The first month: sleeping and snoring ...
On the day the baby was born, according to the contract, the intermediary sent Yue Yue to the hospital to take care of me and the baby. At that time, I felt that there was a new moon, so I was more at ease and let my family who had been with me for a few days go back and have a good rest. But in the first month, it's still very difficult to wake up at night without snoring. When there is a problem, you can only call the nurse on duty with a pager. I wanted to have a good rest after giving birth, but I didn't sleep for almost a night, which made me feel that Yue Yue's sense of responsibility seemed insufficient. Before leaving the hospital, I asked the agency to change Yue Yue for me.
Guama interjected: Newborn babies are prone to problems such as spitting milk and colic, and cannot turn over on their own. Frequent night milk needs more attention and care.
The second month: always add milk powder to the baby. ...
I like to persuade my baby to add milk powder in the second month. As soon as the baby cried, he told me that the baby was hungry and might not have enough to eat, so he should add milk powder to the baby. In the evening, I said to add milk powder to the baby so that both the baby and the mother can have a better rest. The baby frequently eats milk during the soaring period, saying that the baby's breast milk is not enough to add some milk powder.
Just as a mother, I completely trust Yue Yue, but one day I saw professional parenting knowledge and chatted with friends, only then did I know that babies can promote their mothers' milk production only by sucking frequently. Besides, my own milk is ok. In fact, there is no need to add milk powder to feed the baby. I don't understand whether Yue Yue did this because she lacked professional knowledge or just wanted to save some energy.
Guama interjected: Newborn crying is not necessarily a sign of hunger, but it is too hot and too cold, which needs to be comforted and moist, which is also one of the reasons for baby crying. Every time it cries, it is fed in the wrong way. Overeating not only makes the stomach spend more time emptying, but also causes gastroesophageal reflux, flatulence and even spitting milk.
The third month: I believe that the authority is big.
She went to work quickly in the third month, but she often told us that the mothers she took care of were very kind to her, giving things and wrapping red envelopes. My mother-in-law also talked to me, saying that sometimes expressing some opinions would be dragged back by Yueyue. Yue Yue has become an authority in my family. I have to listen to her whatever vegetables I buy today and whatever fruits I buy tomorrow, and I'm not allowed to use a breast pump.
A melon mother puts a mouth: as an auxiliary tool of breast milk, the breast pump can relieve the mother's pain when the baby just doesn't want to eat it. Sucked breast milk can be used as a reserve, which can be used as a supplement when the baby's milk is not enough or the mother has special circumstances (colds, mastitis and other diseases).
Breastfeeding mothers are prone to mastitis. Mothers can use the breast pump to suck again after each feeding and try to empty the milk in their breasts. This can not only prevent mastitis, but also send a message to the brain that more breast milk is needed and stimulate the body to produce more breast milk.
Talking about this experience with other mothers, many mothers also spoke to me that it is hard to find a good month, not to mention the high price. In order to find a good new moon, I specially searched many strategies on the internet and shared them with my mothers. Whether you are going to change the new moon or go to find the new moon after the second child, I hope the following experience can help you.
1. Is it normal to have a monthly certificate?
A: The only certificate recognized by the state is the nurse's certificate, and the monthly certificate is not an official certificate.
At present, many intermediaries have packaged Yue Yue, with many titles such as "Advanced Yue Yue" and "Mother-infant nurse practitioner" certificates, as well as uniform clothing and tools. Some even say that they can breastfeed and breast-enhance, and they are professional.
It can be seen carefully that many of them used to be cleaners and nannies engaged in domestic work. Last year, the CCTV 3. 15 party also exposed the chaos that the training institutions of Yueyue can buy certificates as long as they spend money. It is conceivable how much water these so-called lunar new year cards have.
To popularize it for everyone, the new moon is actually our popular name. From a professional point of view, it should be called a maternal and child care worker. Searching for "Yue Yue" on the national vocational qualification management websites in People's Republic of China (PRC) and Ministry of Human Resources and Social Security, I can't find any relevant occupational classification. That is to say, there is no "Yue Yue Certificate" in the vocational skill certificates issued by vocational skill appraisal institutions, and there is no unified vocational skill appraisal standard in China.
Ministry of Human Resources and Social Security National Vocational Qualification Management Network can only find the professional description of the nanny.
At present, the national vocational qualification certificate with the greatest correlation with this work is the nurse certificate.
Therefore, when mothers choose a new moon, the certificates they can learn from are health certificate, nurse certificate and nutritionist certificate. Health certificate is the first condition, and it is best to apply it in the near future, not a few years ago. If necessary, you can take Yueyue for a comprehensive physical examination. The latter two certificates belong to vocational skill certificates, and the examination threshold is relatively high. If you can get these two certificates, your professionalism will generally be guaranteed.
