Comments on the communication mode between kindergarten teachers and parents 1 Mr. Chen Heqin, a famous preschool educationist in China, said: "Early childhood education is a very complicated matter, which cannot be completed by a family or a kindergarten alone. It requires the joint efforts of both sides to get full results. " And good communication is a bridge between kindergarten and family.
The book "Communication between Kindergarten Teachers and Parents" gives us good suggestions and references. From the misunderstanding, performance, goal and psychological reaction when we communicate with parents, from communicating with parents of different types, personalities, work backgrounds and grades, to communicating with children with special needs, parents who are difficult to communicate, and ways to communicate with parents, parents have considered it, and gave me some matching methods, plus detailed cases.
I was also impressed by the offside communication with my parents mentioned in the book. I remember that when I first came to E-mail, Sister Jin gave us a lesson on interpersonal communication, which also mentioned that we should keep a proper distance from people so that communication would be more polite and civilized. Teachers and parents should communicate with each other at a personal distance of 46- 122 cm, which can at least prevent the other party from feeling their own breath when speaking. Not many people communicate with their parents now. I may sometimes ignore such small details when communicating with others, but the details often reflect a person's personal qualities, so we should pay more attention to the details when communicating, so as to communicate effectively with our parents.
Among the psychological effects of communicating with parents, the first cause effect and projection effect are more important for our teachers.
The first cause effect is the impression left by the first communication between people, which forms and occupies a dominant position in the other person's mind. When a teacher communicates with parents for the first time, parents may not care about what the teacher said but the attitude of the teacher. They will observe whether the teacher is kind and liked by the children. This first impression is often that people are the first, and half of them are preconceived, and then an unforgettable memory is formed. Imagine ourselves. We often give others a psychological score according to our first impression for future reference. The influence of the first cause effect on parents is also particularly obvious. When I was an intern, a parent especially liked Miss Li, the main class in a small class. She often chats with teachers and tells other parents that Miss Li is a good teacher who cares about children. Once a parent's child accidentally broke a piece of skin on his head in kindergarten. After teacher Li's careful explanation, parents can especially understand the teacher's work. Therefore, teachers should actively play the role of the first cause effect and take the initiative to find ways to leave a good first impression on parents.
Projection effect refers to projecting one's feelings, will and characteristics on people, things and things outside, and imposing them on others' psychology, thinking that one has certain characteristics, and others will have the same characteristics as oneself. That is, in the process of interpersonal cognition, people often assume that others have the same attributes, hobbies or tendencies as themselves, and often think that others naturally know what they are thinking. In fact, this is not only our common psychology when communicating with our parents, but also our unconscious "feeling other people's stomachs with our own hearts" in our daily life. For example, if you like cauliflower, you may make a dish of cauliflower when entertaining guests and let them eat cauliflower. If the guests don't eat you, they will feel that they have failed you. But have you ever thought that guests like cauliflower? Are guests allergic to cauliflower? These are the little things we live in, but they always reflect the projection effect. When communicating with parents, we should pay more attention to whether our ideas are imposed on them, don't be too confident about our experiences, and consider whether parents will be under pressure when giving advice to parents. We should treat all parents equally and put ourselves in their shoes, so I believe that communication with parents will be smoother.
Whether it is the first cause effect or the projection effect, what we want to achieve as teachers is to get the understanding, trust and support of parents. We should constantly learn and improve our communication skills and become a good bridge between family and school.
Comments on "Communication between Kindergarten Teachers and Parents" 2 Mr. Chen Heqin, a famous preschool educator in China, said: "Naive education is a very complicated matter, which cannot be done by a family or a kindergarten alone. It must be the joint efforts of both sides to get full results. " That is-communication. Communication ability is a basic skill of preschool teachers, and communication with parents is an unavoidable work content of preschool teachers. For this reason, the head of the kindergarten bought "Communication between Kindergarten Teachers and Parents" for our kindergarten teachers. After reading this book, I really benefited a lot
This book consists of ten chapters, which mainly introduces the basic knowledge of communication, the psychological effect of communication with parents, parents with different types and personalities, parents with different working backgrounds, parents with different educational misunderstandings, parents of children of different grades, parents with special needs, parents with communication difficulties, and various ways of communication with parents. The author of this book, Hong Yan, is a leader of preschool education in Beijing, a special expert of children's channel of CCTV, the executive director of family education major of China Education Association, and a national second-class psychological counselor. He has professional experience in children's emotional management, family education consultation and parent-child teacher training, and is deeply loved by parents and teachers. When reading this book, it gives people a very relaxed feeling. The stories it tells are all cases in real education. From beginning to end, the author used cases to tell kindergarten teachers how to communicate, and let me learn some ways to communicate with parents.
The cases in the book helped me a lot, and one of them, Communication with Parents of Small Classes, helped me a lot, because I took over as the head teacher of small classes this year. Children in small classes have just entered the park, so it is difficult for parents to control their worries and anxieties. Just like the case cited by teacher Hong Yan, there are often parents "poking around". In view of this phenomenon, I use the method taught by teacher Hong Yan in the book to communicate with parents by entering the park in advance, leaving school, sending a flying letter, etc., to remind parents to relax their mentality and help their children relieve their anxiety period of separation, and list some examples we usually encounter. Provide them with some practical and operable educational strategies, such as some methods to relieve children's anxiety: some parents will leave quietly when their children are not paying attention, or leave without saying goodbye, which will not only reduce children's anxiety about separation, but also destroy children's sense of security and trust, and make children have a strong fear of separation.
