Children can't help shouting when they are in trouble. This kind of education is useless, because children will feel wronged in the face of their parents' growls. They may feel that they have done something wrong or that their parents don't love them. In this kind of double negation, children's hearts will become fragile and anxious, which will lead to the accumulation of negative emotions. Therefore, the more parents shout, the more negative emotions children have and the more problems they have. At this time, the child is very eager to get the affirmation of his parents. They hope to get praise and recognition from their parents, thus generating satisfaction and self-confidence. If parents always make a hullabaloo about when facing their children, the children's good wishes will be broken and great dissatisfaction will arise. Therefore, they become more unwilling to obey their parents' discipline, hoping to prove themselves right through argument.

How can we make children more cooperative?

When a child does something wrong, parents need to express the facts in communication and don't confuse personal feelings. This method makes it easier for children to accept and treat their behavior calmly. For example, children make a mess of the sofa. If parents shout loudly and complain that their children are disobedient and ignorant, it will only lead to intensified contradictions. But if parents simply say a word to remind their children to mess up the sofa, the children will subconsciously reflect and spontaneously feel their misconduct.

Parents should learn to give their children the initiative by asking leading questions. Parents can take the form of guiding questions and take the initiative to ask questions to their children. For example, when a child does something wrong, we can guide him to realize his mistake, and then let him decide how to correct and punish himself. This way is more meaningful than shouting. This is equivalent to giving the initiative of the problem to the child, which is more helpful for the child to improve his self-awareness. Don't nag your child too much, and don't preach to your child often. Otherwise, it will easily lead to children's rebellious mentality, and it will also make children feel that their parents don't trust themselves, so they will deliberately make some inappropriate behaviors.