My roommate, Chen, was special when she was a freshman. At that time, we had just arrived at the dormitory and were about to make the bed. I really didn't like the lower berth, so I said, "Whose upper berth is it? I want to change it. "
A girl with a strong accent in Fujian said, "mine, I'll trade with you." I don't like climbing ladders. "
I turned my head and saw a girl with straw hair and coal skin color. She was short (later I learned that she was only 1 m 53), with a round face and big eyes. How can I put it? It's a bit like Jolin Tsai taking the mirror ten times. But even so, I still have a good impression on her. After all, she can be regarded as the first friend I met in the university dormitory, and I found that we have many similarities: we like reading, lack of money at home, and don't like to join in the fun.
We soon got to know each other. During the whole freshman year, we either worked or read and studied, and there were basically no extracurricular activities. However, when we work together and read books together, we naturally get close.
When I was a sophomore, one day she said she wanted to learn a musical instrument. I blurted out, is the guitar good? She feels very good. In fact, what we concluded at that time was that the guitar was still cheap and other musical instruments were expensive!
So she went to the Guitar Club, which was founded by Du Yuxing, a tall man of one meter eight. Many girls signed up, but he agreed and Chen, who had never studied at all, entered. Stranger still, no one envies Chen (I joked that she would be killed by other girls' eyes)! I signed up for the Psychological Research Association, which is a great organization with three activities every week. It was at that time that we basically only met in the dormitory, but the relationship was still very good. Later, several times, I met Du Yuxing and came out of the library with her. I asked her privately if she was with Du Yuxing. She said, "How can I have that leisure time? Do you know how thick the English version of Shakespeare is? How difficult is the guitar to learn? How difficult are our specialized courses? I have no time to study! " I think it's right, plus there is no gossip about her. Even if she stood beside Du Yuxing, those women wouldn't think what's the relationship between them!
In the second half of sophomore year, a city-wide oral English contest for college students finally came. At the most wonderful moment since she went to college, she won the first place in the whole region. Du Yuxing and I accompanied her to get the trophy. I asked her how to celebrate. She said she was going to work, and I helped her take the trophy back to the dormitory.
That is, since then, she seems to have begun to change. Every time she takes part in any English competition, she will be arranged to take part. She will also form a band with some friends from their guitar club and occasionally stand on the stage. The name Chen has become a household name, and more and more people are no longer limited to her appearance, but say that she is an interesting girl. Even at the beginning, I told her privately all day that the third person in the dormitory, with terrible yellow hair, would take out various hair care products for her to try from time to time. The third said, "I just want to study which product is the best!" "
In the summer vacation of sophomore year, Yu Mei didn't go home again, but found a place to live and make money. When junior year started, she became darker. The only difference is that her chin has become a little sharper because she has lost weight, but she looks better.
I asked her if she was still in the guitar club when she was a junior. She can't say no, she really doesn't have time. She used the money she earned during the summer vacation to apply for driving training. When she celebrated getting her driver's license, Du Yuxing also came. Du Yuxing confessed to her in the school cafeteria in front of our dormitory: "Yu Mei, I have been chasing you for two years. Can you promise to be my girlfriend? " She agrees with everyone.
When I graduated, I asked Yu Mei, "Going back to my hometown or staying here?"
Yu Mei said, "I want to stay here. I found a factory to do translation work, but it was not a dead salary. I think there is a beginning! " "
I just remembered that she has passed CET-6.
After graduation, we seldom contacted each other, until five years later, she sent a circle of friends: "I finally bought my own house!" " "
I quickly congratulated her,
She said: "The house I bought in Zhangzhou is lower than here and close to my parents. If I can't get along here in the future, I will go back to my parents! "
I said, "Well, your house has been settled. Should we consider life events? "
Yu Mei said: "Du Yuxing is so good. What if our future child looks like me? "
I said, "Are you still the confident Chen I know?"
Yu Mei said, "That's right. Maybe he is as handsome as he is? Haha! "
About a year after that conversation, Yu Mei officially announced the wedding news, and all our roommates went to her wedding.
