What is the best education policy? The fundamental significance of family education is that parents do not reason in language, but educate their children in behavior, reason in behavior, and let their children know and understand the truth. As parents, we should learn to use the art of education to teach by example, which is the best way to educate our children.
There are no children in the world who don't understand, but in order to make children understand the truth, parents should not only be polite, but also be reasonable. Reasoning is more important than reasoning.
The more they like reasonable parents, the less likely their children are to listen to reason.
Reasoning, for many parents, is the educational method they often use. Many people may be proud of this and feel that they are reasonable parents. But the reality is that many parents may find that reasoning may not have much effect on their children, but may stimulate their rebellious psychology. The more reasonable parents are, the more they like it. There may be more disobedient children.
The mother of a six-year-old son complained that his son likes playing with water very much and connecting the water in the pool from one side to the other, making the house dirty. Parents suffer, but children don't listen. A child got water and finally lost his temper. Since then, my son has stopped playing in front of her, but he will continue to play like this when his mother is away. "I think my respected son has been reasoning with him, but he still doesn't listen and doesn't understand."
"Since it is useless to reason, it shows that it is not feasible and right to reason in this matter, so why not stop him in another way at once?" I said. "Go home and find two pots for the children and take a rag. Use a rag to transport all the water in the first basin to the second basin with the children. Repeat ten times. It not only achieves the purpose of children's exploration, but also achieves the effect of your education. " After listening to this, parents suddenly realize that this is a very simple method, but they just want to reason with their children.
The common problem of problem parents is that they blindly regard reasoning as the correct education.
Reasoning comes from deep-rooted thinking. When we were growing up, we heard many great truths, so we brought the same way to our children. In the past, the relationship between education and being educated was also the relationship between reasoning and accepting truth. But in fact, such an educational way and way of thinking is very easy for both sides to fall into the educational dilemma.
Some people despise the behavior of beating and scolding children and think that it is incompetent to conquer children by force, so they choose patient teaching and reasoning with children, and think that reasoning is the best educational method. However, as children grow older, it seems useless to reason with them. The child is rebellious and his parents don't listen to anything. In children's education, the worst way is to make sense blindly, lose your temper and deliberately touch children.
When you encounter many things, you don't have to be unreasonable. You can choose to set an example for your children and educate and strengthen them with the role of example demonstration. Talk less and do more in many things, and listen to the children's own opinions. It is easier to educate children by letting them accept your opinions emotionally and affirming your ideas in action.
Oral education should be moderate, emphasizing the role of behavior education and education.
You don't have to deliberately emphasize the importance of oral education and blindly raise children with dogma, but children may not listen to your education. Oral education should be moderate, and behavioral education and teaching them to raise are the most important.
1, be reasonable, don't be duplicitous.
It is very important to be reasonable, that is, to believe what you say. You have to believe in yourself first, and the children will believe you.
Don't instill vulgar values in children.
Reasoning with children is not to instill their own values in children, nor to let children watch the world with vulgar values. If you feel that your height and ideological level are not high, it is far better not to say anything than to talk nonsense.
3, unreasonable, unreasonable.
Unreasonable, unreasonable, and always use force to solve conflicts with children. Parents should not choose to treat their children in a rude way, and then tell them afterwards that I hit you for your own good. This way is not a fig leaf for parents' rude behavior.
Children don't listen to their parents and elders, so they should try to educate their children in a good way. Not only reasoning with children, but also treating children in a temper way, this is the best way to educate children. What is the best policy in education? It is the art of using education. Teach children by example. Educate with action, not with words. Protect children's sense of independence and tolerance. Educating children is also educating themselves and educating children to do it themselves. Parents should also set an example. It is very important to lead by example.