. Many parents made an oath when their children were born, and they must take good care of their children and take care of them patiently in this life so that they will not be hurt. As the children grow up day by day, the sun and the moon wear away, and the children cry, the patience of parents is quickly worn away. When faced with their children's mistakes, many parents often say, "How old are you? Why don't you understand? " . In the eyes of many parents, they have worked hard to support their children, and their children should be sensible and worry-free. As everyone knows, he is just a growing child.

Children are children. Parents can't restrain them by the standards of adults. Give them room to grow up, give them a chance to grow up slowly, or your child's heart will start to resist you. So, when you want to get angry with your child, say to yourself, "He is just a child".

Second, set a firm standard.

. As adults, we all hate people with inconsistent standards and capricious emotions, and the same is true for children. For example, many children like electronic products such as mobile phones. As a leader, parents can't let their children play for a while just because they behave well, and they won't let them play if they behave badly. This will give children an illusion and form the habit of bargaining. Parents should set a firm standard. For example, they can say, "You can only play mobile phone for half an hour every day, because protecting your eyes is the most important thing." .

Parents can also cultivate their children's good living habits, such as taking their children for an hour every day, or playing basketball for an hour, and so on. Gradually, children can find fun in sports, form the habit of loving sports, and pay less attention to electronic products. In short, parents should set a firm standard and stick to it.

Third, the attitude should be moderate and firm.

. It is normal for children to be rebellious and noisy when they are growing up. Most parents are always patient when facing naughty children for the first time. After a long time, influenced by my own life and work troubles, I will be impatient and lose my temper. Parents' attitude towards their children must be gentle and firm rather than simple and rude.

When a child makes a mistake, even disobeys, and tries to challenge the authority of his parents, he should gently and firmly explain to him why he can't and what the consequences will be! Maybe when you can be patient and gentle, the children will listen to you, so as to achieve the original goal.

Fourth, pay attention to the ways and means of reasoning.

Many parents will encounter this situation. Children often cry when they are naughty. Even if you reason with him patiently, he seems unwilling to listen, but he cries even more. This kind of situation belongs to the method of reasoning with children without paying attention. Preaching should be divided into occasions, opportunities and methods, otherwise it is a waste of breath.

Reasoning can be done in an entertaining way. For example, my children like to watch Peggy the pig. Every time I watch cartoons, I will tell him the truth inside, and sometimes I will encounter what just happened. This will not only make children feel that you have something in common with them, but also solve many headaches for parents.

5. Treat children equally and respect them.

. Traditional education in China attaches great importance to family status. When educating their children, many parents often say "I am an adult, you have to listen to me", giving children the illusion that they can stop listening to you when they grow up. When getting along with children, parents should treat them equally, treat them as friends, respect their privacy and feelings.

When parents and friends are talking to their children, they can try to squat down and talk to them and look them in the eyes. In front of outsiders, criticize children for trying to save face, and don't just beat and scold. Only by respecting children and giving them enough self-esteem will they respect us in the future.

Sixth, encourage children.

. When many families take care of their children, in order to ensure their safety, many less dangerous things will not be let them do, especially when many elderly people take care of their children. As soon as the child wants to feed the puppy, the adult will say "be careful to bite your hand"; As soon as children want to climb high, adults will say "be careful of falling" There are many such examples. In this way, many children will be afraid of seeing puppies when they grow up, and they will be afraid of heights when they get to heights.

In the process of exploration and growth, children will have many fears. As parents, we should not only see children's fears in time, help them analyze problems and provide reasonable methods, but also encourage children to solve problems by themselves, and help them form the ability to overcome difficulties and the strong character of not admitting defeat when encountering setbacks.

Every child is born with a blank sheet of paper. If children want to have a good personality, they need proper training and guidance from their parents. I hope every parent can have a modest and studious heart, better understand their children, support them, cultivate them and grow up with them.