Until the end of the first year of high school, the students who worked for one year were separated because of the division of arts and sciences. My friend said to me, "When you get to the liberal arts class, don't mess with people if you have nothing to do." It doesn't matter if you speak ill of us, we can let you go. " You provoke others, be careful! "
From then on, I began to reflect-I always thought it was my mouth, and others gave way and ignored me; I always thought it was just a joke, but it was still offensive and would make others feel uncomfortable. I have always been addicted to appreciating the angry but helpless expression when others are robbed, but I don't know that I am just naive.
Recently, I watched The Speaker, a famous crosstalk performer. No, Zhang Xuefeng, a postgraduate training teacher, participated in the recording of the program as a contestant. The topic of his speech is closely related to the postgraduate entrance examination. He mainly lists several advantages of postgraduate entrance examination and tells everyone that postgraduate entrance examination is a good choice.
Before I went to college, I never thought about taking the postgraduate entrance examination, and I didn't think it was useful. I was going to find a job to make money as soon as I graduated. However, as soon as I finished my freshman year, I realized the necessity of graduate school and made up my mind to take the postgraduate entrance examination, so I was deeply moved by the views put forward by teacher Zhang Xuefeng.
After the speech, Mr. Wang skillfully answered the questions raised by the judge Zhang and the host Lu Yu, and then had an exchange with the members of the "Word Value Energy Group". Among them, the host Martin firmly expressed his opinion: "Compared with postgraduate entrance examination, the best way for young people to be promoted is to work, not to take postgraduate entrance examination, not to go abroad, and not to take the civil service examination."
Teacher Zhang Xuefeng asked, "Then can you tell me what jobs graduates of Qiqihar University can find?" His meaning is very clear, and the job choices faced by college graduates at different levels are also very different.
Martin is still adamant: "None of the employees in my own company is the key (university)!" "
In this regard, Teacher Zhang Xuefeng replied without hesitation: "So you are not the top 500 in the world!"
Seeing this, I laughed unconsciously and clapped my hands secretly.
I was a little embarrassed to see Martin's face changed. There were warm applause and cheers from the audience. After pausing for a few seconds, he still stubbornly said, "Young people should constantly suffer setbacks in their work before they can find their own direction, and then decide whether to take the postgraduate entrance examination or go abroad, instead of plunging into the postgraduate entrance examination army."
Teacher Zhang Xuefeng never gives in: "He has no chance. If I go to college in Qiqihar, I have no chance to get in touch with such programs! "
At this time, there happened to be a girl in Qiqihar who wanted to express something in the word value energy group. Martin took this opportunity to find a step for himself. The girl said: "I couldn't even get into Qiqihar University in those days, and I'm still sitting here today (participating in the recording of the program). You said it was a matter of proportion. Such a large proportion hits me in such a small space. Do you think this ratio is wrong? "
As an audience, I can't watch it anymore, and you are the only one in the whole studio who can't sit in the "word energy group"! Next to the talented woman of Liu Yuanyuan Peking University, Xu Jiru in front is high flyers who graduated from Harvard. Are you still proud that Qi Dadu didn't pass the exam? If all the people on the stage graduated from Qi University, you can say it is a matter of proportion, but you are the only one. What's wrong with this ratio?
Teacher Zhang Xuefeng just said to this unclear fellow villager: "This ratio is no problem."
The program has come to an end, and then the heated discussion on the Internet is another scene.
In my years of experience, killing people is really not an easy task-light, painless, ineffective and boring; Embarrassment is great, it hurts the embarrassed person, and even friends can't take it seriously.
For strangers or unfamiliar people, we tend to keep that unnecessary courtesy, so we usually don't care about them and have quite "standardized" communication with them. And those familiar friends and family members often know each other too well, leaving no room for "mutual love". Fortunately, because we are familiar with each other, we are willing to tolerate them and give them the power of "unbridled".
In fact, as an independent individual, everyone has different degrees of acceptance of embarrassment and being embarrassed, but it is more or less related to the familiarity between two people. As for everyone's specific endurance, that is, where is the bottom line, it is necessary to explore in practice!
Take care of others and master the "degree" instead of trying to break through the bottom line of others.
I have been watching 20 17 Happy Boys, and I don't like contestant Wang Guangyun for no reason, so I commented on a related Weibo "Wang Guangyun can bye bye (funny face)" on a whim. Not long after, a bunch of people praised me, and my comments were sent to hot spots. Naturally, his fans responded to my comments to remind me.
Someone said, "Can you do it?" ? Without a skill, you know to deny others. "
I have always hated this logic of "if you can do it, you can do it", so I will respond to this mindless comment rudely-"Your logic is ridiculous, just like going to the cinema to see a movie. The film is not good, you say the director can't. Will you be a director? As an audience, I have the right to evaluate, and the premise of exercising this right is not that I can sing and dance, and the premise of your evaluation of movies is not that you can make movies. "
Others simply said, "Sick!"
This kind of person should also be embarrassed, but after all, he should talk well, so he uses a funny way: "I didn't learn Chinese well in primary school, so there is no subject to speak." It doesn't matter, I'll make it up for you! " Are you saying that Wang Guangyun is ill or that you are ill? Remember, if you are sick, take two tablets three times a day. You're welcome. "
Of course, some people will say, "I think the Wang Guangyun I know is great and serious. He has strength and ideas. He is a man who deserves a corresponding reward. If you don't really know him, please don't talk nonsense and don't like him. I just hope you don't follow the trend without knowing anything. "
For such fans, of course, I won't go back. After all, people are right and can communicate sincerely.
Man is a science. A talkative person, caring for others with his heart and mastering the degree of care will add fun to the life between people, and his feelings will gradually heat up in mutual care.