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Detailed explanation 1. A virtuous and beautiful woman. "Poetry Nan Zhou Guanluo": "My fair lady, a gentleman is good." Mao Chuan: "Shu, kindness; Yi, Pi also. It is said that the queen has the virtue of Guan Yu, is a leisurely and single-minded good woman, and should be a good horse of a gentleman. " The biography of Du Qinchuan in Han Dynasty: "The general's assistant government should be based on the initial prosperity and establish a system of nine women." A righteous family should be carefully selected and seek the quality of a lady. It is a universal law to have colored voice skills. " Yan Shigu's note: "Only seeking comfort, regardless of beautiful voice, can be the law of generations." Tang Huangmei's Sanshui: Flying Smoke: "If you can benefit, if you are close to the deep, you are all ladies and gentlemen." Ming anonymous "A Story for the Secretary's Family": "Young scholars and ladies are all strange things." Qing Li Yu's "Shen Luan meets the media": "Today, there is a family and a second wife, both of whom are beautiful." 2. Generally refers to women. Full of irony. Lu Xun's The Analects of Confucius One Year: "Needless to say, most of their audiences are gentlemen and ladies. Gentlemen and ladies are all face-saving races. " Ba Jin: Preface: "His last words are now solemnly engraved on the stone pedestal of the monument, and even those ladies and gentlemen who have visited the Golden Garden can see them. " [ 1]
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Basic definition
A lady bound by China's traditional ethics is not worth advocating, because it obliterates the charm and value that women deserve. The lady we advocate today is a lady who does not lose the value of modern society on the basis of traditional virtues, and is a new woman under the background of new civilization, new culture and new era. Advocating being a lady is better than advocating being a "savage girlfriend" or "being a woman". This is not to say that retro retrogression, anachronism and restraint of individuality, but to make women more individual, attractive and tasteful, and restore their true colors. A lady must first show elegance in temperament. Madame was also one of the concubines of the Ming and Qing Dynasties. In order to be truly elegant and moving, a woman must keep in mind ten taboos and taboos in conversation, and at the same time have an eternal smile and a magnetic voice. In all kinds of views on women's topics, "independence, equality, wisdom and exquisiteness" seems to be the aesthetic ideal of all kinds of people. The well-known phrase "My Fair Lady, Gentleman is Good at My Fair Lady" in The Book of Songs just shows that the virtue of a lady is an important content in China traditional culture. Especially when "barbarism and sexual freedom" is used as a new label for women by some people, the temperament and grace of a lady are even more precious. The meaning of ladylike temperament and grace is absolutely different from the traditional ethical terms in China. It is the unique feminine charm of women in appearance, speech, manners, thinking and behavior habits under the new historical conditions.
Verbal taboo
Conversation taboo: There are no perfect people in the world. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. People always have self-esteem, and often don't want others to touch some of their shortcomings, privacy, unpleasant things, etc. Therefore, in interpersonal relationships, the speaker must be taboo. When the interviewee involves some sensitive and special things, he should think more about the other person. 1. Interrupt others' conversation or grab others' words. 2. Ignoring the use of generalizations will make it difficult for the other party to understand your intentions for a while. 3. Distraction makes others repeat what they have said. 4. Asking questions continuously makes people feel that you are too enthusiastic and demanding to deal with. Lovely lady
Being careless about other people's problems will make people feel that you ignore and despise each other. 6. Explain a phenomenon casually and assert it rashly to show that you are an expert. 7. It is confusing to avoid reality without revealing it. 8. Inappropriately emphasizing some details irrelevant to the theme makes people tired and embarrassed. 9. When others are interested in a topic and you feel impatient, immediately turn the topic to your own interest. 10. Pretend that the correct views and pertinent suggestions are wrong and inappropriate, so that the other party will suspect that there is something ridiculous in your words. 1 1. Physiological defects. To avoid people's physical defects when speaking, we have to use indirect expression. If you politely say to the lame, "Your legs are inconvenient, please sit down first." 12. Family misfortune. Like the death of a loved one, divorce of husband and wife, etc. If it is not mentioned by the parties themselves, it is not appropriate to insist. 13. Shortboard of personnel. The shortcomings, disgraceful experiences and present situation in dealing with people are sensitive points that others don't want to touch. 14. Do as the Romans do. "Entry is forbidden, entry is vulgar, and entry is embarrassing." This is crucial to the success or failure of society. As a lady, don't think that you are naturally liked. Talking with people and avoiding taboos are actually manifestations of understanding, respect, civilization and cultivation. If we can avoid unhappiness as much as possible, everyone will be happy. Facts have proved that a lady's elegant and moving speech is helpful to socialize, embodies the beauty of a lady's personality and adds a little beauty to her beauty.
