First, teach students in accordance with their aptitude
The same method is used in different children, and the effect is different. The effect of transforming interest in learning into interest in money depends on the degree of children's thirst for money. Only when the classmates around him are rich can they afford to eat, play and use what they want. In contrast, he is the only one who lacks resources and can't show off. His heart of comparison and vanity make him envious and enjoy the feeling of being rich. At this time, if money is used as a reward and punishment condition for learning, it can stimulate him and meet the need for money through hard work.
On the other hand, if some children have excellent family economic conditions, they can eat and drink at home at any time, and there is no need to spend money on their own. The method of rewarding and punishing with money is not very effective. So where does his motivation for learning come from?
Second, pay attention to the details of learning.
Even if your child is very interested in money, it will not be effective if you only reward and punish with money without careful attention and guidance in the learning process. If children want to catch up in their studies, it is difficult to do so only with motivation and without correct methods.
For example, in the choice of learning content, it is neither too difficult for him to lose confidence in setbacks nor too easy for him to get bored in boredom. But to choose those "peaches" that are not difficult for him and can be reached by jumping. This is to challenge him to a certain extent and give him fun and a sense of accomplishment.
Third, patient guidance.
In addition to external rewards and punishments and money to stimulate children to study hard, we should also carefully guide children, fully understand the degree of difficulty that suits them, help children find suitable breakthroughs and breakthrough points, and let children enjoy doing it from the heart, make visible progress, become more confident in small achievements, and form a virtuous circle in learning. Therefore, the core of educating children lies in the self-education and promotion of parents to a great extent.
The method of educating children can't be copied, just need to be appropriate. External factors are only conditions, and internal factors are the foundation. In the long run, a child's academic performance, how high and how far he can go on the road of learning, really does not lie in the material rewards given by the outside world, but in his own internal needs. Everyone has an inner need to seek identity and self-realization, which is the most fundamental motivation in life. In fact, showing one's ability and personality, returning and expressing love while accepting love, and learning to do things as the driving force are the greatest pursuit of happiness in life.
Think about our own childhood, from the pride of asking to "do your own thing" to actually doing it, and then to helping adults do a heartfelt happiness that is praised afterwards, we will know that what people really need is not to take, but to pay. What really makes people happy is to get a sense of accomplishment. It takes some effort to get a sense of accomplishment. And the source of people's willingness to work hard and struggle is "love". When a person feels deeper and stronger love from his parents, he will repay his parents with greater strength, and his willpower to study or do things will be stronger. Because that's the driving force from the heart.
Therefore, if you want your children to study hard and get excellent results, you must spare no effort to love them. Let him really feel that you love him, not saving face and vanity. Don't worry, he has done everything he should do, including studying. Then, you only need to be yourself, and you can subtly influence your children's ideas and behavior habits. You just need to give him warm company, sincere understanding, accurate guidance, enough respect and trust. Let him do his own thing!