Children with high emotional intelligence have these three characteristics: 1, empathy and good consideration for others.
Many children are particularly sensitive to other people's emotional changes and are good at observing. For example, when doing crafts together, I found that some children were playing or operating by themselves. Being aware of it and actively communicating with small partners will not only help to cultivate strategic partnership, but also solve problems in a timely and reasonable manner in the future.
Step 2 be positive about the problem
People will always encounter many problems in their life growth. People with high emotional intelligence not only have high self-control in dealing with people, but also have firm confidence and courage in the face of setbacks and tests, and it is not easy to stand still and fall into a dead end. Will actively seek solutions to problems, which is also a key manifestation of high emotional intelligence.
3. Be willing to share and know how to refuse
Many parents will say that children become more eager to share their toys and games from the beginning of their studies, and more eager to play with friends than to be independent. Parents are very pleased. It is worth mentioning that some children with high emotional intelligence also know how to refuse when dealing with unreasonable demands from others. It is not a habit to let the other person go blindly, so that children can not only refuse but also solve the relationship with their classmates. This is the embodiment of strong emotional intelligence.
How to cultivate children's emotional intelligence? Parents should set a good example.
Parents are children's best teachers and their first teachers, so parents' behavior will greatly affect children's future development of communication with others. For example, when parents encounter psychological contradictions, if simple and rude methods are adopted, children will be ugly and make more trouble, which will have a negative impact on the ability training of children's social relations. Parents should control their emotions and calmly solve difficulties, and children will naturally change their behavior subtly.
2. Let children develop the habit of reading and studying.
In fact, the external performance of emotional intelligence is based on the lack of children's thinking ability. Because many parents dote on their children, they are very arrogant in their own world and have no effective understanding of the world. Therefore, naturally, we can't stand in the perspective of others and consider problems for others. Reading learning is a way to change the world's cognition.
As the famous lev tolstoy said, idealized books are the key to wisdom. Parents can encourage their children to study and solve the changes in the world and the harmonious environment around them.
Step 3 encourage children
In the process of children knowing the world and shaping emotional intelligence, sometimes they are likely to encounter some setbacks. For example, when they take the initiative to communicate with their friends, they will be even more depressed when they find that the young man does not take care of himself. It is very likely that they will not want to communicate with other friends, but at this moment, parents must attach great importance to encouraging their children.
For example, parents can say, did you feel lost just now? But if you want to know why your partner ignores you? Maybe he's in a bad mood. Understanding the change of others' mentality is an important way to cultivate emotional intelligence. Through this kind of encouraging education, children can accept it naturally and discover the changes of others' mentality, thus gradually shaping high emotional intelligence.