The core steps of PUA are to show values, emotional values, repression and demands.
At present, with the rapid development of various forms of organizations, online courses, offline training and other ways to instigate people to cheat, every ordinary person may become a victim of PUA.
The methods to prevent PUA are: affirming self-worth, setting emotional bottom line, being alert to the rapid process of love, being alert to strangers in unfamiliar environment and pursuing equal status.
What does 1.PUA mean?
PUA is simply a master of picking up girls, a class of people with first-class picking up girls skills in Picking up Girls. Girls who know nothing about the world can easily fall into the trap of PUA men. PUA, the full name (master of picking up girls), originally refers to a group of men who have been systematically studying and practicing and constantly improving their emotional intelligence. Later, it generally refers to men and women who are very attractive and fascinated by the opposite sex.
Literally speaking, PUA refers to a pickup artist, but due to the changes and progress of PUA culture, the definition of PUA has expanded from simple pickup to the whole process of sexual communication. It has developed into a social theory, which mainly involves: chatting up (first acquaintance), attracting (interaction), establishing contacts, upgrading relationships until intimate contact occurs, and determining gender relations. PUA is a new interdisciplinary subject composed of psychology and behavioral science.
Second, what does PUA mean on the Internet?
Is to use pre-rehearsed social skills for self-packaging, so as to attract women, gain their good feelings, and then quickly develop feelings with them, and finally have sex. Therefore, this routine to attract women is called pua, that is, bubble learning. In use, the word PUA is often used as the abbreviation of PUA.
PUA used to be just a way to guide men to improve their self-confidence and understand social skills. However, with the development of this routine, the purpose of PUA has become to "get more trophies". It has become a theory to control and play with women by means of deception, disguise, coaxing and even framing, not only to have sex with each other quickly, but also to get property, cars and houses, and even to instigate each other to commit suicide.
What does PUA mean?
Brainwash the opposite sex
PUA, a full-name pickup artist, originated in the United States and was introduced to China from South Korea at the beginning of this century. Literally, Pua is an artist who strikes up a conversation, but it refers to a person who attracts women with carefully rehearsed social skills and self-packaging, so that they can quickly have emotional connection with themselves and even have sex. This routine of attracting women is called PUA for short. As the word PUA is constantly demonized. At best, PUA is an expert in picking up girls, and at worst, it is a lover and cheating on love rat, which is simply brainwashing the opposite sex!
4. What types of attacks does 4.PUA have?
The first kind is the most serious attack, that is, denying you completely, from your thoughts and feelings, behavior choices, your appearance, your ability, and all aspects.
The second kind is to deny you with some kind of label. For example, Bao Li's boyfriend attacked her as "not a virgin", which is worthless. Su Mingyu and Fan used "they are girls" to deny their value.
The third category is to habitually deny your ideas and choices, say that his is better, and let you listen to him. For example, you want to go back to your hometown from a first-tier city, but your parents say that first-tier cities have more prospects and you must stay there.
The fourth category is to deny your feelings and preferences. For example, a senior three student has a hobby of painting, but his mother told him to give up this hobby on the grounds of the college entrance examination.
The fifth category is to deny your own image.
How to prevent PUA:
The first layer of defense: correctly clarify the relationship between yourself and others.
Each of us will go through three stages of growth. The first stage (below puberty), in which we think we have an obligation to satisfy everyone. It is normal for children under puberty to have this idea, but if you are an adult, you will still have this idea, which shows that your psychological development is still stagnant in childhood.
The second stage (adolescence) is only for self-satisfaction, regardless of the feelings of others. If you still stay at this stage as an adult, it means that your growth is still in adolescence. The third stage (maturity): you can express yourself, care for others, be responsible for yourself, not be responsible for others, and not ask others to be responsible for yourself.
In terms of protecting core beliefs, we should deal with them according to these three stages. If the other person is hurting your core beliefs, you should clearly tell the other person that the other person is hurting you and you should stop his behavior. At the same time, you should tell each other that he is hurting you in the name of love.
We taught others how to treat us. Be sure to tell your parents, superiors, partners and friends, pay attention to the facts and don't make personal attacks. If he still won't listen, remember to stay away from him
The second layer of defense: correctly handle your relationship with yourself.
First of all, don't attack yourself. Anyone who lives with us will attack us once or several times a day at most, and we are the people who get along with ourselves the most, so others may punch you once a day, but you are the one who has the opportunity to hit you dozens of times.
If you don't love yourself, how can you stop others from ruining you?
Secondly, we should realize our differences. We are life, and life cannot be standardized. Just like mountains and rivers, flowers and plants are all different.
Don't set a trap for yourself, don't envy others, accept yourself and admit that you are different from others. A person who gives up his differences and caters to the public has no charm of his own.