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How to educate children who often lie?
No child is born to lie, and no child is born to lie. This should be our education problem in the process of children's growth. If the child lies for the first time, parents can correct it in time after discovering it. I believe there will be no follow-up problems. Everyone will make mistakes, and will feel annoyed and regretful as soon as they find the problem. If they don't have to bear too much responsibility and have no huge consequences, as long as they actively seek solutions, everyone will face it calmly and will not have a great psychological burden. However, if the consequences are serious or beyond their capacity, people will not be calm and feel great pressure. However, after all, adults' thinking ability is mature, and after active efforts, they will always find a solution.

But children can't. His thinking and cognitive abilities are still very limited. When encountering difficulties, he will panic, be afraid and be at a loss. What he thinks is the teacher's criticism, the classmates' ridicule, the parents' reprimand, and even a "slap". And "fear" is infinitely magnified in this panic, which leads to lies. The child lied for the first time. If the parents didn't find out in time, the child successfully "evaded" the responsibility. He was as simple as discovering the new continent. He can get away with punishment by talking casually and finding a reason casually, and he may still be a little "secretly happy" in his heart. In this case, next time, he will try again until he succeeds. He will cover up, escape and cover up with one lie after another, and over time, the habit will be formed. Therefore, I think that children's lying is not formed overnight. It is because of parents' carelessness and neglect that they miss the opportunity to educate their children again and again.

Of course, there are also some parents who think that their children are too young and ignorant to grow up, even if they are found to be lying. This situation is extremely rare. As responsible parents, they all hope that their children will return to honesty and kindness as soon as possible. Ok, let's analyze it and see where the problem lies. In life, we adults also make mistakes, and it is inevitable to make mistakes at work. The important thing is that we will always find a solution to the problem. Why don't children dare to tell us when they make mistakes? Is he worried about mom and dad's reprimand and slapping? So this is the cause of the problem. It is precisely because parents are too strict and restrained that they are eager to make their children succeed. You don't allow children to make mistakes. In this "high-pressure situation", can children not be afraid? The communication channel was blocked in this way. After all, "slap" and "fist" are real!

Therefore, I think that in the education of children, parents should first conduct self-examination and make corrections. We can make rules for children, tell them to do what they can, and let them know that rules are used to restrain bad behavior, and those who violate them will be punished, and the purpose of punishment is not to make mistakes next time; Making mistakes is not terrible. What is important is how to analyze the problems, find out the reasons and sum up the lessons, so as to avoid risks and prevent making mistakes next time. The same is true of learning. If the test results are not satisfactory, parents can help their children analyze them. Which knowledge point have you not learned? What is not clear about the problem? Or because the writing is not standardized ... This is actually to help children "check for leaks and fill gaps" and find problems, so they have to "fill gaps".

If it's a writing problem, tell your child not to panic when writing homework, and let him practice writing on Sunday. If you are not careful enough, you should cultivate the habit of being careful at ordinary times, and mark the key points with a pen to remind yourself when reading the topic; If a knowledge point has not been learned, parents should help their children make up in time and seek the help of teachers if necessary. In this process, parents should use both goodwill and prestige, and remember that their attitude is blunt and authoritarian. Finally, I want to say that every child is an angel, kind and naive. On the issue of educating children, please don't be too hasty and overexert. You should accompany your children carefully and patiently, so that they can grow sturdily and one day have full wings and fly high!