Other qualities
If a lady has no atmosphere, her charm will become tacky, and there is no way to be virtuous and knowledgeable. A lady in the atmosphere can put on a little makeup or face the sky; You can dress beautifully and eat well, or you can eat ladle pulp; You can live in a mansion or a cabin; You can lead a horde, or you can take Qi Mei as an example. In life, the breath of nature will show extraordinary elegance to some women, blend with heaven and earth, and reveal infinite vitality. People who are ambitious lie in knowing the big picture. You should know the general idea, not to comment on the world with your own likes and dislikes, but to treat all beings with an inclusive heart. A woman with this virtue is clever and smart, adding a graceful and leisurely charm, as cool as a breeze and as bright as a bright moon. The atmosphere is manifested in wearing clothes and hats, and it is also revealed in gestures, brow and conversation. If a lady can enjoy every fresh moment and forge her eternal atmospheric character, then it is not only a beautiful scenery between heaven and earth, but also a model of human relations. The more such models, the greater the possibility of a better world, and the nobler, purer and more amazing the taste of a lady. The atmosphere must first learn to be tolerant and allow others to have different life concepts. Facts are stranger than novels. There is no absolute concept of right and wrong in the world. Maybe friends around you can eat and wear warm clothes through marriage, but you firmly believe that women should be self-reliant and can't be men's accessories. This should be a different concept of life, so you won't despise and spit on her, will you? Smart ladies don't do that. Every time they do something and say a word, the first thing to consider is whether they hurt others and how to keep the true nature of a lady's bosom friend. Everyone has his own way of pursuing, maybe all roads lead to the same goal, and finally everyone will reach a goal together. A lady is not out of place and pretentious, but can tolerate others, know how to respect others' choices and recognize different people's lifestyles. The atmosphere also shows enthusiasm. Emerson, an American writer, once wrote: "Without enthusiasm, people can't do great things." Great poet s? Ullman also said: "wrinkles will be left on your forehead every year, but if you lack enthusiasm for life, your heart will be covered with wrinkles." With enthusiasm, ladies will turn strangers into friends, sincerely tolerate others, and make full use of their spare time to complete their hobbies, ladies.
You can be in the mood to temper the good side. A lady's enthusiasm will make you broad-minded and abandon resentment; It will make you relaxed and happy, even forget your illness, and of course it will also remove weeds from your mind. The character of a modern lady should be soft inside and rigid outside, combining rigidity with softness, with a strong heart beating under the gentle appearance. They are no longer the weakness of traditional ladies, nor are they formidable women. Modern ladies deeply understand that the deliberate pursuit of tenacity is too different from the real inner world of women, and it is very hard without tenacity. Therefore, modern ladies exchange the most gentle way for the most generous treatment. And they never abandon life and love, but love rationally and fully enjoy the sweetness of love; They live sincerely and enjoy all the beauty in life. As a fashionable word, Lady refers to the antonym of "tomboy" or "strong woman". Although the ladies in China and the ladies in the West have inherited very different traditions, there are spiritual similarities between them. In this increasingly international contemporary society, they achieve the same goal through different routes, and the two words instead of them are also translated into each other. Women in China face gentlemen, while women in the West face gentlemen. In the concept of a gentleman, she is always "ladies first". Ladies, as the image of the weak in the mainstream society, receive special care and care. In the era of corsets and skirts, well-educated ladies know how to faint at the right time, making the gentlemen and heroes around them useful. A lady is a school messenger in the female category and must play the weak role in the male category. Among them, moderation is the key to being a lady. Modern ladies don't have to work for needlework or laughter, but they should still be dignified, gentle, elegant and behave appropriately. A lady is essentially a norm. The women's liberation movement for more than one hundred years has gradually alienated women from the spirit of a lady. The youth anti-tradition movement in 1960s and its "ultra-short style" gave a heavy blow to female idols. White-collar women in the 1980s, wearing suits and skirts with wide shoulder pads, are equally destructive because they are tough. Until the trend changed in the 1990s, people missed the women of the past, and the feminism re-established in the fashion world should actually be called ladylism. People can play many roles in society, and contemporary society has given women unprecedented choices. Contemporary women pay more attention to appearance than image. If a strong woman puts on a lady's clothes, she becomes a lady. The image of a lady at the end of the century can be decorated with minimalism or neo-romanticism. When women dress up as ladies, they will smile gently and have a drink, but this does not prevent them from putting on denim shorts to dance disco, or putting on suits to compete for the world and earn the world.
