First: Know yourself correctly.
1. Set goals: Whether it is employment goals, career development direction or career planning, the clearer you set this goal, the more it can conform to the reality of yourself and society, and then you can have a clear goal.
2. Analyze yourself: analyze your strengths and weaknesses from your own personality, experience, ability, interests, contacts and many other factors to see what strengths you need to play and what shortcomings you need to make up.
There are many ways to know yourself and know yourself. A more intuitive method is to give yourself a test of personality and professional interest. After years of psychological counseling and career counseling, I found that several evaluations are very helpful for us to know ourselves objectively and choose a suitable career. MBTI test, Holland's career interest test, PDP test and Gallup's advantage identification are all very good evaluation tools.
Second, a correct understanding of contemporary society.
1. Contemporary China society is in the process of transformation, with many problems, and it is generally a process of progress. At present, it is changing from an industrial society (industrialization has reached a certain level) to an information society (informationization).
2. There are always a lot of jobs in society that can't be satisfied, and many people can't find suitable jobs. We need to analyze our own advantages and which jobs match, and targeted response is more effective than blindness.
If knowing yourself is a bosom friend, then knowing society is knowing yourself. Know yourself and yourself. Knowing what they want and the current social situation, the gap between them appears. Then how to adapt will come out.
Third, choose a way to adapt to society.
1. Improve the ability
We should lay a solid foundation in school. Basic professional knowledge should be excellent, just like Gai Lou. What you learn at school seems useless, but it is actually the cornerstone. The firmer you play, the higher the building will be. Read more books, read good books and read through them. Can you study hard? Certainly not, "nothing is a scholar" and "what you get on paper is always shallow". What do you want? In practice, it is necessary to print the truth on the certificate.
B) create more practical opportunities. While ensuring the course credits, actively create * * * and internship opportunities through yourself and your relationship, and do everything possible to strive for the same type of companies and positions you set for employment goals to exercise. Short-term is not enough, just superficial perfunctory. At first glance, it's just a formality. Volunteer to find a professional position to help. The longer you do it, the better. Without more than half a year, it is impossible to have a deeper understanding of the actual operation of a major, and then you will find problems that bother you in practice. You need to think about this question, and you may need to look for the answer in books. In this process of repeated reading and practice, your thinking ability and cognitive ability have been greatly enhanced.
How to improve the ability, pay attention to the following six aspects: (1) form the core competitiveness of self; Achieve career development goals with the spirit of self-improvement; Shaping good professional ethics and personal morality; Clarify "hard skills" and understand "soft skills"; Tap your own potential; Seize the opportunity to make you feel at home.
2. Establish and accumulate a good social network.
A) Interpersonal relationship is a network of relationships, which, like other networks, is composed of a combination of lines. Generally, there are classmates, relatives, colleagues, peers and netizens. A network becomes a circle, and many networks become many circles, crossing or far away from each other. The communication between people is carried out through these lines and networks. Some businesses are built on such relationships, such as sales. In addition to strange visits, it is more important to write down all your social relationships, that is, all your connections, and then develop your own opportunities in them.
B) interpersonal relationship is like the relationship between saving money in the bank and withdrawing money. You invest to save money, and you use relationships to withdraw money. You take money from your parents' accounts, from relatives and friends' accounts. If you don't live up to expectations, you won't be selected if you don't do well in the exam and get the most difference. Even if you choose to come in, you don't know world manners, you can't do things well, and your career development will not be smooth.
How to build and accumulate contacts requires attention to the following five steps:
Step one: identify yourself.
What kind of person are you? What kind of person do you want to be? What kind of life do you want? What kind of career do you want to pursue? Or what kind of career do you want to be? What kind of circle do you want to live in?
Step 2: What kind of people do you need to associate with in order to achieve the above goals?
List the types of people who need to communicate (including personality, ability, resources, etc.). ) and establish a dream board for contacts.
Step 3: Where does the person you are looking for often move around?
Business partners haunt chambers of commerce, clubs, high-end cocktail parties, online chambers of commerce and other occasions; Growth partners appear in reading clubs, libraries, online book reviews and other occasions; Healthy partners haunt gyms, gymnasiums and other occasions; Wealth partners haunt investment forums, bank gatherings and other occasions.
Step 4: Contact and generate trust.
Why do these people associate with you? What value can you give them? Improve yourself and shape these values; Give each other value and gain trust.
Step 5: Maintain the relationship.
Telephone, email, conference and other communication maintenance; Do something to increase your mood; The longer the relationship lasts, the more economical it is.
Cultivate one's own morality
A) What is the purpose of studying and going to college? Is to become a talented person, become a valuable person, and create value for yourself, family and society. What is the standard of talents? One depends on character, the other on ability. What we practice is practical ability and work ability, and what we build is the network of relationships and public relations communication ability. These are secondary. If there is something wrong with a person's character, then what he has done will be questioned, and it may be better not to do it, but to do it less. In talent selection, it is also good in character and ability, and priority should be given to selection; Pay attention to cultivating people with good character and weak ability; Those with bad character and weak ability are put aside; Those with bad character and strong ability are the first to be fired.
