefore, the experience of consumption, for children, is by no means as simple as buying a pen, a notebook, a pack of spicy strips and a small toy. This is an important process for children to experience self-exploration and self-management.
Therefore, give your child some pocket money every month, and after roughly determining what you may need to buy at ordinary times, let your child control it freely and don't be too harsh. Cultivating children's financial management ability at ordinary times will also help children deal with their own desires.
The "mistakes" made by children are actually a reminder to parents that we don't know enough about children and some education has not been done.