Do you know how to cultivate children's confidence and courage? For their children, they are too timid to do anything by themselves and have no opinions. In this way, it is also very easy for school bullying. Let me tell you how to cultivate children's confidence and courage.

How to cultivate children's self-confidence and courage 1 First, adjust the relationship between adults and children. Let children feel that their parents like him, respect him, have a gentle attitude, and children feel good, so they are often lively, enthusiastic and confident.

Second, we should set an example. Create an environment to cultivate children's self-confidence, so that children can be "confident" in a subtle way. Usually, when I encounter something, I often say something encouraging to my children, "You can do it, you can do it." Because children's self-evaluation often depends on adults' evaluation, adults treat children with a positive and convincing attitude, and he will realize in his young mind that I can do what others can do. Parents should have a confident and optimistic personality, courage and self-improvement, do not be timid, set up a good image for their children and create a good spiritual atmosphere.

Third, pay attention to and protect children's self-esteem. More praise and less blame will help to improve children's self-esteem, because children with strong self-esteem are full of confidence in their activities and lack self-confidence. Parents should not use harsh language to satirize their children, do not overwhelm their own children's shortcomings with the advantages of others' children, do not punish or disrespect their children in front of others, do not ignore their children's words, and do not abuse their power, so as not to damage their self-esteem and make them feel inferior and lose their self-confidence. Therefore, we should pay special attention to protecting children's self-esteem, helping children develop their sense of self-esteem and establish firm self-confidence.

Fourth, let children gain confidence from the joy of success. The condition of cultivating children's self-confidence is to let children get successful experiences, and too many failed experiences often make children doubt their abilities. Therefore, teachers and parents should put forward tasks and requirements suitable for children's level according to their development characteristics and individual differences, and set a suitable goal for children to accomplish through hard work. For example, let him jump, try to take down the flower basket, and cultivate self-confidence in continuous success. Don't hang the basket too high, and the actual ability is not as good as that, which leads to repeated failures and setbacks in self-confidence. Similarly, they also need to learn one thing smoothly to gain self-confidence. A child who always can't do well in games can hardly regard himself as a successful person. He will lower his confidence, so he won't try again. The less he tries, the worse he can do, the less confident he will be, forming a vicious circle. Adults should help them finish what they want to do and eliminate this vicious circle. In addition, children who lack self-confidence need special attention. For example, for timid children, we should consciously let them undertake certain tasks at home or in class, and cultivate boldness and self-confidence in the process of completing tasks.

How to cultivate children's self-confidence and courage 2. Four training methods to improve children's courage;

(1) Enhance boys' self-confidence. First of all, parents should encourage and support the boy, enhance his confidence and let him participate in children's activities more. Although he can just stand there and watch, it will take time. He will gradually adapt to the environment and may get better.

(2) Parents cultivate his courage by themselves. If children are kept in a good mood and face life happily, people in a good mood will improve their self-confidence and courage; Fathers can have more contact with their children, and fathers also have time to lead their sons to participate in activities, such as playing in crowded places, sitting on the seesaw in the park, and watching animals in the zoo; Find some boys who are familiar with children, play with them often, and get used to it.

(3) Let children participate in outdoor and group activities. Now they are all only children, and children are easily drowned in the atmosphere of doting at home. Children have a strong sense of' from 1 year and a half'. The care and care given to them by their parents and grandparents will gradually make them form a pampered mentality and invisibly enhance their dependence. Boys and girls should be allowed to play together more and give their children some "wild" space. At the same time, take him to the park more often. Those thrilling games with high insurance coefficient help to cultivate children's strong personality and adventurous spirit.

(4) Cultivate children's self-reliance. In life, try to let children do their own things, or let them do exciting actions at home and carry their own schoolbags.

Confident children are very "out of line"

As a parent, I can understand why parents want their children to be "valued by teachers". The purpose of parents is to affirm their children's abilities and hope that their children can stand out and have more opportunities. But I think that teachers' concern for children is only a way to make children stand out, and the most fundamental thing is how to make children produce a trait that attracts people's attention. As far as my work experience is concerned, those confident children often stand out among a group of children.

Self-confidence is the driving force that supports a person to do anything. If you want others to find your child, value him and trust him, you must first let him have confidence in himself. From the perspective of children's lifelong development, it is more important for parents to stimulate their children's subjective positive factors of "I can do it" than to pay attention to whether their children are valued by teachers. You can refer to the following suggestions to make your child confident and valued:

1, caring children are valued.

The love of relatives is the attachment and support of children's confidence. You should treat your children with patience and love. Don't be angry with him, don't vent your unsatisfactory feelings in work and life on your child, and don't alienate your child on the pretext of being busy and tired. Please spare ten or twenty minutes to communicate with your child every day, listen to your child's talk, and let your child feel your concern for him. Your love will bring children's love for the world, and a caring child is lovable everywhere.