At the wedding, the master of ceremonies asked, "What do you like best about the bride, groom?"
Everyone pricked up their ears, because at this time, Yu Mei, although her overall dress taste has improved and her hair is soft and beautiful, is actually not very beautiful as a whole.
Du Yuxing said, "The first time I met her was when my guitar club was recruiting new players. She said, I can't play the guitar, but I really want to learn. I can learn it quickly. Can you give me a chance to try me? If I can't keep up with you in two weeks, I'll quit voluntarily? At that time, I thought that this girl was very special and had a firm power in her eyes, so I agreed with her. "
The host said, "Is it love at first sight?"
Du Yuxing said, "No, it's a long-term love. After we played the guitar together, I found that she was really great. In two weeks, she has been able to learn guitar. Moreover, she gets good grades in almost all classes and never gossips. I just want to know everything about this girl. The more I know later, the more I like her. When I see spring, she will like her.
The host said, "Who is chasing who?"
Du Yuxing said: "I chased her for two years and talked about love for seven or eight years before I finally got it!"
Everyone burst into laughter, and I saw Yu Mei at the moment, confident and beautiful.
Now, Yu Mei is the mother of two boys. Although she doesn't continue to work, she also runs training courses by herself. I heard that business is not bad!
If appearance is a very important scoring item for women, Yu Mei must have a negative score, then why does she have such a shining life? I have summarized the following aspects:
Know what you lack, and then fight for it desperately.
For example, when I was a freshman, I knew I was short of money and knowledge, so I went to work to make money and make myself look like a top.
Know what you want, and then try to pursue it.
For example, if you insist on learning English, you would rather turn yourself into a learning machine for this, and don't waste a little time chatting or thinking, but try your best! For another example, if you want to learn a musical instrument, you should take the time to learn it, so that you can learn it well.
Know how to cherish time
Yu Mei is a person who cherishes time very much. After so many years in college, she has never been to the cinema or KTV. She said it was useless for her to go to those places, and there was no need to waste time.
Abandon ineffective social interaction.
Yumei University has few friends, only my roommate in the dormitory and several members of the guitar club. Even now, she seldom makes friends, and more often she is reading, writing and thinking. In her words, "Why do you know so many unnecessary people?" It's not like I'm the only one who's sad for spring and autumn. What's the use of a hair band? Send it if there is a big event! "
Self-confidence, believe you can do it.
Yu Mei has always been very confident. She has always believed that if others can do it, she can do it with hard work. She said, "I also have two hands, two feet and a head." Why can others do it and I can't? "
So it really doesn't matter what a girl looks like, but if you give up on yourself, there is no way out. Being ugly and beautiful is not the only condition for you to live well in society, but can make you happy. The most important thing is your confidence, your efforts, your choice and how to make good use of your time, so that your time will add value to you every second!
Finally, I give it to all the girls who are not very beautiful like us: beauty is an advantage and beauty is a skill!
When I was a child, I was ugly. My mother said I was so ugly, so there was a way out for studying. If people learn from books, women who study will become beautiful. I don't look in the mirror at home and feel ugly.
Now I think I am not ugly, because fitness can make my body beautiful, makeup can make my face beautiful, and knowledge can make my mind beautiful.
Smiling often makes people look more beautiful; Pay more, help others, and find confidence from each other's recognition. With self-confidence, a smile, and the right figure, makeup and clothing, it is difficult to think about beauty. (The picture is my live photo)
Will strengthen their ability to make up for their lack of stuffing!
Good-looking people are not necessarily good-looking people. This is the heart.
I have always been an ugly girl since I was a child (not ugly, but mediocre, many people say she has temperament because she studies well).
1. envy, but never envy. Sometimes a good-looking girl will stare at it for a long time and think, "God, it's so beautiful!" " Big eyes, long eyelashes, white and tender, how can people be reborn? "
2. Comfort yourself in your heart: it's useless to look good, because your mind is full of poems and books. You have to win from the heart, not as a vase!