B) The most important thing in self-cultivation is mentality. The current social culture is very utilitarian, which makes everyone impetuous and eager for success. The ancients said: "If you don't accumulate steps, you won't reach a thousand miles; You can't be a river without a trickle. "Only by accumulating a lot of money is learning, and it is truly level. But blindly anxious, thinking about success, thinking about getting rich, thinking about looking for opportunities, thinking about falling pies in the sky, thinking about stock trading, buying lottery tickets, thinking about getting rich, planting bitter fruits, harvesting crooked melons, will not feel real sweetness, will not have real happiness, will not get real happiness, will not get real success. Therefore, it is very important for young people to cultivate a peaceful mind. In addition to a peaceful attitude, we should also have a positive attitude.
Fourth: Action execution
Practice in study, work and life according to the way selected in the third step.
Here's a little story:
One believer hopes to win the lottery. So he prayed in the morning, at noon and at night. Walking and praying, sitting and praying, eating and praying. Pray that almighty god will let him win the first prize. As a result, as the days passed, his heart became more and more anxious and suspicious. One day, he finally got angry. He prayed, "Lord Almighty, why don't you always respond to my expectations?" Why do you turn a blind eye to me "At this moment, he heard a voice say to him," I have listened to your expectation for a long time, and I feel your sincerity, but no matter how much you expect to win the lottery, you must buy even a lottery ticket first, right? "
It is action that separates people; It is action that separates people. It is action that makes the difference between people.
Fifth: Perseverance
Stick to the goal you set. Keep moving.
I always believe that as long as we never give up, we still have a chance. Finally, we still firmly believe that as long as you have a dream, as long as you keep working hard, as long as you keep learning, no matter how you look, no matter this or that, a person's appearance is often inversely proportional to his talent. Today is cruel, tomorrow is even more cruel, and the day after tomorrow is beautiful, but most of them will die tomorrow night, but we can't see the sun the day after tomorrow, so we must persist in everything! Don't give up today. —— Ma Yun
Sixth: check and correct.
In the process of target implementation, if there is deviation, it is necessary to carefully analyze, adjust methods and respond flexibly in order to achieve the goal.
Several college students who participated in the dream come true training camp applied this method, and soon adapted to the society and embarked on their own career fast lane. Practice has proved that this theoretical system is very feasible.
How to learn to adapt to society, experience more and exercise more?
I started to be like you.
The more you experience outside, the more you know and the more you can do.
A person's life can't be peaceful ~ ~
What is the use of reading and watching TV? It's not something you've experienced. There may be many things in books that you can't do at all. Why not face yourself and experience it?
No one can teach you social experience.
The key is yourself ~!
Come on ~
How to adapt to society quickly? Keep a good relationship with colleagues and classmates, be modest, try not to judge others, be optimistic, work hard and finish the tasks of your superiors in time. Even if you are wrong, don't be afraid. Your leader will decide whether your plan is feasible.
How to better adapt to society Tolstoy said, "There are two kinds of people in the world: spectators and actors. Most people want to change the world, but don't want to change themselves. " Sometimes, we can't change the surrounding environment, but we can change ourselves and change our mentality and vision of looking at the surrounding environment. At that time, you will find that everything around us looks so beautiful, so hasn't the environment changed? Gao Cangjian, a famous Japanese actor, began to think all the time that he would one day escape from an environment that was not conducive to his development. It is precisely because of this idea that he not only can't make money, but also faces the crisis of being laid off. In order to make a living, his friend told him to try to adapt to this environment. You can't change the environment because of you. Later, he tried to change himself and let everything blend into the whole entertainment environment. Finally, he adapted to the environment of the sea like a fish in the lake, freestyle in the entertainment circle and became an international superstar.
It is an instinct for people to live in society. We may encounter many things to think about, face, endure and move forward.
That's enough.
If you feel vague, think about improving your self-care ability, basic labor ability, ability to choose and engage in a certain occupation, social communication ability and ability to restrain yourself with moral norms from these negative aspects.
When you are not strong enough, you should adapt to society. When you are strong, society will adapt to you.
How should we adapt to society? Adapting to society should be done from three aspects. First, you should keep learning and constantly improve your self-cultivation and all aspects of the level, especially the professional level and ability; Second, we should strive to change our "shortcomings" that are not suitable for society (some may not be shortcomings, but we should change or "reform" appropriately) and not be too "straight". Leave a back seat when doing things and talking; The third and most important one: be honest. Although the current society lacks honesty, it is necessary to have honesty in communication with people, which is based on the long-term, otherwise it will be impossible to gain a foothold in society without honesty.
Doing so is called being adapted. You set such a "rule", just follow it.
People have initiative, they can know the world and transform it.