For example, when your child is in a bad mood, you can formally sit face to face with him. Tell your child that you are willing to share his troubles and treat him as an adult. Children will feel that they are valued and cared for. No matter whether the problem can be solved smoothly, they will gradually have confidence in themselves.

2, equality, so that children have confidence.

You should make your child feel that you value him, not protect him. It is a good idea to treat the child as an independent individual and let him participate in the decision-making of something he can understand at home.

For example, if you want to buy a desk lamp for your child, you can ask your child, "What kind of lamp looks good?" If you want to buy a picture book for your child, you'd better ask his advice first. Don't underestimate the child's opinion, his thinking ability is not as we thought. If you ask him, "Who do you think should wash the dishes today?" Maybe, he will be willing to do it himself!

You should allow and encourage children to question adults and have the courage to apologize to adults. Children who grow up in such an atmosphere will always feel their importance. If their opinions are accepted, adopted and taken seriously, then their self-confidence will sprout.

3. Say "I believe you can do it" several times.

Please believe that this sentence has potential motivation for children. You can constantly emphasize this sentence and use it to encourage children when they are afraid of difficulties. In addition, in daily life, children can be asked to do things that need to "jump up and pick fruits".

For example, if a child can tie a knot with a rope, let him learn to tie a bow again; If the child can organize the books on the shelf, let him learn to organize the drawers; If a child can fold a towel blanket, he is required to learn to fold a thin quilt again. There are many "difficulties" in life that children need to experience and overcome, and when children feel the joy of overcoming difficulties and the joy of success, they will naturally produce "I really can do it!" "So I can do it!" Experience.

4. Horizontal comparison will hurt children's self-confidence.

You should look at your child from a developmental perspective, refer to his past and present vertically, affirm his success and progress in any aspect in time, and let him have the confidence that he can do it, and constantly enrich and expand this belief.

Don't compare your child with other children horizontally, such as "Look, Xiao Mingcan answers questions in class." "Look, Xiao Qiang won the prize in the piano competition." "Xiao Gang's sports are great. Look at you, alas ..... "In fact, you have compared the advantages of your own children with those of all children, which is unfair and will only push your children to feel inferior, thus denying yourself a dead end.

5, self-confidence is to face up to weaknesses, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses.

You should let your children establish the idea that everyone will have something they don't understand or understand, and they also have better skills than others. Adults and children are all the same. For example, a child can't sing and dance, but he can still draw; The child can't draw, but he tells stories well; Children can't tell stories well, but they can recognize many words; Children can't read, but they are very sensitive; The child is not agile, but he has a kind heart. ...

As long as you are careful enough, you will find that although your child is inferior to other children in many places, he is always better than others in a certain respect. For his weaknesses, as long as he tries his best, for his strengths, you should encourage your children to make them stronger and better.

Of course, your praise and encouragement to children should also be measured. For some children whose self-confidence is about to overflow, you might as well beat about the bush beside him and let him know the truth that "there are people outside, there are days behind". Self-righteous "Superman" babies are not easy to please.

Teachers' attention is different from that of parents and kindergarten teachers.

From the perspective and vision of parents, "teachers attach importance to it or not" generally refers to the following three aspects:

1. Parents ask their children, "Did you take part in the competition?" "Did you participate in the performance?" Wait for questions, and then get bits and pieces of information from the children's short answers;

2. Parents' understanding of children's personality ability, such as: my children are lively and capable, and teachers may pay more attention. If my child is introverted, the teacher will definitely not like him;

3, parents in the process of communication with the teacher, parents' wishes and goals and the results of the teacher's handling methods have reached a * * * understanding.

Parents usually combine these three aspects, and then form the concept of whether children are valued by teachers in kindergarten. But in fact, this only equates "the degree of appearance" with "the teacher's attention", and parents equate their own guesses with the teacher's practice.

From the teacher's point of view and vision, "teacher's concern" is actually a kind of timely care and help for children, which is determined by the particularity of kindergartens. Because the physical and mental development of kindergarten children is in the stage of self-care ability and heteronomy of thought and behavior; Moreover, due to the different personality habits of each child, the teacher's attention to children is reflected in many small details that are easily overlooked by parents.

Such as which child has a stomachache; Which child is in a bad mood today; Which child still wants to add vegetables; Which child doesn't like celery; Whose art paper was torn; Which children are fighting for toys and so on. The probability and frequency of this happening to every child in one day are very high, and he may encounter similar details dozens of times. Children's life in kindergarten is actually composed of such details. In this sense, every child is the object of teachers' attention.

Kindergarten adheres to the principle of "combining education with protection, putting the preservation of characters first" and emphasizes the primary task of promoting the healthy development of children's body and mind, while competitions, performances and other opportunities for children to "show their faces" are only an episode in kindergarten life.