When children are angry, depressed, disappointed or feel unloved, they will swear, behave rudely and have conflicts with adults. Usually these extreme emotions don't last long, so sometimes adults can't help but fly into a rage, but in this case, it's best to restrain themselves. Patiently explain to children that rude language will hurt a person. When he strikes back rudely, tell your child how you feel calmly, even a three-year-old child will understand that he has hurt your feelings.
2. Set an example and standardize the way children speak.
In order to help children better distinguish polite language from rude language, you can improve their ability to distinguish right from wrong by quoting what other children have said. Let them know that the same sentence can have different meanings when spoken in different intonations. You can prove to yourself that different intonations can turn an ordinary sentence into an ironic one. When your child's words and deeds meet your requirements, you should give him positive guidance in time. This is one of the most effective ways to regulate children's behavior. When he praises others or listens to others carefully, you should praise him in time; When he tries not to hurt others, you should tell him how much you appreciate him.
3. Set an example of "listening" for children.
Some parents always complain that their children don't listen to others. Usually, as soon as parents talk, children start talking back. However, if you think about it carefully, you will find that sometimes adults rarely listen carefully to children's stories, and sometimes when children just start talking, adults think they understand what happened and then start preaching. Therefore, in order to make children "obedient", we must first set an example, make children obedient, listen carefully to every word the children say, and truly communicate with each other. In this way, children learn respect, understanding and effective communication from us.
4. Develop the habit of chatting with children.
Some parents usually spend little time chatting with their children and having fun. They only pay attention to whether children concentrate on their studies and behavior habits. The communication with children is mainly criticism, nagging and preaching, which is easy to cause children's rebellious emotions. Parents are advised to get into the habit of chatting with their children, talk more about interesting topics with their children and often "play crazy" with them. When the parent-child relationship is intimate and harmonious, children will readily accept their parents' suggestions. If parents are busy and don't have much time to spend with their children, they should ensure the quality of communication, and don't always spend time checking their children's studies and criticizing them.