A pair of parents attach great importance to their children's education. Although the family is not rich, they spend all their energy and money on their children in order to make them get ahead. Children can relax and rest every day, always going back and forth between home and cram school, and the requirements for children are very strict.
Parents adopt repressive education for their children, and the children have achieved good results. Parents always attack their children, thinking that they can be better. Long-term good performance did not win the praise of parents, and the children did not want to work hard. They began to rebel, didn't attend class or do their homework, and locked themselves in their rooms every day without talking to their parents.
My grades have plummeted, and my report card is terrible. Parents can't stand it and want to hit their children, but the children growl at their parents: "Are you satisfied now?" You always suppress me and think other children are good. I really make you dissatisfied! " He slammed the door and left.
In fact, parents' repressive education may be counterproductive, causing children's rebellious psychology. Not being praised for a long time will make children lose motivation and even produce very negative emotions, which is very unfavorable for their growth.
1. What are the negative effects of parents' repressive education?
1, let children feel inferior gradually.
Children's grades are good, and parents' requirements for their children will not be reduced, but will be more demanding and demanding. When children can't fulfill their parents' expectations, they feel that their parents will be disappointed in themselves. Under long-term pressure, children will begin to doubt whether they can do things well, lose self-confidence and start to feel inferior.
Children will become sensitive and suspicious, and when failure is unacceptable, they will start to have negative thoughts and it is difficult to get out.
2. Induce rebellious psychology
When a child reaches puberty, the three views begin to form, and the pressure and arrangement of parents will make the child very disgusted. When people start to dislike something, they will stay away from it. Children who don't like the pressure from their parents will do the opposite and don't follow their parents' wishes.
In the face of children's rebellion, parents first suppress and educate them severely, which will make children more disgusted.
Step 3 generate negative emotions
When children are under more pressure than they can bear and can't digest and solve it, they begin to have negative emotions and it is difficult to get out. A series of things children will only see negative information, which will make them feel more inferior and psychologically fragile. At this time, they will become more negative when facing the pressure of their parents.