The closest people in the world are their children, because they are linked by blood relationship and become a complete family.

The most selfless person in the world is that parents do their best to their children without reservation. Jealous of others' goodness, I always hope that future generations will be better than myself and the previous ones.

Although there are also black sheep and grandchildren, they are not approachable. Parents still give tolerance with a broad mind, and what they can't give up is blood and family!

Nobody owes anyone, maybe parents owe their children,

The famous scholar Hu Shi once had a famous theory of "parents are ungrateful", and I agree with it very much. Why do parents have children in this world? The analysis may have the following reasons:

1, go online. Many people are influenced by the remnants of feudalism, especially "there are three sons who are unfilial, and no posterity is great." They regard carrying on the family line as the ultimate goal of life, and blindly bring their children into this world regardless of their own situation, euphemistically saying, "I gave you life."

2. face. Many people regard face as more important than life and soul, and they can throw anything away for the so-called face. Many parents give birth to children, without love or love, just to save face, especially in the past, the more boys in the family, the more face they have. The feeling of giving birth to girls is not only sorry for their ancestors, but also ridiculed by their neighbors.

Nowadays, many people work for their children, which is not worthy of sympathy. This is entirely self-inflicted.

3. inherit the family property. Most people have the idea of "gathering wealth", and all the money saved in their lives is reserved for themselves. It seems that they love their children very much, but they are not. This is a selfish idea. Because others can't inherit it, I have to give it to my children and use them as tools.

4. Pension. This is a complete business. Parents bring up their children with the requirement of providing for the aged. This is a real business. Since it is a business, it may be understandable that children are unwilling to support their parents.

5. Be a leader. Many parents want children because they want to experience the feeling of being a leader and have complete control over their children. Only by controlling children can we meet their inner needs and increase their sense of accomplishment.

6. Solve life regrets. Many parents have a lot of regrets in their lives, which can't be redeemed, so they realize their wishes in life through their children and regard them as tools.

Parents and children, no one owes anyone. If one party owes the other party, then parents must owe their children and blindly bring their children into this world without their permission.

It is normal for parents and children to have a bad relationship. This contradiction cannot be reconciled. Let's do it and cherish it.

You are too young to know this when you become a parent.

Cultivating and educating the next generation is not as easy as you see, and the hardships behind it can only be realized when you become a parent. Parents will not ask their children to return, they will silently bless you at any time.

Hello, I'm @ meow meow. I have sugar in my pocket. I pay attention to early childhood education and the all-round development of children's physical and mental health.

First of all, I personally think that the bad relationship between parents and children has little to do with who owes whom.

People in this society do not have 100% perfect relationships. Relationships between people need to be maintained, such as becoming friends. It is also because they have common interests, even like-minded, that they can become good friends.

Secondly, parents and children are independent individuals. Parents and children are closely related by blood. Because of love, parents play an early role in guiding enlightenment education, taking care of life and monitoring safety after their children become adults. Children grow up or get married, seemingly separated but not separated by blood. Still a family. The relationship between parents and children comes from the fact that blood is thicker than water.

So, why is the relationship not good? How can we adjust the parent-child relationship?

The subject should also maintain a correct attitude. Parents and children owe each other nothing. This is just what people say when they vent their emotions. As I said before, all relationships are maintained. So is the relationship between parents and children. Children are too young to understand, and it is inevitable that they will do something wrong and say hurtful things. But at this time, parents need to re-examine themselves. You can't let your children face negative emotions.

Finally, I would like to share the method of adjusting parent-child relationship with the topic owner, hoping to help the topic owner.

(1) Even if you are busy at work, please negotiate with your child to fix the time for companionship and build trust between parents and children.

(2) If time permits, chat with your child before going to bed at night to find out all the things your child experienced that day, find out the negative emotions and guide them in time.

(3) Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. Parents should try their best to adjust their mentality and avoid imposing their beautiful plans for life on their children. Sometimes children are in a rebellious period and never realize the original intention of "parents do everything for you".

(4) Let go and defend properly. Under the premise of not destroying the principle and bottom line, let the children do what they want freely, but pay attention to the consultation and defense beforehand.

(5) Simple, rude and effective, but it can't cure the child's heart. We all advocate convincing people with reason and convincing people with virtue. So are the children.

(6) Expanding children's yearning for a better life, such as accompanying children to do housework, traveling, work-study programs, etc., are all projects to cultivate children's sense of independence.

As parents, we also came from childhood and school, and we also know what kind or type of parents children need. Children want a parent who understands and respects their thoughts, but it is often difficult for such parents to do so. After all, parents have to go to work or something. Therefore, at this time, our parents need to adjust their time to spend more time with their children and communicate more, especially when children are in the golden age of education in their lives, and prepare for all educational companionship.

We all say that the process of growing up with children is also the growth of parents themselves.

I'm @ Meow Meow. I have sugar in my pocket. I pay attention to early childhood education and the all-round development of children's physical and mental health. I hope my answer can help the subject ~ ~ ~

Children just borrow their parents' bodies to come into this world. Everyone only says they love each other, not who owes whom! Parents' parenting is both a responsibility and an obligation, and they can't forcibly raise their children to prevent old age! You raise me young and I raise you old, based on mutual respect and love!