Lady's rule
There are no perfect people in the world. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. People always have self-esteem, and often don't want others to touch some of their shortcomings, privacy, unpleasant things, etc. Therefore, in interpersonal relationships, the speaker must be taboo. When the interviewee involves some sensitive and special things, he should think more about the other person. 1. Physiological defects. To avoid people's physical defects when speaking, we have to use indirect expression. If you politely say to the lame, "Your legs are inconvenient, please sit down first." 2. Unfortunate family. Like the death of a loved one, divorce of husband and wife, etc. If it is not mentioned by the parties themselves, it is not appropriate to insist. 3. Lack of personnel. The shortcomings, disgraceful experiences and present situation in dealing with people are sensitive points that others don't want to touch. 4. Do as the Romans do. "Entry is forbidden, entry is vulgar, and entry is embarrassing." This is crucial to the success or failure of society. As a lady, don't think that you are naturally liked. Talking with people and avoiding taboos are actually manifestations of understanding, respect, civilization and cultivation. If we can avoid unhappiness as much as possible, everyone will be happy. Facts have proved that a lady's elegant and moving speech is helpful to socialize, embodies the beauty of a lady's personality and adds a little beauty to her beauty. Without the atmosphere, the charm of a lady will become tacky, and it is impossible to talk about being virtuous. A lady in the atmosphere can put on a little makeup or face the sky; You can dress beautifully and eat well, or you can eat ladle pulp; You can live in a mansion or a cabin; You can lead a horde, or you can take Qi Mei as an example. In life, the breath of nature will show extraordinary elegance to some women, blend with heaven and earth, and reveal infinite vitality. A generous person lies in knowing the big picture. You should know the general idea, not to comment on the world with your own likes and dislikes, but to treat all beings with an inclusive heart. A woman with this virtue is clever and smart, adding a graceful and leisurely charm, as cool as a breeze and as bright as a bright moon.
Expression form
The atmosphere is manifested in wearing clothes and hats, and it is also revealed in gestures, brow and conversation. If a lady can enjoy every fresh moment and forge her eternal atmospheric character, then it is not only a beautiful scenery between heaven and earth, but also a model of human relations. The more such models, the greater the possibility of a better world, and the nobler, purer and more amazing the taste of a lady. The atmosphere must first learn to be tolerant and allow others to have different life concepts. Facts are stranger than novels. There is no absolute concept of right and wrong in the world. Maybe friends around you can eat and wear warm clothes through marriage, but you firmly believe that women should be self-reliant and can't be men's accessories. This should be a different concept of life, so you won't despise and spit on her, will you? Smart ladies don't do that. Every time they do something and say a word, the first thing to consider is whether they hurt others and how to keep the true nature of a lady's bosom friend. Everyone has his own way of pursuing, maybe all roads lead to the same goal, and finally everyone will reach a goal together. A lady is not out of place and pretentious, but can tolerate others, know how to respect others' choices and recognize different people's lifestyles. The atmosphere also shows enthusiasm. Emerson, an American writer, once wrote: "Without enthusiasm, people can't do great things." Great poet s? Ullman also said: "wrinkles will be left on your forehead every year, but if you lack enthusiasm for life, your heart will be covered with wrinkles." With enthusiasm, ladies will turn strangers into friends, sincerely tolerate others, make full use of their spare time to complete their hobbies, and have the mood to hone their virtuous side. A lady's enthusiasm will make you broad-minded and abandon resentment; It will make you relaxed and happy, even forget your illness, and of course it will also remove weeds from your mind. The character of a modern lady should be soft inside and rigid outside, combining rigidity with softness, with a strong heart beating under the gentle appearance. They are no longer the weakness of traditional ladies, nor are they formidable women. Modern ladies deeply understand that the deliberate pursuit of tenacity is too different from the real inner world of women, and it is very hard without tenacity. Therefore, modern ladies exchange the most gentle way for the most generous treatment. And they never abandon life and love, but love rationally and fully enjoy the sweetness of love; They live sincerely and enjoy all the beauty in life.