How to adapt to society? Your topic is too big to talk about. I am afraid that a few words will leak and mislead others' children. I once recommended a book to the young people in the unit: Be the Best Oneself (by Kai-fu Lee). Recommended reading.
When many young people first come into contact with society, they are most afraid of office politics and want to know the hidden rules inside the unit. In fact, they are off track. If you have good qualities such as kindness, diligence, courage, honesty, humility, sense of justice and compassion, just like the sun shines in the dark, darkness will not exist.
If a young man should pay attention to something in a new environment, my suggestions are: listen more, see more, ask more, think more and remember more; Talk less, criticize less, complain less, and transmit less information; Respect for leadership; Unite colleagues; Law of life; Observe discipline.
Do this first, and then look at your ability and understanding.
How to make children "adapt to society" in advance As mentioned above, the environment of early education in Zhang Xinyang is different from that of ordinary children in several aspects: there is no experience in caring for grandparents, parents have more burdens, and children's interpersonal relationships are not so rich. But in a positive sense, children face simpler educators (of course, my speech is an afterthought). This environmental analysis has no reference significance for early childhood education and can be discussed again. Relying on the concern and understanding of the unit leaders and colleagues, I have more time to take care of this child. I spent a lot of energy on Zhang Xinyang's The Beginning of Life. There is no nanny in our family, because my mother's maternity leave (plus winter and summer vacations) is relatively generous (plus my father's escort), so the environment is relatively simple when the children are young. In addition to cultivating his initiative and autonomy with prone exercise, I have also done several things to let the child adapt to the external environment in advance-first, take the child out for a walk. As long as the weather is fine, I will carry the little guy around. Streets, parks, shops, rivers ... The variety of society itself brings great pleasure to children's hearts. Seeing the little guy babbling in his arms, his eyes were attracted by advertisements and pedestrians, and I felt a great pleasure myself. The second is to prepare his nursery in advance. Another occasion where I often take him is kindergarten. Ordinary parents often encounter such distress: on the first day of sending their children to kindergarten, the children will have a huge psychological gap and strong discomfort, crying and crying, making this scene like "Where are you going?" Take me to kindergarten activities in advance, so that he can adapt to this environment in advance. During that time, I went to several kindergartens in the city. Although the child does not belong to the formal "establishment" of the kindergarten, the aunts and children in the kindergarten do not exclude the child. Little guy doesn't think of himself as an outsider. As soon as he entered the small circle of new partners, he played with toys and was not humble at all. I'm a little reluctant to leave. Let me go to kindergarten early to "experience life", the main purpose is to prepare him for collective life in advance. I've always been so worried. I believe that people's temperament and personality characteristics are hereditary. I hold the idea that I can never "inherit" my cowardice, so I consciously and pertinently give him an early education. Zhang Xinyang's timidity finally showed up. It seems that the theory of personality inheritance still has its truth. He has a problem that he doesn't look at people and doesn't like to get ahead of others. These are all due to his personality. Fortunately, I consciously guided him in the early stage of his growth, such as making friends with friends and participating in the karaoke grand prix, and being generous to others. These purposeful trainings have more or less overcome his problems. Generally speaking, I am satisfied with the effect of education. He has been able to cope with some large-scale activities now. He will be a little shy when he meets unfamiliar people, but he can still talk and laugh and have a clear voice when he is familiar with them. I think this child has surpassed his father in this respect. His mother's diary also recorded his "public relations content". I am over two years old. At this time, I am good at expressing my requirements, reciting many ancient poems and children's songs, and doing many actions, such as doing exercises. Walk steadily and run fast; Sometimes very headstrong. When I was two years old, I went back to my grandmother's house for the second time, reciting poems and singing to the people in the village, which was a sensation for a while. People like him very much. Zhang Xinyang is a child who can remember, and the experience that accompanied him left a deep impression on him. When he first heard the song "Only Mom is good in the world", he would squeeze his eyes and laugh at me, raise his little face and sing "Only Dad is good in the world!" We are very happy together. Zhang Xinyang's early education does have some particularities. His mother is busy at work, and his father acts as a super companion. His father nurtured his growth in an all-round way, which may also be the blessing of this child.
How can people adapt to society? What is life? This is human life. In other words, you must live first. Life is wonderful, simple, happy and painful, depending on how you understand the original intention of life. We just want to realize the value of self-existence and make our own contribution to the progress and development of this society and the world. People live to show you how beautiful this colorful world is, for the existence and continuation of life, for the pursuit of happiness, and for loving themselves and others. After doing these things, they will get a sense of satisfaction and happiness, which is happiness. The gap between desire and reality often brings troubles. Desire is difficult to control, but lifestyle can be grasped. If you want to be happy, you must live a simple life, without tossing, and simplicity is happiness. Man's life is short. Now that I'm here, I have to face everything. We can control something, but we can control ourselves. Our destiny is in our own hands. We don't know whether what we are doing is right or wrong until we die of old age. Then try to do everything well now, and wait until you are old. I wish you a wonderful and happy life!