Parents and children, who owes who? Why are relationships often bad? In fact, no one owes anyone, and parents and children owe each other.

For parents, as parents, it is too easy for us to feel guilty when facing our children. We felt guilty after hitting the child. We also feel guilty after scolding the children. We also feel guilty for not giving our children material satisfaction. After a quarrel between husband and wife, they feel guilty when they see their children. We can't live, we are divorced, and we are full of endless guilt for our children.

Here, I'm not saying that it's good to beat and scold, nor that it's good for you to quarrel and divorce. What I want to say is, "Guilt is a force of regret, which will drag you forward and make you unable to retreat".

When we feel guilty about our children because of these things, our emotions are often the easiest to get out of control. Every time you feel guilty, it is easy to ignite your entanglement and anger. Therefore, immediately, many of our parents will treat their children emotionally and think that they will always be children.

For children, parents gave them a precious life gift, that is life. It is parents who give their children a chance to stand in this world. Without parents, children can't experience anything about complaints, happiness, happiness and pain because they don't even exist. What else does he know?

Therefore, parents will never owe their children!

If parents are willing to do their roles better and harder, this is the second life gift for their children, a great blessing for their children, and even more worthy of their gratitude, because not every child has such a blessing!

Similarly, children are also gifts from parents, and they make us feel the greatest tolerance. So there is a saying that children are the most tolerant people in the world. Think about it, no matter how much mistakes we make, are our children willing to forgive us at any time and call us mom and dad?

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Parents and children often have bad relations because the fate of parents determines the fate of children, and also because the fate of children is determined by the fate of parents.

"The dragon begets the dragon, the phoenix begets the phoenix, and the mouse's son digs a hole in the ground", and the impression film "Tramp" reveals the mystery of the bad relationship between parents and children. The son of a judge is a judge, and the son of a robber is a robber.

Whether a person is promising or not is just like whether a small sapling can grow into a baizhangsong. Everyone on the mountain knows, and everyone in the world knows, "Slates have no foundation to plant flowers, and the poor have to climb ladders." There are also rich people and poor people, rich people and poor people in the movie "Sister Liu".

None of those ancient trees, which ten people and twenty people can't get together, grows on a stone or a slate. Trees that can grow into ancient trees and are listed as cultural relics and historical sites by the state almost all grow in sheltered places with rich and deep soil. If the soil is not fertile and deep, no trees can grow.

For trees, the height of the tree is the expression of rich and deep soil. For people, what kind of family they are born in determines their future destiny.

If a person is rich and well-off, the relationship between father and son must be very good, and children must be very filial to their parents. If a person can't support himself, he is mentally retarded with cerebral palsy, or a person without legs and hands, or a blind and dumb person, and he is single and has no wife and children. Or did parents die long ago, so they became lonely old people? How can a person who can't even take care of himself honor his parents?

"Debt Collector" Some parents scold their worthless son like this. Anyone who gives birth to a son who can't marry a wife, or a son who eats old people, will definitely wonder if he did something wrong in his last life, or killed too many people in his last life. I have killed many people in my previous life, and I have come to atone for my debts in this life. Debts owed in this life and last life.

The wealth of parents is really related to the fate of their children. You can say "owe". However, parents are unlucky enough. Whose parents don't devote their lives to their children?

Parents and children are our fate in this world.

First of all, children are the crystallization of parents' love, and they come to this world full of expectations. In the process of raising children, although parents are very hard, they also enjoy the happiness brought by their children. While losing my free time, I also gained a lot. With the growth of new life, we are delighted to find that great changes have taken place in our lives unconsciously. In the process of enrichment and busyness, our sense of responsibility has been enhanced, our knowledge has been expanded, and our work efficiency and overall consideration ability have been well improved.

Secondly, talk about why the relationship between parents and children is often bad, because being too close may hurt each other. Home is a place with strong privacy, the most relaxation and the easiest exposure of negative emotions. In addition, some parents think that children should listen to themselves, instead of treating and respecting them as independent individuals and manipulating them in the name of love; Or if work and life are not smooth, vent your dissatisfaction on the weaker children. Over time, contradictions are inevitable.

This is a double-edged sword. With good use, home is our shelter, warm and comfortable, and we are infinitely attached wherever we go. If we don't make good use of it, this is a place full of pain, contradiction and even hatred. If you leave, you will never have nightmares again.

The reason for the bad relationship between parents and children is that one party-even both parties-think that the other party owes itself.

Parents' raising children is often packaged as supreme behavior, as if parents can make saints.

In fact, parents have some egoism when they have children:

-having children is only for parents to solve their psychological and physical needs.

Generally speaking, children don't complain about what their parents owe them-they love their parents by nature.

As long as in the process of raising children, parents try their best to inculcate them, no matter whether they are poor or rich, so that children can feel their parents' love, it is enough to satisfy them.

After all, neither parents nor children owe anyone.

The relationship is not good. Parents didn't fulfill their responsibilities in the early stage, and children didn't learn to be human in the later stage.

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Some people say that children were parents' lovers in their previous lives, and some of them came to repay their kindness and some to take revenge in this life. The relationship is not good. Maybe his parents are so absorbed in him that they think he is not good at all.