Chinese woman
Beautiful maiden
Ms China faces a gentleman, while western women face a gentleman. In the concept of gentlemen, they are always ladies first. Ladies, as the image of the weak in the mainstream society, receive special care and care. In the era of corsets and skirts, well-educated ladies know how to faint at the right time, making the gentlemen and heroes around them useful. A lady is a school messenger in the female category and must play the weak role in the male category. Among them, moderation is the key to being a lady. Modern ladies don't have to work for needlework or laughter, but they should still be dignified, gentle, elegant and behave appropriately. A lady is essentially a norm. The women's liberation movement for more than one hundred years has gradually alienated women from the spirit of a lady. The youth anti-tradition movement in 1960s and its "ultra-short style" gave a heavy blow to female idols. White-collar women in the 1980s, wearing suits and skirts with wide shoulder pads, are equally destructive because they are tough. Until the trend changed in the 1990s, people missed the women of the past, and the feminism re-established in the fashion world should actually be called ladylism. People can play many roles in society, and contemporary society has given women unprecedented choices. Contemporary women pay more attention to appearance than image. If a strong woman puts on a lady's clothes, she becomes a lady. The image of a lady at the end of the century can be decorated with minimalism or neo-romanticism. When women dress up as ladies, they will smile gently and have a drink, but this does not prevent them from putting on denim shorts to disco, or putting on suits to make money in the world.
Lady Yuanyuan
Beautiful maiden
Thousands of years ago, our earliest literature began with praise for women. Beautiful maiden
Although different times have different standards, on the whole, no matter which time a lady must have the quality of beauty and goodness, this general requirement has not changed. Women in the Tang Dynasty took obesity as beauty. After the Song Dynasty, fashion gradually led women to regard prosthetic feet as beauty. Although society has seriously distorted the aesthetic concept of women's appearance, the requirements for their internal quality are always generally the same. From the perspective of modern society, life is changing rapidly, fashion is changing with each passing day, and many concepts are competing to update, but I dare to assert that people's understanding of ladies has not changed much. Recently, some media said that one of the most important standards for a lady in the British mind is to pay attention to self-cultivation and behave appropriately. Take the "secretaries" as an example, saying that most of them are from famous schools, loyal to their duties, working quietly, polite, elegant and simple, but they have no desire for promotion, do not make irresponsible remarks about colleagues, and do not talk glibly about superiors. Lady is an extremely precious mineral, and it is the crystallization of the day after tomorrow. For more men, it can only be an inner yearning.
