Well, the family planning instructors found the root of the problem, handled the problem well and faced it with a good attitude.

B. Who is the best tutor for family system arrangement in China?

I spent a lot of time in the process of arranging courses in the family department. To sum up, it is hard to say which teacher is the best, but each has its own style. I have taken courses with Li Laohu myself. I have also attended many other teachers' courses, but I found that there are mainly two factions. The above three teachers expounded the laws of human relations in the way of family system arrangement, and then taught students to improve themselves by understanding these laws. Finally, students can face all the problems in life by growing up. Other teachers' methods are mainly "handling", that is, "removing" students' problems by means of family system arrangement. My personal feeling is that even if the problem is removed, it may not change this person's ideology. If ideology does not change, problems will follow. So I agree that systematic arrangement is a means of education. Not just therapy. I am deeply impressed by Mr Tiger's course, because he is the only teacher in China who combines China's traditional culture with the family system. Therefore, his studio is very suitable for China people. You can learn more about it when you have the opportunity.

C. Who is the best tutor for family system arrangement in China?

It is really a hard work to do the course of family system arrangement. The stadiums in Leiming and Li Laohu have their own merits. This paper mainly expounds the law of interpersonal relationship, so that students' self-awareness can be continuously improved. Finally, we can achieve the effect of facing life problems directly. In addition, the role of other teachers is mainly to remove students' problems. I think even if students' problems are removed, their dominant ideas will still be difficult to change. Among these teachers, I have a deep impression on Miss Tiger. Because he is the only teacher in China who combines the traditional culture of China with the arrangement of family system. So his studio is very suitable for China people. It's worth learning.

D. Introduction to family-arranged psychotherapy

Family arrangement psychotherapy, also known as family system arrangement therapy. This is a new topic in modern psychology. 1

E. Is the family system arrangement a scam? A class costs more than 2000 yuan.

Family arrangement can be said to be a psychological technique. Family layout is not to solve the so-called problems of the whole family and ancestors, but to create an atmosphere. Participants should try different viewpoints and look at the existing facts. In the final analysis, it is a cognitive therapy using hypnosis.

This theory has certain scientific basis. Of course, some training institutions will exaggerate the effect and create a mysterious atmosphere, which requires objective and dialectical analysis and cannot be fully believed. As a participant, you need to understand its therapeutic factors and working principle. In addition, the effects achieved by participants will vary from person to person. The key may be whether you can face difficulties with a more positive and optimistic attitude towards life and choose more possibilities.

Your attitude towards life has changed, which will naturally have a positive impact on the people around you and form a virtuous circle for the support system. These are also relatively scientific.

F. Is the arrangement of Heeringer family system deceptive?

As a die-hard fan of Hai Lao, let me explain:

Hellinger, a master among masters, was born in Germany, where psychologists came forth in large numbers. He is serious and easy to face. The workshop of Shanghai Linger family arrangement is a kind of enjoyment. When you see such a kind and wise old man, we will think of his old "friend" Lao Zi. Teacher Hei Linger often mentions Laozi's Tao, and we walk with him.

The "filing" in the home layout scene is the most surprising and incomprehensible part. Why do representatives know nothing about what happened in their own families and never know family members, but they can understand and express the feelings of family members and their relationships through physical perception? This is in conflict with our traditional science education. Our belief in breaking superstition is deeply rooted in our minds, but what kind of science is real and what is not, and what is tangible is science? For this phenomenon, Mr. Hellinger probably said so. I don't know why, but I know it can serve our needs, which is enough. I observe it and use it.

In this respect, quantum mechanics provides us with the basis of explanation. It is said that no matter how far the distance between two interrelated particles is, the change of 1 particle will definitely cause the change of another particle, no matter how far the distance is. One person's thoughts can influence another person's thoughts, no matter how far away.

It is mentioned in the Notes on Internal Syndrome Observation that distant stars provide specific energy support for the human body every moment of every day. The interaction between celestial bodies and humans is beyond our imagination. Life is the soul of all things, supported by heaven and earth. Ancient people didn't have binoculars. What do they rely on to observe celestial bodies? They even counted the stars in the Milky Way. What do they rely on? By opening their eyes! Hua tuo doesn't have a microscope. Why can he find the tumor in the skull? Why can he see it through his eyes after the internal syndrome? From Fu, to Lao Zi, Confucius, Hua Tuo, Zhang Zhongjing, etc., they all passed the internal work certificate to reach the highest achievement in their respective fields. Western medicine can cure the visible, while Chinese medicine can cure the "nothing", which is invisible to the naked eye at ordinary times. This requires the internal syndrome to open its eyes to see the hidden part.

Internal syndrome should be benign first,

1. Read classics, Tao Te Ching, Heart Sutra.

2. Application in daily life, consciousness

Practice, practice

If you are interested, you can look at Notes on Internal Syndrome Observation written by Anonymous.

What we say will be questioned when modern western medicine prevails in China, but have we found that the more advanced science and technology, the weaker human function, as if there is a law of conservation of energy.