In fact, a mother can kneel down and say to her child, "Mom knows it's hard for you to see her leave, but she has to go to work. If you feel uncomfortable, cry for a while. Do you want to cry 5 times or 10 times? Mom is with you. " For a child, he can't stop crying, but he can stop crying. Appropriate release of children's emotional stress will help reduce the degree of separation anxiety. There is also to let children take their beloved little things to the kindergarten to communicate with their parents, and avoid saying things like "I will send you to the kindergarten if you don't obey".
After reading this book, I also know that effective communication depends on the communicator's full understanding and respect for the communication object, and different communication methods should be adopted according to the personality characteristics of the communication object. Every parent has a different sense of cooperation, and teachers need to be different from person to person. Parents are a complex and diverse group with differences in age, gender, personality, occupation and cultural background, so we can't face up to their differences and adopt a single and similar communication method, and we can't make too subjective guesses and inferences about each parent. We must grasp the basic characteristics of parents as a whole in order to solve the communication problems we face. In the book, Hong Yan classifies the problems existing in parents' educational concepts and habits according to the parents groups that preschool teachers often meet, and provides corresponding communication strategies. In fact, in order to gain the trust of parents, we must first attach importance to emotional communication. Winning children's love for teachers will win the trust of parents. The more children love you as a teacher, the more parents trust you.
A philosopher once said, "If you master communication, you master the world." Communication with children's parents is a kind of practical wisdom based on and beyond knowledge, which requires each of us to constantly hone in our daily work, accumulate more communication experience and be a qualified kindergarten teacher welcomed by children and parents.
Reflections on the communication between kindergarten teachers and parents. Family is a child's first school, and parents are a child's first teacher. In the process of educational activities, parents have always played an extremely important role, especially in kindergartens. Therefore, only effective communication and sincere cooperation between teachers and parents can produce good educational effects and achieve the expected educational goals. For teachers, how to communicate effectively with parents and let parents actively cooperate with school work has become an important link in teachers' work and an important certificate to test teachers' working ability.
In fact, it is not easy to communicate with parents. We are faced with considerate parents, emotional parents and parents with different life backgrounds, so are we. I really benefited from learning "The Way of Communication between Preschool Teachers and Parents" by Hong Yan. When I opened the book, I was shocked by the catalogue. The book mainly focuses on the psychological effect of parents' communication, various ways of communicating with parents, parents of different types, parents of different personalities, parents of different working backgrounds, parents of different educational misunderstandings, parents of children of different ages, parents of children with special needs and parents with communication difficulties. Moreover, every big aspect is very detailed. Counting, there are 43 types of parents alone. It seems that there is really a lot of homework to do!
But when I really started reading, I found that this book didn't have as much theoretical knowledge as I expected, and it didn't have much profound truth. It tells all the cases in real education. From beginning to end, Teacher Hong Yan told readers all kinds of ways to communicate with parents through a large number of cases, which made me learn the communication methods well. The cases in the book gave me great inspiration, prompting me to think and pay attention to how to do a good job in family contact: that is, "understanding", "trust" and "cooperation". For example, there is an example in the book: a parent is distressed that his daughter is "not valued by the teacher": if some children are photographed in the activity photo, their children are not photographed; For example, sitting in a small chair, some sitting in front of the teacher, but her children are beside them. She thinks that the teacher's lack of attention and care for the children makes her feel very uncomfortable. This kind of thing happens from time to time in our work. The author tells us that mutual understanding is the first goal of family communication. Parents mainly look at it from the individual perspective, and teachers mainly look at it from the collective perspective. Therefore, the main task of teachers is to help parents adjust their views on early childhood education. For example, tell parents that children will always be the center and protagonist in family photo albums, but there are always children in kindergarten who have not photographed this time and may be photographed next time. This is uncertain, and the seats are not always the same, and sometimes they will be adjusted. There are always children in the middle and children on the edge. At the same time, we should also understand and accept parents' mentality, meet parents' needs with a tolerant attitude, and meet parents' personalized requirements on the premise of uncompromising principle and harmlessness, because it is easier for parents who understand teachers to accept.
When communicating with parents, parents should strive to establish confidence in their children's education. Only when parents have confidence in their children will they sincerely cooperate with school work and work together with teachers for their children's progress. Whether parents of naughty children or parents of sensible children, teachers must do this in communication: take praise as the starting point, amplify the advantages of children, give priority to praise, and put forward some suggestions for children's shortcomings. At the same time, we should also pay attention to improving the prestige and role of parents in the process of school education. Educating children to respect their parents, understand their hard work and dedication, and express their love to their parents can not only improve their prestige and role in children's minds, but also enhance the power of family education. Moreover, parents will sincerely thank and trust their teachers when they see more and more sensible children, so that the communication between parents and teachers can be carried out more smoothly and effectively.
I think I will continue to hone in my own work practice, accumulate more communication experience and become a kindergarten teacher welcomed by children and parents.