"Children's emotions are particularly sensitive", "Children will suddenly be unwilling to go to kindergarten and always want to go home in tears" ... One of the parents' representatives, Tong Tong's mother, expressed her anxiety.

"Why do parents think that children's emotions are easy to change and it is difficult for children to bring them?" Wang Yanhua said, "Although every child is different, some children do have some emotional problems. But as parents, we should accept it with a peaceful mind and meditate in our hearts: this is a normal phenomenon. After all, children are children, not adults. "

In Wang Yanhua's view, both kindergarten teachers and parents should have the awareness and attitude of acceptance, and be more "allowed" and "tolerant". For example, parents should be more tolerant when children are allowed to cry and vent their emotions, especially when they don't want to go to kindergarten when they get up. At the same time, she also suggested that parents should think more about ways to communicate with their children. "Even a child of five or six years old is still a child and should be treated as a child. Don't say,' You are my brother, why are you crying?' Give him a hug, caress him, touch his head and kiss him. "

"Is it because of this? Because of that? ..... "Wang Yanhua went one step further-next, parents should help their children make attribution and let them do multiple-choice questions instead of short-answer questions. Really care about inquiries, explore the real reasons for children's emotions, and positively guide children to learn to sort out their emotions. At the same time, parents should also contact the teacher. For example, children have friction with children in kindergarten, or want to fight for the first place without fighting for the first place, which in turn affects their mood. At this time, in the face of many children, teachers may not be able to observe all of them, which requires a natural and comfortable connection between parents and teachers. In this way, these problems can be solved easily.

Wang Yanhua further stated that kindergarten teachers also need to intervene in time, and gradually let children learn to actively adjust by assisting in adjustment and diluting, transferring and driving positive emotions. Teachers and parents should pay attention to contact, and children can actively strengthen emotional contact with teachers by showing themselves, pretending to play games, reading picture books and deliberately practicing.

Keywords: habit formation

"My second child often has fear of difficulties, such as changing the topic if he is not confident that he can't master it, and he doesn't want to get up in the morning. If we force ourselves to get dressed, we will cry. Should we condone this situation or should we force it? " Parents ask questions on behalf of mother Liu.

"In fact, behind children's fear of difficulties, it is closely related to the problem of habit formation." Wang Yanhua pointed out that most of them have these "difficulties" in habit formation: there are often differences in education, and it is difficult for family members to form a joint force, especially with the opinions of the elderly; It is difficult to grasp the key points and key contents, because there are too many habits, which leads to no clue; It is difficult to establish and maintain habits, impulsive and anticlimactic. In this process, it is easy for parents to compromise or give up because of physical and emotional problems.

It is so difficult to cultivate children's good behavior habits. What should parents do? Wang Yanhua prescribed three corresponding "prescriptions".

First, we should fully communicate with our families, especially with the elderly. We should pay attention to strategies and methods, respect and affirm first, communicate patiently from the perspective of children's development, get the understanding and cooperation of our families, and reach an understanding in children's education.

Second, don't rush for success, calm down, grasp the main contradiction, and put aside the secondary problems first. To alleviate your anxiety and children's discomfort, first choose one of the most important habits, such as brushing your teeth before going to bed at night. Specifically, children can learn about the importance of protecting dental health bit by bit through picture books. Then you can learn from adults and play games by looking in the mirror, so that children can form habits.

Third, make good use of your child's super imitation learning ability and strengthen the role model and leading role of yourself and your family. Therefore, adults must first make demands on their children.

At the same time, it is necessary to establish trust and cooperation with teachers, actively communicate with kindergarten teachers, understand children's habits in kindergarten, and let the habits developed in kindergarten continue at home, such as washing hands, gargling and brushing teeth. Parents should also pay attention to rewarding and strengthening good habits instead of punishing and denying bad words and deeds. It is also necessary for children to experience the "reward" or "sweetness" brought by good habits, which is not necessarily a material reward. Teacher's affirmation and parents' comfort are the best rewards for children.

"Parents, especially mothers, should learn to show weakness appropriately. Super strong mother has been taken care of, what else do I need? Therefore, parents will have uncomfortable times and need children to take care of you; When you are unhappy, you need children to come. " Wang Yanhua said, "If parents can be a little careless and a little weak, maybe life will be better! "

Keywords: learning quality

Learning is also a topic that parents are generally concerned about. How to cultivate children's good study habits? What learning abilities do children need to develop? ..... Wang Yanhua said that these, in the final analysis, involve the quality of learning.

In Wang Yanhua's view, one of the main reasons is that parents don't want to lose. In reality, due to parents' anxiety and pressure to enter a higher school, parents often pay attention to the cultivation of specific skills or the instillation of specific knowledge, but ignore the cultivation of learning quality and enroll their children in various training classes. There are still many parents who do not see through the core and essence of learning, lack understanding of learning quality, lack sensitivity to children's interests, exploration desires and problems, and cannot give timely response, feedback or guidance.

Wang Yanhua gave some advice to parents to make it easy and relatively simple to take care of children. How can it be simple? "Our parents should have a mentality, which is called' can't afford to lose'. This' can't afford to lose' is by no means to say that everything has been lost, not at all, but to allow my children to be not all-rounders. "

Education cultivates people's vision, and everyone and every child have their own personalized characteristics. Where are these personalized functions? Maybe it's different interests, maybe it's different specialties. "The points of interest are different and the development speed is different. The psychological characteristics of children determine such characteristics. " Wang Yanhua said.

"If you can take care of yourself from an early age and take care of your simple life, you may take care of your life in the future." Wang Yanhua said that for preschool children, the most important ability is to take care of themselves. When it comes to learning quality, such as perseverance, concentration and persistence, parents must talk about future concentration and persistence on the premise of protecting their children's exploration, exploration and curiosity. "If people have been focusing on dismantling that thing and you yell at them every time, it will actually be destroyed." And if faced with a timid child, the first thing parents should do is how to form an environment of bold expression and bold reform and exploration in the family.

In addition, Wang Yanhua once again stressed that parents should establish contact with teachers and create opportunities to bring their children closer to teachers. For example, give the task to the teacher, take it home with the kindergarten task, and then show it to the children ... create sufficient conditions for the children's exploration and learning, cultivate their sense of task, and let them bravely meet the challenges. This article comes from the official account of "Haidian Education" WeChat.