Parents' classroom | A good education is not to teach children to be the first.
It is to awaken the seeds in children's hearts.
The "six sins" committed by the mother when the child was devastated.
Crime of reaching out and writing
There is a saying in China: A dutiful son is born under a stick!
Parents who have experienced parents' beating and cursing have followed the education methods of the previous generation and will also educate their children by beating and cursing. Thinking about playing.
Scolding children is to correct their bad behavior. As long as it is good for children, it is natural. However, most of the time.
Contrary to expectations, it even causes serious psychological trauma such as abandonment, fear, self-abandonment and rebellious psychology.
Eight tricks of positive discipline, such as violence and hatred, don't fight or scold.
1. Learn more about children 2. Absorb education
3. listen to your child's thoughts patiently? Put down your body.
5. Reasoning with children? Negotiate with children
7. Don't teach children when they are angry? 8. Treat children sincerely
Never better than other people's children.
Vanity makes many parents like to compare. As long as the child is not the first, always take other people's children.
Contrast, and the mantra is often: look at others, then look at you, why the score is so low. And so on, because in the environment of exam-oriented education in China, many parents evaluate their children's intelligence according to their grades.
The original intention of parents is not to say how bad their children are, but to hope that their children can find their own shortcomings by comparing with others.
But this method is wrong. Not only can it not help children improve themselves, but it will cause children's rebellious psychology. Children will think why parents always think other people's children are better, are they not satisfied with themselves and are they not satisfied with themselves?
Have opinions. After a long time, you will lose confidence in yourself.
Force children to say hello to people they don't know.
The harm of forcing children to say hello;
1. Children will suffer from social phobia and don't like to associate with people.
2. Children will feel inferior and lose their self-esteem.
Children will become rebellious and go against their parents.
Understand the reasons behind children's dislike of greeting.
1. I dare not say hello. 2. Shy and nervous. I don't like it.
I don't know. It's normal for children not to say hello. As parents, you can't label your children at will. "It is impolite not to say hello."
"My child is introverted" and "Why is this child so timid". If the child doesn't say hello, it's just a sense of self-protection and will only show willingness or unwillingness. If the child doesn't want to say hello, don't force the child, let alone scold the child.
★ Endless homework and endless training courses.
In order not to let the children lose at the starting line, parents are ready for their children.
Various training courses and summer camps fill the children's schedules.
I once saw a mother open the calendar in her mobile phone and used up all seven colors: red, orange, yellow, green, blue and purple. "I haven't reported my son's contact yet. There are already so many training courses." Accordingly, parents' wallets are shrinking rapidly, and they are embarrassed to go out for training classes without spending 10 thousand yuan in summer vacation. For children, life is full of endless homework, occupying their own play time, making them anxious, nervous and even depressed!
Give something to your child at will.
Giving gifts to children without permission? This kind of behavior will ruin the child.
In the "real right world", toys transferred to children privately are difficult to make up, which will make children feel insecure. Because toys are as important to them as houses and cars are to adults. Such an important thing can be easily deprived, how can it be safe?
Parents should be the people that children trust most, but once this happens, the trust in parents in children's hearts will be quickly lost. The more important a child thinks, the deeper his distrust of his parents will be.