2. Is the gold medal Lunar New Year file reliable?
A: There is no uniform standard in China. Gold medal, diamond and supreme are all defined by the merchants themselves.
A treasure mother told me that because of the early due date, the new moon she made an appointment with the intermediary was also recommended by a friend. Because the last household did not place an order and could not come, the intermediary agency arranged another month to come to the door. As for whether this new moon was the "golden moon" she set at that time, there is no way to verify it. More often, whoever is free may be the golden moon. So I don't think it is necessary for mothers to be superstitious about gold medals.
Later, I learned that there is no uniform standard for the division of Yue Yue in China because there is no corresponding vocational qualification certificate. According to the years of working in Yue Yue or the number of babies, general intermediaries classify Yue Yue into advanced, special, gold and VIP supreme, with prices ranging from 8000 to 16000.
Various intermediaries will be more casual in grading and the flow of employees will be relatively large. It is possible that the ordinary month of this institution will become the golden month and the supreme month when it arrives at another institution. It is also possible to return the order because you are obviously dissatisfied, but when you go to another institution in the new month, the number of times you return the order is also your own experience, which increases your capital.
3. Find a reliable new moon and do these things.
1, learn more about parenting during pregnancy.
Pregnancy is a relatively empty time for mothers, so you can use this time to buy some parenting books to learn parenting knowledge, or go to a professional maternity hospital to attend a popular science lecture, or pay attention to various official accounts of parenting WeChat, and accumulate rich parenting knowledge to meet the arrival of the baby, so that you can not only have a bottom in mind, but also have your own judgment standards when you encounter the problems I encountered before.
Mastering certain parenting knowledge can make you:
● You can avoid being fooled by the intermediary when interviewing for the new moon.
● I can find a new moon that is consistent with my parenting philosophy, avoid future contradictions, and get along more comfortably.
● Take the initiative in how to take care of the baby and how to take care of the baby, so as to avoid the new moon becoming the authority of one person's words.
● Being "teammates" with Yue Yue, discussing with each other and making progress together are more conducive to Yue Yue's work.
Recommend some parenting books to everyone.
● American Pediatric Association Parenting Encyclopedia
Practical parenting law
●《DK Baby Growth Diary
The Secret of Baby Language
2. Choose a month, and the age should be between 35 and 50.
●? Don't choose someone who is too old: I believe many people ask for a new moon to reduce the burden on their families. They have to take care of a mother and a newborn day and night. At this age, parents can't bear it, and neither can older moons. Moreover, a good new moon receives orders at least 8- 10 times a year. When you get old, your physical strength will be exhausted. In case of an accident, it won't be worthwhile.
● Don't choose too young: Yue Yue is too young. She has never experienced the birth of a child and will lack a sense of identity. It may be cheap, but it lacks experience. My friend found a very young one, and the price is not high. Later, she found out that it was her first time to have a new moon, and many things had to be taught by my friends. Although everyone has his first career, if you don't want to bother yourself too much, try to find someone with work experience. )
● ? Look at work experience, not work years.
Because, working years ≠ work experience!
The entry threshold for the Lunar New Year industry is not high. During confinement, I take care of my baby and cook monthly meals for my mother every day. Repeated work, more often the test is patience, carefulness and physical strength.
A diligent, capable and shrewd monthly training can be employed in three months and mastered after receiving orders for about ten times, which is not much different from the monthly training that has been done for ten years. On the contrary, the older you get, the lower your energy and reaction ability will be, and your physical strength will be exhausted.
Promoting the service life of Yue Yue is a gimmick for the intermediary to master the psychology of mothers.
Don't blindly believe in interview skills, and put the questions into details.
There are many skills to interview the new moon on the internet. Take a closer look at the questions you ask, which are often routine. These questions are widely circulated on the Internet, and may have been taken as the training content by the intermediary organizations trained in Yue Yue, giving perfect answers. Just use these questions to interview the new moon, and the water will be bigger. Mothers still have to have their own opinions and do a good job in the interview for the new moon.
You can refine the questions during the interview:
●? For example, how to prevent the baby from sleeping in a miscarriage? Because the newborn baby's skull is soft and the fontanel is not closed, it is easy to cause head deviation if nursing is not proper. Pay attention to adjust the baby's sleeping position during feeding, alternately from left to right, and don't let the baby sleep on his side for a long time. In addition, mothers need to be reminded that they also need to hold their hands alternately when breastfeeding and holding their babies.