In our country, there is a saying called "ask death". When we often dream about our deceased relatives, we can find that "the owners are on the same plane", commonly known as "witches". They are a group of psychics with particularly strong negative energy, who can easily let the deceased possess themselves and communicate with us on behalf of the deceased. This is a custom that has been circulating in Chaoshan area. This arrangement is similar to our family system. In a specific environment, it spans time and space and arranges people and things in different time and space into a field to present. This is a family system arrangement. (Taiwan Province Province is also called family constellation therapy. The human family is like the stars in the sky, each in its place, following a certain order and being indispensable. And human itself is a huge system, and each organ operates like a family.

In fact, all over the world, every nation has its own way, so that the dead and the living have some kind of communication bridge and some emotions can be released. Around the world-famous psychic theory 1840, sister flowers in Britain claimed that they could communicate with their ancestors, which was a similar situation. Here is a story about astrology: When Neptune returns to Pisces, every 170 years, Neptune, a symbol of human subconscious, will return to Pisces, his guardian constellation, and stay here for 14 years, which is a highly developed period of human consciousness. Last time Neptune came back, he brought us a declaration. The Taiping Heavenly Kingdom Movement led by Hong Xiuquan of China is very religious, and it brought gifts, and naturally it also brought some bad things. For example, opium has been widely used, and addiction and loss are also very serious. The borderless unconsciousness brought by Neptune will cause addiction and indulgence to some extent! This requires us to grasp it well.

Modern science has brought a lot of convenience to people, such as network, transportation, daily life, etc. The damage to nature has also increased dramatically with the rapid development of science and technology, so it is time to stop and ask, is our so-called science really scientific? China's ancient ancestors were very clever. We have discovered coal since the Neolithic Age, but we know that we can't dig too much underground, and our golden mean will keep a balance. Gunpowder was invented in the Ming Dynasty, and we used it to set off firecrackers. When the west developed, it used them as weapons, but now it is even more outrageous. With the development of science and technology, physics research has reached a high level, but nuclear weapons were invented for mass destruction. Is our civilization progressive or retrogressive, a civilization of love or a civilization of fear? Whether it is to change political power by burning, killing and looting or to solve it in a civilized way, in any case, this is human beings, who need to compete for their own survival like the animal kingdom, and at the same time allow each other a place. Human beings are spiritual animals, both animal and spiritual, and they are a mixture of spirit and flesh.

Krishnamurti, an Indian wise man, was asked what he should do to achieve world peace. Kirchner replied: Don't be the cause of war. This is shocking. There is a war in each of us. Wars and natural disasters in this world are related to our hearts. The inner state of billions of people has a great influence on the whole world and even the universe. Only when our hearts are harmonious and less greedy can the world become more "harmonious". In fact, the universe has always been harmonious, and the disharmony is our heart.

It's a little far, haha

G. the difference between organizational system arrangement and family system arrangement

As the name implies, the arrangement of organizational system refers to serving units and groups, and the arrangement of family system serves the improvement of family relations, so it should be! Ha ha!

H. can the family arrange it once?

Generations are determined by ancestors when compiling genealogy or branches inherited from genealogy, and are used repeatedly. Therefore, as a successor, as long as you check according to the genealogy, you can use seniority. If there are scattered family branches, they will be ranked according to the rules, but most of them will return to their original places to recognize their ancestors, supplement their columns, continue their genealogy and merge into the family. So, you don't know the family hierarchy, so you can't make it up yourself. You have to visit the patriarch and consult the genealogy. The significance of generations lies in reflecting the relationship between individuals and families. Families and society don't recognize the generations they made up behind closed doors, just like dogs, it's useless to make up. In addition, only people with the same surname and the same clan can be ranked according to their generation. 1, and the arrangement law of each generation of the same family is consistent; 2. As long as they belong to the same clan, most of them have genealogy to check, so they can be verified. People with the same surname and different clans may not be in the same generation order after hundreds of thousands of years, or even very different. So generations are not randomly arranged. For example, my family moved from my hometown to the provincial capital, and grandfather's uncle wrote down the family tree before leaving. Of course, there are many families whose genealogies have been recorded for hundreds of years, and we don't have the energy to remember them all (we need to copy them word by word with a brush, and copying, taking pictures and scanning are not allowed), and neither are the people who manage the genealogy. Future generations of my family will know something about their roots and life experiences.

I. Benefits of arranging workshops in the family system

Workshop on family system arrangement

This is an effective tool to dredge the relationship, and it is the knowledge that supports the growth of life and leads to happiness and harmony. Systematic arrangement is based on the "five relations" emphasized by Confucianism, the traditional wisdom of the East, that is, the ethical thought of "father and son are related, husband and wife are different, the age is orderly, the monarch and the minister are righteous, and friends are trustworthy", which is a fusion of the knowledge of modern western psychology. It is also a concrete practice of applying family, interpersonal and social relations. A workshop that can rewrite the "life script"!

? A workshop that lets you go your own way!

? A workshop that can regenerate life!

We often watch movies and TV and often lament the fate of the protagonists in these works, especially the tragic figures! Only when we get out of the theater will reason tell us that the fate of the protagonist is arranged by the screenwriter and director.

