At the beginning of 10, Wenzhou Olympic Sports Swimming School (hereinafter referred to as Olympic Sports) came to the kindergarten to select swimming seedlings, and the tree was selected and entered the seedling selection class. Olympic Sports School is a swimming training base for teenagers (children) designated by Wenzhou Sports Bureau. The main task and goal of the school is to select talented and gifted children through seedling selection and training, conduct regular swimming teaching and training, and cultivate and transport reserve forces for the national and provincial teams.
When I learned that my child was selected, my vanity as a mother was greatly satisfied, and I immediately put the good news in my circle of friends. Shure is a child with mild autism, whose language function is obviously behind his peers, but his sports ability is above average among his peers. Since childhood, my relatives and friends and my husband all think that Shuer is suitable for sports schools and intend to cultivate and develop in the direction of sports. (This unilateral determination has no scientific basis and can only be regarded as the wishful thinking of adults. ) We underestimated the harm of autism in children. Take Shure as an example. She has great obstacles in communicating with people. Because she lives in her own world, she often doesn't listen to instructions, or listens to instructions half a beat slower than others, and rarely communicates with teachers or classmates. In the class, she is always maverick, and her learning progress is much slower than that of other children.
I want to send Shuer to learn swimming because she is in a small class in kindergarten. Trees are afraid of water. When they wash their hair and take a bath, they will cry when water splashes on their faces, and they will make a scene. I hope to help her overcome her fear of water through swimming training. The swimming training fee of Olympic Sports School in autumn semester is 5 10 yuan, which is only 1/3 of the market price. When I signed up for the Miao class, I asked Shu Er and repeatedly confirmed, "Do you want to learn to swim?" The tree's answer has always been "no, I'm afraid of swimming." But I can't resist the temptation of cheap tuition, thinking that the coach will always find a way. With a little luck, I finally decided to send a tree to learn to swim.
Swimming seedling selection class has classes twice a week. When you start learning, you should first practice holding your breath. Learning to hold your breath and float is the foundation of swimming. Parents can watch teaching video surveillance in the lounge. I have been staring at the TV and found that the tree refused to bow its head and sink into the water. After three classes, the situation has not changed. So, I was a little anxious and prepared to help her practice holding her breath at home.
"Keep your head down! Get down. Hear it! " In the bathroom at home, I prepared a washbasin of water and strictly asked the tree to practice holding its breath. The tree grabbed the washbasin and cried loudly and repeated my words "get down!" " Get down! ",but he just refused to put his head in the water. Mother and daughter argued for about 15 minutes. I was so anxious that I held her head without warning and forced her into the water ... I spilled the water in the washbasin on her in a rage, and the tree of tears shrank in the corner of the bath pavilion and looked at me helplessly. Even in that case, she still longed for me to hug her. Every time she feels my disappointment, she will cry and beg for a hug.
The horrible experience of holding your breath at home may have cast a psychological shadow on her. In the fourth class, the tree fell down on the spot. In the video surveillance, Shure kept crying while practicing the posture of "closing, turning and kicking" in breaststroke. She left the swimming pool three times. Every time, I walked into the changing room of the swimming pool and hugged her to comfort her: "Shuer, don't be afraid, let's try again and stick to it." Later, the coach patted her on the back and said to me, "children can't learn such emotions. Let's stop for a while." Don't worry, our coach won't force the child to stick his head in the water. Take your time, don't worry. At home, parents can try to bathe their children with shower heads and teach them to hold their breath. "I dare not tell the coach that I forced the child.
Should we insist on sending trees to learn to swim? I have been struggling with this problem for a long time. After discussing with my husband, we decided to give up the training of swimming seedling selection class. Wait until the tree is big and not afraid of water before sending her to school. According to the current local education policy, swimming is a compulsory item in the senior high school entrance examination, and you can't graduate without passing the swimming examination. If the policy remains unchanged, no matter whether the tree is afraid of water or not, she must learn to swim before graduating from middle school.
Actually, I'm also afraid of water. When I was learning to swim in primary school, I only had half a class and ran home crying. I still remember the pressure I felt when I first got into the water, the smell of disinfectant in the swimming pool, and the buoyancy of disturbing water overflowing my chest. I didn't have the courage to drown myself until I went to high school. What you can't do yourself, why should you let your children do it? The acquisition of any skill takes time to prepare and practice, and it cannot be done overnight. If parents are too anxious, it will have a counterproductive effect. What are children afraid of? Maybe this fear will last for a long time. As a parent, it is useless to just say "don't be afraid, face it" to your child. I will help the tree overcome its fear of water slowly, and then challenge swimming.
The tree gave up learning to swim, which made me realize that in the face of children's growth, I didn't have the courage and patience to wait for flowers to bloom, and slipped to the other extreme-pulling out the seedlings to encourage them. This time, I chose to give up. But I don't think such an escape is shameful.