Children often fight with children. Some parents may persuade them not to do it again next time, and some parents will use violence against their children and will not repent. On the issue of children's education and guidance, in fact, many parents judge by simple right and wrong, which not only does not improve children's problems, but causes the deterioration of parent-child relationship.

Let's share some of my educational experience in dealing with children's frequent fights with children, hoping to help you ~

First, express empathy with children.

When children fight with other children, as parents, they will definitely stop their beating behavior at the first time. The usual practice is to give children critical education and reasoning education, so that children can understand that "hitting people is wrong." In fact, this often does not have a good effect.

I think it is more appropriate to divide the fight into two aspects: the incident itself and the emotion of hitting people. Dealing with the mood of fighting is the first step. The beating of children is often a sign of anger. When children are angry, they think they have good reason to hit people. Therefore, parents should first express their emotional understanding to their children before giving them reasonable education. Knowing the cause of things and empathizing with children can make children psychologically accept empathy more than direct beating or preaching.

Second, guide children to fully express.

After expressing empathy with their children, what parents need to do is to guide their children to fully and completely express their reasons for hitting people and their emotions at that time. In this process, parents should show their concentration and patience to their children, listen to their children's expression of the whole incident, and give a positive response with eyes, expressions and nods.

When children express the whole incident and emotional feelings at that time in their own way, parents will find that children are no longer as angry as when they hit people, because children's negative emotions are effectively vented in the process of expression. I think this is very important. As parents, we must learn to listen to children's voices and not be influenced by our own subjective judgments. For myself, I was angry when I learned that my child was fighting with other children, but when I learned about the process and the child's mood, I knew that it was not my child's fault alone. Of course, I must make my children realize that fighting is not an effective way to solve the problem.

Third, discuss ways to solve problems with children.

Letting children know how to deal with similar contradictions and bad emotions is an important goal for parents to educate their children. For example, at this time, parents can analyze with their children: "What should I do if I encounter something that just robbed the toy in the future?" ? "If there is a conflict with the child again, can we discuss it together or find parents and teachers to solve the problem?" ? In this way, children can explore ways to solve problems in analyzing this incident and improve their ability to deal with problems.

Fourth, effectively monitor and implement actions.

Either way, the most feared thing is to fish for three days and dry the net for two days, and it won't last long. There should be a benign supervision process for children's education to help them implement it in their daily study and life. Only in this way can parents really educate their children. Similarly, with the efforts of parents, the problem of children fighting will certainly be improved.