I remember when Dandan was reading the picture book, he also asked me: Mom, what does it mean to be dead? I hesitated and didn't know how to give her a satisfactory answer. Old Tao was afraid that Sister Egg was afraid, so he told her: When people die, they become stars in the sky. Sister Egg immediately replied: I want to be a star, too.

The child's answer is naturally naive. But I thought, why do we always like to beautify death? Perhaps, as the Tibetan Life and Death Book says, we are a nation that is not prepared for death.

We are always afraid to talk about death, so we are used to beautifying it. As we all know, death education is an indispensable lesson for children. Only by facing death correctly can we know how to cherish life.

Since the epidemic has not dispersed, let's take this opportunity today to talk about the topic of "death".

As mentioned above, I have never found a good explanation for my death. I didn't understand my logical mistakes until I saw an animated film. That is, teaching TA how to face death is more important than telling children what death is. This animated film is the Dream Journey, which ranked first in many people's tears list some time ago.

The story background of the film is the traditional Mexican festival "Day of the Dead". Mig, a child obsessed with music, refused to listen to his family. He entered the world of the dead by mistake and met his great-grandfather Ekto.

In the kingdom of death, only with the blessing of your family can you "come back to life". If the last person who remembers you dies, your soul will disappear. MiG's great-grandfather was misunderstood by his family and abandoned his home to pursue music, instead of being worshipped and in danger of being destroyed.

In the land of the dead, after witnessing the disappearance of many dead people, MiG realized that the most terrible thing was not to leave and die, but to be forgotten by the people he loved.

This is also the biggest shock that this movie brought to me. Some people say that a person will die three times in his life:

For the first time, your heart stopped and you were biologically declared dead; The second time, the funeral was held, and people announced that you no longer existed in society; The third time is the last person who remembers you and forgets you. From then on, the whole universe is no longer related to you, and this is the ultimate death. We always say that being remembered for being exists, but actually being remembered is already the meaning of being.

At the end of the film, MiG sang a song written by his great-grandfather, which evoked grandma's memories. So now, whenever I go to Tomb-Sweeping Day, I will take my balls back to visit the grave, or show her photos of my deceased relatives. When she asks "Mom, will you die", I will tell her: "Mom will live for a long time until you grow up. Even if your mother dies, you still have many relatives who will take care of you and everyone will love you very much. "

Or: "Don't worry, your body contains half your father's genes and half your mother's genes. So mom and dad will always be with you. "

As Zhang Ailing said: My ancestors lay in my veins, seeing the world with my eyes, walking with my steps, thinking with my mind, and living with my life again. This is the secret that death is not the end.

Knowing that "death is not the end", how to teach children to face death? The Journey of the Dream Ring has another hidden meaning. One of the most important reasons why MiG, the hero, strayed into the land of the dead is his persistent pursuit of musical achievements. He thinks that family is the biggest obstacle to his music dream.

It was not until he met his great-grandfather, who was down and out, that he realized that having no relatives in the distance was more terrible than doing nothing all his life.

There is such a true story. A mother participated in the "death experience activity" held by the children's school, that is, lying in a coffin to experience the funeral. The moment the coffin was closed, the child collapsed and cried, crying and calling her back. And she herself, in the dark and narrow coffin, understood the value of living. People always know how to cherish life after seeing death, just like MIG who accidentally bumped into the spiritual world. Therefore, we should not only tell our children what death is, but also tell them to cherish the present and be kind to life.

Sister Egg once raised two small goldfish, and the goldfish died unfortunately a few days later. Sister Egg asked me: Mom, can goldfish survive? I'm about to lose my goldfish, and I think it's a good educational opportunity.

She suggested burying goldfish in a flowerpot with her, and then sowing seeds in the flowerpot. I told Sister Egg that the goldfish died. Although it can't swim around, we can bury it and miss it. It will also protect your flowers here and make your flowers more beautiful and more beautiful.

From then on, every time Sister Egg saw some dead bugs, she would solemnly say goodbye to them and then carefully bury them. Because she knows that any life has its own value.

The education about death is actually the education of life. Knowing that death can bring a better life. In fact, whether for children or adults, death is something that needs to be learned all the time. When talking about death, my girlfriend, who just turned 30, said this: "When a close person dies, that kind of pain cannot be cured with age. But you have to accept this incurable, because only when you think about it will you feel sad, and you can prove that they are still living in our memories. "

Emotion is a very private matter. Therefore, when children are in a bad mood when facing death, as parents, they must communicate in time and ask their children's thoughts and feelings.

In addition, you can also read some picture books with your children, such as Grandpa Becomes a Ghost, The Cat Who Lived a Million Times, A Fallen Leaf, etc.

With the help of interesting stories and correct education on death, I believe that children can have a correct and objective understanding of death.

Children aged 0-4 have no clear concept of "death" and can't tell the difference between death and separation.

They are more anxious because of the separation of space.

Therefore, it is not recommended to take the initiative to talk to children about the topic of "death" unless the children take the initiative to ask.

Parents should make more efforts to create a safe environment for their children and help them build a sense of security.

Finally, don't forget to give me a "like", give me an encouragement, and cheer for yourself and your baby on the road together ~