3. Imagine that if you grow up to be a star and confess to your favorite male god, will you succeed at once, and even the male god will take the initiative to pursue me? Hahaha!
4. More or less inferiority. Dare not speak loudly, afraid of attracting attention, afraid of rejection, afraid of rejection, afraid of rejection.
Later, when I went to college, I was able to match my makeup and became the kind of "good-looking" in my eyes. It was a little floating at first, haha, and suddenly it was not so mediocre. Some suitors are a little complacent, and no matter what they do, their appearance will add a lot of points. But, to be honest, I don't think I have temperament. It's really a waste of time to spend half an hour to an hour on makeup and clothes every day. So now I can return to the state of "ugly duckling" and experience beauty.
Inferiority or jealousy. Just learn to make up. There are no ugly women, only lazy women, and clothes are more temperament.
I have a classmate whose skin is dark and her facial features are not particularly bright, but I don't think she is ugly, because she studies very well, and I even envy her.
She and I became deskmates in high school, and I realized that she and I were in the same junior high school but different classes. She said I was her idol. This makes me a little flattered, because I don't think I'm that beautiful. She said she saw me as soon as she entered junior high school, and I insisted that she mistook me for someone else [I want to be quiet].
After graduating from high school, she went to college, but I didn't. She came to see me and once had a heart-to-heart talk with me, which was very distressing. She said why no one likes it and no one is chasing her. She was particularly sad that no one was chasing her from junior high school to college. I had to comfort her, but fate didn't come.
I remember one night in high school, when she came in from outside the classroom, her shoes jingled and her ponytail stuck up like a swallow's tail because her hair was too short, which successfully attracted everyone's attention in the class. Everyone burst into laughter, and she returned with a sweet smile. She doesn't really know why people laugh. I think she will be very happy then.
This classmate later became an excellent teacher and had his own family and children.
Girls actually expect someone to like them. Some people don't love, but many people only dare to secretly love and dare not say.
I also want to say to all the girls who are not so beautiful, don't feel inferior because they are ugly. Since God has given talents, let them be used! Everyone has different values, and confident girls are the most beautiful. [comparison] [comparison] [comparison]
Nobody thinks he is ugly. In the mirror, he can always find his own beautiful place. Besides, God is fair. Although she is not very good-looking, she must have a smart brain. Aren't many female scholars and talented women like this? People are cute not because you are beautiful, but because you are cute. In short, no girl is willing to admit that she is ugly.
It seems that every girl doesn't really feel ugly.
No matter how ugly they are in your eyes and others' eyes, in their own eyes, they all think they are middle or upper middle class.
They will find many reasons for themselves, such as "I just put on a little weight, and losing weight is actually not uglier than so-and-so." However, they can't lose weight.
For example, "I am short and wear high heels, which is actually quite temperament." However, they wear high heels, so do others.
For example, "I am a black spot (my skin loves acne, my skin is not good, etc." ), otherwise it is actually very beautiful. "
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Why do I know Tony so well? Because I used to be a short and fat girl.
I thought my beautiful big eyes could beat my obesity. I thought my white skin could hide the fact that I was short.
Later, I found out that you were a little fat in the eyes of others. No one will observe it that carefully.
When there are a group of girls, I am just a background wall. After realizing this, it's time to change. But some people talk about it, and some people really do it.
For example, after I lost 30 pounds, I can buy nice clothes even though I am still short. So life becomes better.
I climbed out of the ugly girl by my own will.
I also know a girl whose height is 1.7 meters. But his skin is dark, his mouth is like Shu Qi's, and his eyes are small. In high school, she was a famous ugly girl in her class. Later, after work, I felt that she was full of gas.
First of all, she keeps healthy. She likes to wear tight clothes that can show her figure. High heels are always hovering around ten centimeters; And make up.
I want to understand a truth through examples. We two ugly women can't make a U-turn, at least we should try to get rid of this label.
Only when people know that they are ugly will they try to get rid of the ugly label. And many girls think others are ugly, but in fact, she really doesn't think she is ugly, so she won't try to get rid of the ugly label.