NLP has many practical uses, including understanding how we learn, making strategies for teachers and students, and making full use of our five senses (sight, hearing, touch, taste and smell) and "fast learning" skills. Parents and teachers can find substantive ways to help students develop their advantages through NLP. It is important to know the learning style of students. The best learning opportunities for each person are different. For example, "visual" students can best absorb textbooks, notes or demonstrations on the blackboard. "Auditory" students like to discuss textbooks, while "tactile" students need to participate and collect information to learn.
Our innate brain is the most amazing computer in the universe. The only problem is the lack of operation manual! And NLP is the first manual to stimulate our potential. NLP is Richard Bandle &; John Grinder is the wisdom crystallization of human thought and behavior.
NLP analyzes how our brains work, how we control our emotions, how to become a more efficient person, how to improve our learning and communication skills, and how our thoughts affect our health.
NLP helps us overcome obstacles, controversies, fears, anxieties and other problems easily. So you can succeed in a short time.
NLP's research on "subjective experience" provides encouraging opportunities for students with learning disabilities. NLP studies how humans combine their experiences (sights, words, feelings and actions). And whether the method to achieve the expected effect is effective. Its theory is based on our past experience and compiles the current behavior model-sometimes it supports our forward efforts, and sometimes it restricts our development. NLP helps us identify those restricted behavior, communication, learning and emotional patterns, and then use effective tools to improve them. It shows how you can change or' rewrite' some beliefs, inner states, behavior (or learning) strategies to help you release your inner potential and realize your life dreams. Therefore, NLP simulation skills are very accurate tools to find out the different subjective experiences of each group of students. Differences are often at the level of ability, about ideas or learning strategies. So many times, as long as they add and subtract one step in their learning strategies, they can know how to learn.
The application of NLP revolves around a set of principles or major beliefs. Successful management of children's behavior also depends on your own attitudes, beliefs and values. It helps you understand your values and its influence on your relationship with students. The following are some NLP principles that are most relevant to classroom behavior management. You may not believe everything, but please' assume' that you believe everything and act, and you will find that change will follow. The proposed method is based on the following principles:
1. behavior can provide the most accurate information.
Words in speech account for only a small part of communication. The effect of your voice and intonation is more powerful than the speech itself. Body language is the focus of communication. Your task is to establish an effective "behavioral language" to manage your students. In other words, pay attention to their every move and don't try to explain or guess-you don't need to know why they do it. NLP believes that in order to achieve a win-win situation, it is more important to find out' how do they do what they are doing now'.
2. "Behavior is not human nature"
Have a clear concept of your thoughts and actions. As a teacher, please pay attention to expressing what you can't accept is the student's' behavior' rather than his' identity'. This stems from the ideological level of Robert Dilts's research.
3. "There is a positive intention behind every action."
You may not realize that everyone's behavior has its positive intention somewhere and at some level. From your own point of view, it may be difficult for you to agree. You need to look at it from the perspective of others and feel its meaning to them. In any case, their behavior is meaningful or protective to them. An important skill of behavior management is to explain the meaning behind the behavior, rather than just paying attention to the behavior itself. You can ask yourself, "What does this behavior mean?" Or "what needs does the student think this behavior will meet?" 」
4. "Emotional existence"
Everyone has to deal with emotions every day. They are real, even if they are spontaneous, they will affect your behavior. Emotion is actually the result of the interaction between rationality and sensibility of personal experience. So it comes from yourself; Once it appears, you need to balance your interaction with your children.
There are no difficult children, only difficult relationships and rigid teachers.
A difficult child is a child who gives up because you can't deal with him flexibly and refuse to continue to communicate with him. Confrontation is not necessarily their nature, but just a pointer to your flexible coping ability. This suggestion may be hard to accept, let alone believe; But please pay attention to the different reactions after believing.
6. "Communication focuses on response"
Many communicators are too busy expressing themselves to pay attention to the effect of communication. The best way to know what you communicated is to listen and pay attention to each other's reactions. Of course you know the missage you want to convey, but when the other person's response shows that he has received different messages, you will understand that you are sending a "miss". Since they can't receive it, you need to make adjustments and change the deductive method to make them understand the "correct information".
7. All children have the resources they need to face daily challenges.
Children are often unable to find suitable resources and methods to improve their behavior because of "poor state". Anxiety will distort behavior, and negative emotions will stop thinking; The ability to solve problems comes with it. Therefore, releasing or reducing anxiety is the first step to help children seek to improve their behavior.
8. Everyone has his own blueprint
The map is just a symbol/representative, not the real world. We describe our impressions in our own words and then build our own world. Usually we choose what we are interested in from our impressions. Past experience and study helped us decide to pay attention to those things outside. Two people who witnessed the same car accident can have completely different descriptions. Two people look at the same picture, but they see different scenes. What we describe is only the image in our own minds-it exists only in our own minds. It is not the original fact.
9. The child's reaction is directed at his own inner world-not your inner world.
The consequence of the above statement is that children do things for themselves, not for you! His behavior is meaningful to his inner world. You must enter his inner world to really improve his behavior! Respecting children's inner world can increase affinity and strengthen frank communication.