Before discussing this proposition, we should first examine the relationship between teachers and students under the current educational model in China. Because the material basis of teacher-student relationship is the educational activities between teachers and students (in a broad sense), let's first test the current teacher-student activities. The author believes that there are the following remarkable features:
1, one way. It means that in the process of education, teachers play the role of transmitters of cultural knowledge and disseminators of social ethics, and students receive education passively. This teacher-student activity mode is the inheritance of the traditional education mode. The so-called "teacher" means "preaching, teaching and dispelling doubts". It can exist for a long time because of the demand of exam-oriented education. In order to instill knowledge in a large area and in a large capacity, such a teacher-student model is perfect. But its defects and shortcomings are also obvious. Students have lost the opportunity of active learning, and it is difficult to develop their own abilities, improve themselves and make independent judgments in the process of learning.
2. Utilitarianism. Exam-oriented education itself has distinct utilitarianism. Therefore, the relationship between teachers and students serving them must have this feature in order to meet all kinds of hard indicators to measure the quality of education. Teachers and students focus on the baton of enrollment rate, and the price of increasing enrollment rate is the loss of students' moral and emotional education. More seriously, utilitarianism is developing towards materiality. The phenomenon of "paid tutoring" and "fund-raising sponsorship" is becoming more and more common, which not only seriously damages the image of educators, but also has a bad influence on the relationship between teachers and students.
3. Alienation. This is the inevitable result of the utilitarian activities of teachers and students. Only taking exams and going to school as our responsibility, without emotional communication or little, how can we not create barriers? In addition, educators themselves have an unshirkable responsibility to ignore students' ideological and moral education, lack of heart-to-heart, and thin and monotonous "words" make teachers and students' activities more and more unfamiliar and unfamiliar.
The long-term existence of teacher-student relationship in exam-oriented education must be reasonable-it meets the needs of the whole education. But its irrationality is increasingly becoming an obstacle to the development of education. It is difficult to provide a basis for training qualified talents, especially for quality education, it is more important and urgent to establish a benign relationship between teachers and students.
Why should quality education be backed by a benign relationship between teachers and students? First of all, education itself is an activity between people. Without the relationship between people and teachers, there is no education. In other words, education is an activity that achieves a certain educational effect through the relationship between teachers and students with the help of other material conditions and means. This is true at all times and in all countries, needless to say. Secondly, the purpose, task and process of quality education determine that it must rely on a benign relationship between teachers and students.
First, quality education is to give full play to people's potential and improve their quality in an all-round way, rather than simply imparting knowledge. This is essentially different from exam-oriented education, and human potential needs to be discovered by both teachers and students. The development of potential needs the guidance of teachers and the cooperation of students. Therefore, the whole education process should have a good emotional foundation, rather than rote learning. Therefore, neither teachers nor students can ignore its role. Only when they interact with each other can we complete the task of quality education.
Second, quality education requires teachers to face all students, and each student has the opportunity to develop himself and realize his value as much as possible according to his own personality characteristics. Since it is for all students, students should be allowed to "trust their teachers". If the relationship between teachers and students is not perfect, it is naturally difficult to do so. It can be seen that quality education cannot be separated from a benign relationship between teachers and students. Otherwise, the goals and tasks of education will not be completed, and quality education will only become empty talk.
Here, the author needs to mention that a benign teacher-student relationship is not a standardized concept. Just different from the teacher-student relationship in exam-oriented education, it has at least the following signs:
First, harmony. A significant difference between quality education and exam-oriented education is that the former should be "all-round", that is, to improve people's quality in an all-round way and give full play to their potential, rather than just implementing education for "exam-oriented" Therefore, the relationship between teachers and students should be harmonious and smooth, so that teachers and students can complete certain educational tasks in a pleasant and relaxed atmosphere. The author believes that only when cognition becomes the emotional needs of students and education becomes the responsibility of teachers can we achieve harmonious emotional resonance and greatly improve the efficiency of quality education.
