I read the "secret" of a farmer's godson in the newspaper. A father who didn't go to school as a child took his children to study. Every day, when children come home from school, they tell their father what they have learned. Then both father and son began to do their homework. If there are any questions, they will ask the teacher. Look at those children whose fathers study so hard. They are also students and teachers. They are even more energetic, and their academic performance is always the first in the class and the first in the grade. Both children have been admitted to key universities, and their father has become a knowledgeable and literate person. This multi-objective method of educating children is really good, and it is many times wiser than those parents who accompany their children. The father set an example for his children with his own practical actions and formed a good learning atmosphere at home. Parents who scold their children for playing mahjong and poker all day long don't know what they think. Teachers also praised the lesson plans and recommended them to parents. Do you feel refreshed? There is also a commendable educational method: there is a rich couple who pretend to be poor for more than ten years to purify their children's hearts. Only in her daughter's reward promise on the eve of the college entrance examination did she reveal her wealth. As a result, her parents tried their best not to be understood by their daughters, and they also blamed their parents for not trusting themselves and even doubting their feelings for themselves. This kind of education method, which is common in foreign countries, is beyond the understanding of a high school student with excellent academic performance in China. Isn't it incredible?
All kinds of family education programs are rolling in. Faced with attractive advertising language, parents who want their children to succeed have no choice. I think the child prodigy training program is actually a predatory development of children's intelligence, and it will only be a tragedy encouraged by romance. You can't take those unrealistic practices as a panacea to experiment on children. Borrow this educational method today and apply the successful experience tomorrow. For example, beef and mutton with delicious taste and low fat content win the favor of most people, or some people want to vomit when they smell it. Seafood is a nutritious and delicious food. Many people can only listen to its name, but they have never even seen it. Similarly, some people don't even want to move chopsticks because the taste is too strong. Even so, the methods of family education vary from person to person. According to my observation, thinking and practical experience accumulated in education, teaching and family education, the key for children to achieve good academic performance is to cultivate good study habits, so that children can calm down and study, be diligent in thinking, ask questions if they don't understand, be good at doing things, and treat their studies seriously and practically. Feel fun in the process of learning, thus stimulating interest in learning. Playing football is such a cruel struggle that Milu will call it happy football. The purpose is to stimulate players' interest, and the phrase "interest is the best teacher" will never be out of date.
The colorful modern society makes it hard for adults to resist the temptation, let alone children with poor self-control. Delicious snacks, toys in children's amusement parks, exciting video games, online games ... it is impossible to shut these things out. A vacuum can only be created in the laboratory. The child's curiosity itself is very strong, and the more forbidden it is, the more it can stimulate his curiosity. Children still have to contact, but there is a limit, so that he can understand that there are too many things to do in a person's life. That's how I treat children. My son entered the video game room and Internet cafe, and someone told me that I don't want to make a fuss, and I don't want to go to that place that upset countless parents. But wait patiently for him to go home and say calmly, let him know that there is a limit to everything. It is not surprising to play in the spare time of study. It is not worth the loss to play with things and neglect your studies. He said yes, but he went to play secretly. Especially when I was a freshman, I got mixed up with a computer game fan and cheated me. Until one day, that classmate's father, also his son's teacher, caught them in an internet cafe. My son has never experienced such a shameful thing in public. He is ashamed. I came home depressed and told the story. I didn't blame him, but took this opportunity to have a long talk with my son. My son has remembered this lesson and will never enter the Internet cafe again. In the most intense senior three, I advised him several times to put down his books and play. He said that he only wanted the college entrance examination, and he would have plenty of time to play in the future.
Your son is very good and can't sit back and relax. Everyone thinks that children will become more and more sensible when they grow up. Actually, it's just the opposite. The older a child is, the more difficult it is to adjust, and the more educational problems parents face. The better the family's financial situation, the easier it is for children to degenerate. This huge contrast in age, economic situation and academic performance is puzzling. I think it is normal. With the growth of children's age and the expansion of their activities, more and more people come into contact with them, and their thoughts are no longer simple. Thought is the guide of all actions. I don't know if it's a rule or a coincidence. Every child is naughty sometimes, but at different times, he does different things. Parents and teachers are needed to educate and guide children to the right path. Parents should set an example instead of teaching by example. Children are the burden of parents and the happy baby of the family. I often see some parents telling their children about mathematics, physical phenomena and chemical reactions. The scene is enviable. If you insist on communicating with your children for a long time, are you worried that your children will hate learning and that there will be a generation gap between the two generations?
Family education should focus on the big picture and start small. The big goal is to make children have love, understand etiquette, be honest and filial. These enduring moral qualities will not be overwhelmed by the rolling commercial tide. A person who is polite, honest and trustworthy, respects the old and loves the young, and is eager to learn and make progress will be liked whenever and wherever he appears. For a cultured person, all the doors will be open; A decent, modest, friendly and helpful person will be unimpeded on the road to success. Starting from an early age is to let children start from small things and experience the joy of life in the process of doing things. There is such a mother who goes to the living room to watch TV after dinner every day and asks her five-year-old daughter to clean up the dishes and chopsticks. She only uses verbal praise to affirm her daughter's achievements, and her daughter is very busy. Cleaning, my daughter is working with a small mop on her back, so tired that she is sweating and doesn't feel bad. After washing her face and feet every night, her daughter is responsible for washing the socks of a family of three and drying them before going to bed. Children like to play with water and are very active. Unlike adults, they regard these things as hard work, but as interesting play. They are always busy and happy, and someone comes to visit them and praise them, which is happier than eating KFC. In other people's homes, little girls will also find something to do and always get praise. People who can work since childhood can only love life and create a better life with their own hands when they grow up.
In short, family education can't follow others. It should be different from person to person, and educate children in their own way. However, the starting point of education is the children themselves, and they will accept and like it. Forcing parents' wishes on their children will only be counterproductive. You haven't heard the old saying that "one mother raises nine children, and nine children are not like mothers"? There are differences between children with exactly the same genetics and family environment.
Children living in different families are more different. Walking in Handan not only harms yourself, but also harms the children. Parents educate their children like gardeners who cultivate bonsai. Only by carefully designing and making trees and stones according to their own characteristics can they cultivate artistic handicrafts.