Sometimes it's no pressure to think about living alone. I go to work when I go to work, and I control myself after work. I watch movies, travel, go shopping and do whatever I want. It's actually very good. I really envy her such a living condition.
I remembered that I once said this to my friend, and then she answered me; I envy you. Such a lovely daughter, I don't even know where my other half is
So I thought of this sentence in my mind: "The happiest life is the life of others."
I used to envy others, and I always saw things and even experiences I didn't have in others.
A few years ago, I enjoyed watching the circle of friends, because there were several people in the circle of friends who I especially admired. One is Jane, a girl three years older than me. She loves to laugh. One is Kepler, a tall, thin and beautiful girl. We met in an English training class.
Their circle of friends is full of photos of her traveling around the world. Almost every new year, she is in a foreign country, and every long holiday is also the time for them to go abroad.
All countries, big or small, have their footprints. I like to see her circle of friends and travel around the world with her circle of friends.
And Joan, a girl from Hengyang. Before I met her, we were all doing eBay. At that time, I often answered some questions for you in the group.
Now she has started her own company, specializing in Amazon's FBA, and her English has also improved by leaps and bounds. Her circle of friends is all about hiking and having dinner with foreign friends.
There are also photographic photos, either she takes pictures for others or she models for others.
I used to really envy them, their freedom and bravery. I always feel that they are living the life they want.
It was not until later that I found out that it seems easy for us to envy each other. Singles envy the sweetness of marriage, and married people envy the freedom of being single. Ordinary office workers envy the ease of civil servants, civil servants envy the freedom of freelancing, and freelancing envies those entrepreneurs who have succeeded in starting a business.
It seems that everyone thinks that others are better off than themselves.
But is this really the case? Everyone's life is destined to be different, and everyone has their own difficulties, but we just don't know it.
Ordinary office workers feel that they are nine to six, and sometimes they often work overtime and stay up late to see the face of their leaders. They feel that civil servants are very relaxed, working from nine to five on weekends. But it's not easy not to know about civil servants. Although the welfare treatment is good, the salary is not very high, the task is also very heavy, and everyone has their own post pressure.
Although freelancers seem to be free, they don't have to punch in at work, but their income is unstable and they even need more working hours than ordinary office workers. Just like Xiaoyu I know, she works as long as 12 hours a day, almost all year round.
Successful entrepreneurs have high incomes, but they have unknown hardships. They have to manage the team and make plans, because they have to bear a lot of pressure to pay the salary of the whole company.
It can be seen that once we put ourselves in the shoes, we will find that no job in life is easy.
I remember Kepler once wrote in an article that when she was paid every month, she scrimped and saved money to travel, which is why she gave up her usual leisure activities.
And in order to travel, she will check all kinds of information and make all kinds of strategies long in advance.
In fact, each of them is not only what we see in the circle of friends, but also undertakes a lot of things themselves. Every life has a trade-off.
Just like traveling abroad in the New Year, I am doomed to be unable to reunite with my family. We don't know how much each of them has given up and worked hard for the life they want.
An elder said a word; "Don't always envy other people's work and yearn for other people's lives. No one is carefree. It is most important to focus on your own life and strive to live your own life. "
When I first came into contact with the media, I also envied those big coffees. I envy the little fish earning 50 thousand a month. I envy her for not only making the official WeChat account very well, but also paying for it. She opened one training class after another, and the tuition fee was higher every time, but many people signed up every time.
However, apart from envy, my life has not changed because of envy, and more is anxiety and confusion.
Bi Shumin said, "Life is full of mud and sand, and flowers and thorns coexist." In fact, your situation may not be bad and gloomy, and other people's lives may not be glamorous. Rather than envy others, it is better to live in the present and manage your life with your heart.
Seeing this sentence, I suddenly realized that, when I think about it carefully, Xiaoyuer has made today's achievements and insisted on writing for five years. From part-time job to full-time, she is constantly investing and thinking. Every course she designs is her own personal experience and careful polishing.
She makes a review and summary once a month. In the past five years, she has paid too much, even during the Spring Festival, she kept writing more. That's why she got where she is today. She came step by step.
Life has never been achieved overnight. No matter how good others are, they are others. You can only live your own life.
So I stopped looking at Small jade's grades and took her as the object of my efforts. I began to calm down and study.
I read her articles, attended her training classes and learned her learning methods.
I set myself goals, read, write and listen to speeches. I study at my own pace. Slowly, I have more and more fans on the official WeChat account, and more and more people like me. I also contribute to bosom friend magazine.
Although I still have a long way to go from Xiaoyu, I no longer envy her, but I have tried my best to work towards her.
Along the way, I found that when you continue to envy others, you have a hard time.
Only when one day you stop blindly worshipping others and run your own life with your heart can you enjoy the happiness of the moment.
Really diligent and excellent people spend their time on improving themselves and have no time to envy other people's lives.
We all have our own time zone and rhythm. Instead of enviing others, it is better to spend all the time enviing others on living a good life.