If life is also a performance, who is our screenwriter? Who is the director?

According to the research results of psychologists for many years, before 12 years old, a person's life "scripts" were written, and the love, hate, sadness and joy behind them were just "stage performances" of these "scripts". However, the playwrights in this period were more our parents (or important people in our lives).

Warren Bart said: If someone says that money can't buy happiness, he just doesn't know where to buy it. So, if you say there is no regret medicine in the world, you just don't know where to find it yet.

In a sense, the family system arrangement workshop is a unique "regret medicine"!

The home system can solve for you:

1. Gender relations

The great difference between men and women, the influence of mother and child, father and daughter, ex-partner, and the influence of their families on marriage and feelings.

Theme: affair, divorce, abortion, infertility, poor communication, revenge and reconciliation.

2. Parental relationship and parent-child relationship

Life: the most precious gift

Children: the mirror of family, the order and dislocation of love, the priority of system, loyalty and blind obedience.

Theme: Divorce in the face of parents' conflict, parents' disconnection in childhood, children's symptoms and bad behavior, adoption, addiction and so on.

3. Family, brotherhood and kinship

Family: the same fate, intergenerational transmission, repeated family model, family black hole: excluded and forgotten family members, beyond harm and victimization, respect and reconcile family secrets, respect and inherit family power, and create a better future.

Theme: family trauma, death, accident, immigration, past events, money disputes, etc.

4. The relationship between career and money

My relationship with money, love and money, common obstacles of money, money and guilt, excessive addiction to money.

5. Various hobbies

Hobbies: addiction to cigarettes, alcohol, sex, food and shopping. ...

6. Common emotional distress

Powerlessness, inexplicable emotions, fear, anger, sadness, insecurity, anxiety, low self-worth and meaningless life. ...

7. Special topics

Adoption, abortion, special birth, infertility, premature death, remarried family, divorce, breakup, affair, homosexuality, domestic violence, family disharmony, single-parent family, children's psychological barriers, learning disabilities, teenagers' puppy love, suicide, death and mourning, hospice care, major choices, career planning. ...

If your life is not satisfactory, do you continue to endure it, drag out an ignoble existence and pass on this lifestyle from generation to generation (children will faithfully inherit their parents' lifestyle)? Or face it directly, act immediately, turn around and embrace the sunshine life comedy!

This is a problem! But for smart friends, this is not a problem!

A beautiful life, you and I deserve it!

Let's walk into the workshop together and embrace the sunny life!

Training time of Canadian-American workshops arranged by International-Family System: March +0-24, May16-July 17-20, September 1 1-65438.

-Training time: March 0 13, April 0 1-03, April 25-27, April 0 1-03, June 13- 15 and July/kloc-0. 38+065438+1October1-1365438+February 2 1-23

Venue: Beijing Lecturer: Lei Jian Lecturer.

J. How do families pay attention to seniority when sorting and naming?

Dai is a Chinese vocabulary, and Pinyin is bèi fen, which refers to the position in family, relatives and friends. It also refers to the bloodline between family, relatives and friends. Mainly divided into elders (great-grandparents, great-grandparents, grandparents, parents, etc. ), peers and younger generations. Also known as "seniority".

The arrangement of generations is often reflected in the names of people. It is not only convenient for the same family to rank and recognize generations, but also convenient for compiling genealogy. Generally speaking, people who decide their seniority by characters always put these generational characters after surnames, such as Zhang Xueliang and Zhang. There are several generations from the royal family to the folk. Ordinary people are not particularly particular about this generation, such as Bai Xiaowen and Bai Xiaowu, the sons of Bai Jiaxuan in the novel White Deer Plain. The word "filial piety" is a word like loyalty and filial piety, and there is no particularly strict evolution of substitute words. For another example, in the names of our fathers, the words used from generation to generation are generally words with better meanings. Under this clan concept, the general seniority is mainly reflected in men, and women are not included in the genealogy, so they are not adopted. Nowadays, sisters in many families seem to use generational words, but generally they just choose the same word to express their sisterhood, without a sense of generation. The line generation figures are arranged in a certain order within the clan, which is not optional for parents or me. The word genealogy generation school is used to strengthen the patriarchal clan system, so its words fully embody this purpose. There are mainly three kinds: one is virtue or auspicious words, such as virtue, benevolence, brightness, filial piety, happiness, wealth, luck, auspiciousness and virtue; The second category is the words that hope the clan will continue and prosper, such as: eternal, legendary, long, prosperous, prosperous, delayed, inherited and inherited. The third category is the words that cherish the memory of ancestors and praise the kindness of the emperor, such as: Ze, Zu, Xian, Rong, En, Qi, Xian and so on. Genealogy is a particularly important part of genealogy, which is generally formulated by a celebrity in the family and compiled into a few auspicious words, and some scholars even write it into poetry. For example, the down family tree in Zhejiang is "Yongchanglong, Heliangduan and Ruiningcong"; The line generation school of Wang's genealogy in Hubei Province is "aboveboard, success comes later, the world goes on, and the family thinks."