Second, interaction. The theory of teacher-student subjectivity holds that education is a process in which educators exert a comprehensive influence on the educated on the basis of teacher-student interaction. A benign teacher-student relationship requires a benign interaction between teachers and students, that is, teachers and students participate in education together. Because only when the teaching orientation of education is consistent with students' learning motivation can the most economical and efficient educational effect be achieved. More than one requires teachers and students to adapt to each other, reach a tacit understanding and complement each other. Of course, this should be based on harmony. The former is dynamic and the latter is static.
In short, it is necessary to deal with the relationship between teachers and students, so that teachers and students can learn from each other. Of course, a good teacher-student relationship cannot be achieved overnight, it is the result of teachers' efforts. The most important thing is that teachers should have love and infect students, because "there is no education without love". Only by pouring affection into students can we gain their trust and respect. In this respect, many famous great educators, such as Tao Xingzhi, Ye Shengtao and makarenko, have provided us with good examples throughout the ages. Of course, the premise of loving students is to love your own career, and the content of love is extensive, which is not the content discussed in this paper. How is love formed? The first is to respect and trust students as the primary task, and treat students as their own friends and independent and equal subjects. In particular, the head teacher should always know the inner world of students and keep emotional communication and spiritual dialogue with students. Special care and consideration should be given to special students. Of course, emotional communication is a step-by-step, planned, hierarchical and repeated process, and we should be good at discovering the bright spots in students. Teachers should have the courage to learn from students, and the process of learning from students is the process of discovering students' advantages and the way of emotional communication. Some class teachers pay great attention to the use of conversation, weekly diary, letters and other communication methods in their work, so that students can realize their own specialties. With the development of society and the progress of science and technology, the communication between people is becoming more and more diversified, and the communication between teachers and students should be faster and faster, so as to better promote the communication between teachers and students. In a word, "in a threesome, there must be a teacher." Excavating the teachable factors in students can enhance and stimulate students' self-esteem, and can also harmonize the relationship between teachers and students, laying the foundation for teacher-student cooperation.
The so-called teacher-student cooperation is the interactive teacher-student relationship mentioned earlier. In the relationship between teachers and students at a higher level and realm. Cooperation is an important part of communication in modern life. Learning to get along with others is also one of the contents of quality education. Therefore, the cooperation between teachers and students also gives students the motivation to improve themselves, and urges them to shape themselves in various social interactions and gradually form their due qualities. In educational practice, any successful class teacher can be good at carefully cultivating the spirit of class unity and cooperation. Teachers set goals, not arrange them, fully develop classroom democracy, and teachers and students participate in the completion.
In addition, teachers should also have a sincere and pure childlike innocence. Think about what the students think, think about what the students think, and put yourself in their shoes. This is also necessary to shorten the distance between teachers and students and enhance communication. Teacher Mao of Hongkou District No.3 Middle School and the teacher of Nanjing are both close friends, but both of them can become friends who have forgotten the past year. Among them, they have childlike innocence, and their psychological distance from students is also one of the reasons, which provides favorable conditions for them to carry out educational activities smoothly.
Of course, love is not unprincipled doting, and childlike innocence is by no means immature. There is no objection to this in understanding, but in operation, it is easy to fall into a misunderstanding. We regard quality education as an education that relaxes the requirements for students. There is no principle and no goal, and we mistakenly think that we should completely abandon the test-taking method and let the beauty of music and sports become the dominant course in the future ... If we build the relationship between teachers and students on this principle, it will be distorted and deformed. As we all know, the benign teacher-student relationship we are talking about is not to change the image of "strict teacher". Without goals and requirements, students cannot succeed. Quality education can only be empty talk. This is only my humble opinion, and it is also my own view and supplement to the relationship between teachers and students in quality education.
To sum up, a benign teacher-student relationship is an important part of quality education, which can be transformed into a powerful educational force, inspiring students to improve themselves and providing conditions for teachers to use various teaching methods!
Facing the 2 1 century, mankind needs a new type of education!
Education facing 2 1 century needs a good teacher-student relationship!