The higher the level of parents, the better the children raised? This view is obviously biased. Parents with slightly lower academic qualifications still educate excellent children, and some high-level parents teach poor children.
Why do you say that? First of all, it must be clear that a high degree of education means a high degree of education, which is not proportional to understanding education and social education. It is said that ignorance is not as destructive as high IQ.
If parents with high academic qualifications and high IQ are doing anti-education things, the harm to their children will be even greater. Educated children are worse. For example, Li Tianyi, the son of Li Shuangjiang and Dream Pigeon, is an example.
So how can we educate our children well? I think there are two main things to do:
First, read more books regardless of parents' level. Learning here refers to the knowledge of education and being an educated parent.
Second, it is more important to learn to listen to children's voices, know what children are thinking, and provide targeted education.
Do the above two things well, and you will certainly educate your children. All the above are personal opinions. If you have different opinions, you can leave a message for discussion ~
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Because most parents, whether wealthy families or ordinary families, are unwilling to let their children suffer.
Even some children have gradually become extravagant, arrogant and money-worshipping because of their parents' doting and pampering.
However, Japanese playwright Yozo Yamamoto said: "People who have never tasted bitter water when they are young cannot grow up."
True visionary parents are willing to make their children suffer.
Only when they really participate in the truth of life, deeply understand the hardships and difficulties of life, and establish a rational view of money and values, can they become more independent, more sensible and get real growth.
First, I can't bear to let the children suffer, and it is the children and parents who suffer in the end.
The more reluctant parents are, the less sensible their children are.
Parental love can not only make children grow up, but also make them take everything for granted.
"Psychology of Winning Development" mentioned that in the process of children's growth, achievement and self-esteem complement each other. Only by knowing how to face failure and sum up experience from failure will children be willing to accept challenges and have better grades and performances.
Children who have never suffered will instinctively retreat to the gentle village built by their parents once they are forced to suffer a little by life.
They are used to denying their abilities, and then looking for a sense of accomplishment from the illusory world until they drag all those who love them into the abyss.
Second, the present suffering is paving the way for the future.
Suhomlinski, an educational practitioner in the former Soviet Union, said: "Children must be taught that there is a difficult word in life, which cannot be separated from labor, sweat and calloused hands, so that when they grow up, they will greatly shorten the social adaptation period and improve their ability to withstand setbacks."
Suffering is a butterfly effect opened at the expense of pain.
The advantage is that under the spur of external forces, children will no longer be indifferent or shrink back in the face of difficulties, and they will be able to accept the torment of transformation more calmly until they meet their best self, even without the support of their parents.
Third, the real suffering education is to cultivate children who can face the wind and rain alone.
Writer Turgenev said: "Do you want to be a happy person? I hope you learn to bear hardships first, and those who can bear hardships can bear all misfortunes. There is no dilemma in the world that cannot be jumped out. "
Before the children leave us, the only thing we can do is to teach them the "hard skills" to face the wind and rain.
1. Give children a new life.
Love a child is not to protect her, but to teach her how to be the master of her own life.
Overprotection is not a harm to children. We always want to help our child do what we can, but we forget to let go and teach her to take care of herself.
2. Let children taste the bitter fruit of mistakes.
After a child makes a mistake, it is most important to guide the child to grow up.
Not necessarily. Sometimes things turn the other way around.
Not necessarily, such as Li Shuangjiang and Li Tianyi, the child of Dream Pigeon.
Generally speaking, in most cases, the higher the level of parents, the better the children raised.
The correct answer to this question should be that the higher the level of parents who know the educational concept, the better they can cultivate their children without doting on their children.
The son of Li Shuangjiang discussed by everyone is a special case, which is the result of doting on children since childhood.
There are countless examples of other high-level parents training their children into elites. As the old saying goes, "as a tiger as a child" is the experience and fact accumulated by the ancients over the years. Although 100% is not correct, it is indeed a high probability.
Therefore, as parents, if children want to succeed, they must first have the ability to educate and cultivate their children.
That's really not necessarily true.
When we generally say high-level people, we mean that they are relatively high in a certain field of work.
But not necessarily high in parenting knowledge.
A survey on the occupation of parents of suicide students shows that:
Among them, parents have the most occupations, accounting for nearly 40%.
The top four are teachers, medical staff, civil servants and managers. * * * accounts for about 65%
From these data, we can see that the staff of these occupations can be said to have strong self-management ability in our minds.
It can be seen that many parents will study for more than ten or twenty years in order to find a decent job, and will also participate in various trainings after work. ......
But as a parent, how many parenting books have you read?
It is a common phenomenon that most parents, including senior intellectuals, lack parenting knowledge. Most parents still follow the concept of parenting of the older generation.
Our science and technology are progressing, the times are developing, and our concept of parenting should also develop.
Here I recommend several parenting books that have benefited me a lot: seize the sensitive period of children, raise boys and girls, you are the best toy for children, regardless of the courage of teaching and positive discipline.
Since I was upgraded to be a mother, I feel that "I am not so annoying when I use books."
Many methods in these books have subverted our traditional cognition, so we must read and try them often. Slowly, you will find that the reading time you pay is really worth it.
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In the final analysis, children's problems are parents' problems, and it is impossible to have a future without educating their parents.
Generally speaking, yes.
It depends on how to define the high level. If the level is defined according to wealth, status and ability, it is good that children are not raised at a high level.
Ancient emperors should be the highest-ranking parents, with the best family conditions and the strongest teachers, and the children educated should be the best in the country. Why hasn't it been passed down from generation to generation?
You're richer than three generations. Why?
Liu Bang defeated the noble Xiang Yu, and the poor boy in Han Xin became Wan Huhou. It means that poor families also have expensive children.
Bing Xin, a writer, said that her grandson had taught her children badly. Ji Xianlin, a master of Chinese studies, left his son 13. Li Tianyi, the son of singer Li Shuangjiang, became a rapist, and Fang Zuming, the son of Jackie Chan, took drugs, indicating that the famous family also lost.
Therefore, at a high level, if we look at the status and wealth of parents, the children educated may not be good.
The high-level parents I understand should be parents who know how to love and understand education.
Psychologist scott parker said: Even if the family environment is not good, children can grow up healthily if their parents are full of love. On the contrary, parents with good family environment neglect their children, and children will also have various problems.
Therefore, educating children is simply love.
The IQ of the next generation is always fluctuating. Otherwise, the good will get better and better, and the bad will never come out. Sometimes an ordinary parent will give birth to a super cow child. This is in line with the biological characteristics of genetic variation.