●? For example, how to tell whether the baby is colic or flatulence? Both flatulence and colic are caused by the incomplete development of the baby's intestine. Flatulence often occurs at night, and the baby will have anxiety, crying, blushing, bent legs and smelly fart. Because there is gas in the intestine, the stool is often thin and frothy. Hugging and sleeping on the plane can relieve symptoms. You can also do exhaustive exercise for your baby.
Colic is more serious than flatulence, but most of it can be relieved by itself. Babies will suddenly cry loudly for hours, or burst into tears, tearing their hearts out, and finally may stop defecating, farting or crying.
These two questions are professional, and I only used them in the interview in the third month. I didn't expect her answer to be basically correct. What did you ask before? How many years did you spend the Lunar New Year? Do you have children at home ... that's not the point.
Yue Yue can be asked to demonstrate how to touch the baby. Whether the technique of the new moon is skillful or not can be seen at a glance, and it can also be seen whether the baby likes it or cries. My touch in the first two months was not as professional as the third one, a little stiff and incoherent.
4. Is Yue Yue experienced from the side?
● Call to make an appointment for an interview:
Looking at the tone and attitude of the other party when answering the phone, politeness, kindness and whispering are all more points.
Second, see if the other person is at work. If there is a baby crying in the background on the phone, but Yue Yue calls indirectly instead of comforting the baby for the first time, she can be eliminated without an interview.
Third, see if the other party answers the phone immediately or calls back afterwards. In a good month, 80% of the work is busy, and the needs of babies and mothers are always the main ones. You may not be able to answer the phone when you are busy. (In the second month, I often play mobile phones and watch videos during work hours. It was ok to have a rest, but I often watch my baby play with his mobile phone. I feel unprofessional. )
● Look at photos and comments on your mobile phone.
There is no evidence in his mouth, and two things that Yue Yue put forward in the interview can prove it.
One is to take photos with many nursed babies and their families. Nowadays, mobile phone photography has become popular. Taking care of the baby for a month in the confinement will always feel, and there will always be some baby photos or group photos in the mobile phone. (Of course, Ma Bao specially protects the baby from taking pictures. )
The second is the evaluation record of the works before the new moon. Now many intermediaries will give Yue Yue a notebook to record the baby's diet, Yue Yue's breastfeeding experience and her mother's daily mood after receiving the order. Finally, they will ask their mother to write some comments about Yue Yue, which is one of the criteria for rating Yue Yue as an intermediary. You can ask for reading when interviewing Yue Yue.
5, you can find friends and relatives who recently invited the new moon to recommend it.
If some relatives and friends happen to have a new moon at home recently, and the feedback is good, you can ask them to recommend introductions and then screen them yourself.
But there is a problem involved here, that is, taking orders. Relatives and friends may directly give us Yue Yue's WeChat or contact information when introducing them, so it is easy to reach an agreement with Yue Yue personally. The private bill is cheap, and it can also save Yue Yue the commission of the intermediary, which seems to be beneficial to both parties. But there is no third-party organization, and there is no guarantee if there is a problem.
6. Keep a moderate distance from the new moon.
Some mothers get along with Yue Yue day and night. After a long time, it's easy to think of Yue Yue as family. Many parents told Yue Yue what they shouldn't say. This vague sense of boundaries can easily change Yue Yue's mentality. Just like the nanny in the arson case of blue Qianjiang nanny in Hangzhou, the goodwill of the employer became her bargaining chip, which eventually led to tragedy.
Therefore, Ma Ma should still pay attention to the sense of boundaries when getting along with the new moon, which is conducive to the correct attitude of the new moon and doing the right thing.
Guama finally said:
Ma Hao's article summed up the experience of discovering the new moon in great detail. In fact, Lunar New Year is a very hard job, doing a good job of nursing babies and parturients day and night, and cooking monthly meals for mothers. Especially at night, when the baby cries, he needs to get up to look after and sleep. It can be said that it is overworked and particularly hard. At that time, my new moon told me that I had been in Hangzhou for more than a year and had no time to see the West Lake.
Many new mothers will have postpartum depression and loneliness after giving birth to their babies due to the changes of hormone levels in their bodies, and need companionship. At this time, it may not be the husband or his own mother who gets along with mothers day and night, but more often it is the new moon.
After getting along for a month, Yue Yue and Ma Bao gradually got familiar with each other and got used to each other. They both became family members. When they are close to parting, they will be reluctant to part, and even hug each other and cry. Crescent and I are still friends, and we will greet each other on holidays.
For such an industry where we spend most of the year with our families, many of us may be concerned about the low threshold of this industry and the uneven quality level of employees, but few people care about their living conditions, whether they are overworked or not, and whether they are under too much pressure. Therefore, of course, we hope to find a good new moon, but we should also be more tolerant and trust in the new moon.