How to be a lady
Beautiful maiden
What is a lady? The sentence in the Book of Songs has been summed up very clearly: "My fair lady, a gentleman is good." "Gentle and graceful" people are beautiful and graceful; "Shu" is kind-hearted and gentle; In addition, she must be able to make men have a strong desire to "stay with them and stay together" (that is, "gentlemen are good"), so it seems that a "lady" should be a beautiful and kind woman. Beauty can vary from time to time. The so-called "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". The king of Chu has a thin waist, and Emperor Ming of Tang likes Yang Guifei's plump figure, but "kindness" is the requirement of every era. Beautiful Book written by Xu Zhen in Qing Dynasty. Analyze and decompose the beauty of ancient beauty one by one. A beautiful woman's appearance must be full and broad forehead, small and full lips like apricots, with "rhinoceros teeth", "waist", "lotus face" and "long eyebrows", and then she should be neither fat nor thin. Beauty should be attractive in addition to appearance. "Waiting for the moon by leaning on the fence", "smiling with a smile" and "hiding your face with a pipa and rolling your eyes affectionately" are all the charms that a beauty should have. In addition, you should have special skills, such as playing piano, Go, reciting poems, painting, embroidery and so on. And tea picking, incense burning, orchid protection, butterfly cutting and butterfly flapping. If a beauty contest was held in ancient times, it would be really troublesome. A woman is beautiful and elegant, knowledgeable, kind and humble, which is a complex that men will never let go of. How does she deserve to be a "lady" I believe different people have different answers. Some people say that a lady is indifferent to fame and fortune. She herself is not tired of fame and fortune, nor will she use fame and fortune as a yardstick to measure men. She will give men another pure land, no gunpowder, no war, no coercion. Some people say that a young, natural, frank and beautiful girl should be the natural beauty of "clear water leaves hibiscus, naturally carved", without too much artificial decoration and too much mystery. Some people say that the wife and children are very insightful, but she will never pose as a pedant just because she has drunk a few bottles of ink. She is good at listening and only "nudges" the men around her in key places. Beautiful maiden
Some people say that a lady gives people the impression of being fresh, kind and relaxed, like the green trees and flowers in Shan Ye, like the cool breeze and bright moon on the river, whether it is classical beauty or modern beauty, whether it is light makeup or plain face. Some people say that the first element of a lady is gentleness, and the beauty of water is the most touching. There are many great forces in nature, which is also the most difficult to resist. When women are gentle, men will be like the cool sea in summer, and gentleness is the source of all beauty for women. Some people say that a lady looks delicate, but in fact she is determined and brave. When life is full of ups and downs, they will not lose face, claiming that the world is not a sweet orchard, and ladies are not flowers in a greenhouse. Some people say that a lady should be dignified, elegant in speech, moderate in advance and retreat, tepid, read some poetry books and be good at mastering them; Pass some pen and ink and use it skillfully. Some people say that a lady is not glamorous or arrogant. They are arrogant but not charming, and keep their hearts noble in daily life. They are not spoiled and ignorant, but happy angels who face life directly and infect everyone with health and happiness. Some people say that a lady is a woman whose heart is full of kindness and virtue. Her love is giving, not taking. She cares about her family, regardless of thickness, and does not let the gentleman be in a dilemma between affection and love. Some people say that a lady will not disappear because of the passage of time. She is like a deep brand engraved in a man's heart. She has a young and uplifting heart, never gives up her calmness, elegance and leisure in life, and loves life, so life is bright. Some people in this world say that real ladies are rare, women are molded and men are hard to find. What a beautiful sentence "When * * * cuts the candle at the west window, but talks about the rain at night", it is because distance has produced acacia, and modern society has dispelled the distance between men and women. In the past, it took a long time to meet her, but it took a long time to separate, but now it's time to see if you want to see it. Love has become mala Tang. Tradition is being taken away by the tide of commerce bit by bit, and there are fewer and fewer ladies. Some people say that women nowadays can only find them from three directions: female college students, educated women and working girls (maybe this is a bit relative absolute). But now, due to the improvement of economic conditions and the widespread use of cosmetics, fashion and beauty, there are more and more beautiful women. The so-called "within ten steps, there must be grass." What can be saved with rich capital is the greed of the soul, which is a common problem of today's beauty. Even among educated women, there are phenomena of mental atrophy, moral bereavement and materialistic desire. Many working girls are mostly two-faced, elegant and luxurious in public, but they are intoxicated in their private lives, and some even degenerate into mistresses of the rich. Beautiful maiden
I remember 1990, an activity of Tangshan literature, which named "Ten Beautiful Women in China": Gong Li with meaningful amorous feelings, Yang Lan with youthful intelligence, Song Zu Ying with sweet serenity, Yang li Ping as a fairy, Angelababy as a charming girl, Mao Amin with noble warmth, Zhou Jie with bright elegance, Hu Huizhong with charming and touching, Chen Hong with gentle and quiet, and Xu Jing with beautiful and pure. But this is just the appearance. In Ci Hai, a lady is interpreted as a beautiful and virtuous woman. Modern ladies also need independence, good mental state, generous and natural communication skills and good speech, self-cultivation, temperament and clothing. Although a lady is a shining star among women, her life experience and knowledge will certainly make people attractive, but the most important thing is the nobility of her soul. In fact, in my opinion, the most essential feature of a lady is truth, goodness and beauty, and it is not a lady if it is deliberately carved.