In my opinion, this score is different.
Of course, it is not negotiable to stop things that deliberately undermine and violate social order and good customs in time and order an apology;
Parents should promptly eliminate or mitigate the consequences caused by children's carelessness or ignorance of rules;
As for "educating" children, you can wait until you calm down and make sense. If you were adding fuel to the fire at that time, and the children cried and contradicted, you flew into a rage, and Mars hit the earth, which would only get twice the result with half the effort or even backfire!
In my opinion, no matter what, we should try our best to take care of the children's feelings, that is, self-esteem!
Actually, think about it As parents, we sometimes educate our children in front of outsiders, not on the matter, but as an emotional vent for children who have caused trouble for themselves, eager to show their ability to educate their children in front of outsiders.
Too much education and intervention in front of outsiders, especially the education of parents mixed with their own emotions, will only make children feel humiliated and at a loss. He/she who has felt wronged and helpless will be even more afraid, because suddenly he/she can't feel your love at this time!
Many parents will say that such a young child has no self-esteem! ?
According to the latest research by scholars at the University of Washington, our feelings about ourselves may be established before the age of five. This study uses a new technology to implicitly measure the self-esteem of more than 200 five-year-old children, which is the youngest group of such studies.
The study found that as early as five years old, children's self-esteem was strong enough to be measured by sensitive technology.
Nowadays, researchers hope to establish the formation process of preschool children's self-esteem by studying younger children. Some scientists believe that preschool children are too young to form positive or negative feelings about themselves. But this study shows that self-esteem-that is, whether you feel good or bad about yourself-is innate. Children enter school with this social mentality, not during school.
This shows how important it is to take care of your child's self-esteem, not your face!
Many parents will say, why can't such a simple truth and such a simple thing make sense and be done? That's because you don't see things from the perspective of children. The problem she/he faces is all she/he has at the moment. Parents don't understand why children do this. Similarly, children feel wronged and helpless-why can't mom and dad understand my feelings!
When I took my daughter to learn to dance, I encountered such a thing:
A lively and lovely little girl can't concentrate easily and can't always do the dance moves required by the teacher. When dancing together, it seems that they are out of place with other children, and they are inevitably called by the teacher. In fact, they are all novices, and a large group of little girls live in the same room. She is not the only one named, but she is a little lively. At this time, my mother will die. Every time the teacher calls the roll, she will definitely call the girl, scold her in public, shake her shoulders and give orders-don't cry! What about the little girl? In addition to sobbing, let the tears roll silently, that is, sometimes look up and look around-there is no doubt that she is the focus of attention at the moment!
Finally, the girl survived a class with repeated scolding and sobbing. The joy of dancing has disappeared for her, but she can't say all this!
Parents' self-righteousness, parents' lack of empathy, in the name of love, hurt!
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