There is not much difference in IQ between people, but some people can create great achievements, while others are mediocre all their lives. The biggest difference in this period is the mentality. If a person faces life with a positive and optimistic attitude, then he is half successful; On the contrary, if a person has a negative attitude, it is difficult to have a hope of success. In the promotion industry, there is such a story:
Two people went to Africa to sell leather shoes. Because of the hot weather in Africa, Africans always walk barefoot. The first salesman was very disappointed to see that all Africans were barefoot. These people are barefoot. Why do they want my shoes? So he gave up his efforts and returned in failure; Another salesman saw that all Africans were barefoot, but he was surprised: "These people didn't wear shoes. There is a big market for these shoes. " So I tried my best to guide Africans to buy leather shoes and finally made a fortune.
This is the difference between one idea and another. It is also the African market, and it is also the face of barefoot Africans. Because of different mentality, a person is discouraged and loses without a fight. The other man was full of confidence and won a great victory.
Selma accompanied her husband at a military base in the desert. Her husband was ordered to go to the desert to exercise, and she stayed alone in the small tin house of the army. The weather is unbearable. She has no one to talk to. There are only Mexicans and Indians around. They can't speak English. She was very sad, so she wrote to her parents and said that she would leave everything behind and go home. Her father's reply was only two lines, but these two lines remained in her heart forever and changed her life: two people looked out of the prison bars, one saw the dirt and the other saw the stars.
When Selma read this letter again, she felt very ashamed, so she decided to find this "star" in the desert. Selma began to make friends with local people. She was interested in their textiles and pottery, so they gave her their favorite textiles and pottery. Selma studied the charming cactus and various desert plants and states, and also learned about the groundhog. She watched the sunset in the desert, looking for conch shells, which were left tens of thousands of years ago when the desert was still an ocean. The unbearable environment turned into an exciting spectacle. She was so excited about discovering the new continent that she wrote a book called Happy Castle.
What made this lady's heart change so much?
The desert has not changed, nor have the Indians, but the lady's mentality has changed. The difference in mentality made her turn what she thought was a bad situation into the most meaningful adventure in her life. She finally saw the stars from her prison.
In life, when ordinary people encounter difficulties, they often choose the easy road to retreat for progress. "I can't do that. I'd better give in. " As a result, I really fell into the abyss of failure. When a successful person encounters difficulties, he still keeps a positive attitude and uses "I want it!" I can! " Encourage yourself with positive ideas such as "there must be a way", so that you can try your best to keep moving forward until you succeed.
American President franklin roosevelt is a typical example of achieving his career with a positive attitude.
Franklin roosevelt was a fragile and timid child when he was eight years old, and he always had a look of fear on his face. If the teacher asks him to recite, his legs will tremble, his lips will tremble, his answers will be vague and incoherent, and then he will sit down decadent. He is so sensitive to himself that other children often laugh at him. Besides being timid, he has physical defects. He has teeth. But he doesn't regard himself as a defect, but as a normal person. He saw other strong children playing games, swimming, riding horses and doing difficult sports. He also forced himself to go hunting, horseback riding or other intense activities to make himself strong. He takes a firm attitude towards difficulties, and he takes risks to deal with the terrible environment. He made himself very brave. Slowly, when he is with others, he no longer feels inferior and avoids interacting with others.
This positive, optimistic and enterprising attitude inspired him to work hard. His shortcomings prompted him to work harder, and he didn't lose heart because of the ridicule of his peers. With a strong will, he clenched his gums to prevent his lips from trembling and overcome his fear. Before he entered the university, he had recovered his health and energy well through continuous efforts and systematic exercise and life. He used his vacation to drive cattle in Arizona; Hunting bears in the Rocky Mountains; Playing lions in Africa makes you strong. When he became the leader of the knights in the Spanish War, he was full of energy, and no one questioned his bravery. No one would have thought that Roosevelt was once a timid child.
He was not discouraged by his shortcomings. With the spirit of struggle and positive attitude, he finally became the president of the United States. In his later years, few people knew that he had serious defects.
The main factor of franklin roosevelt's success lies in his mentality and his efforts. It was his positive attitude that inspired him to work hard and finally found the secret of success from the unfortunate environment. Each of us is the master of our own destiny and the leader of our own soul.
Adjusting mentality and having a positive attitude are very important survival skills in modern society. Because the society is very complex, all kinds of bumps and setbacks are hard to predict and inevitable. When the reality cannot be changed, it is extremely important to have a positive attitude.
Have the following experience on how to cultivate a positive attitude:
1. Full of confidence in victory.
Carnegie, an American billionaire and industrialist, said: "A person who has complete control over his heart will also control whatever he has the right to get." When we start to think of ourselves as winners with a positive attitude, we begin to succeed. "
Act like you want to be.
Because positive action will lead to positive thinking, and positive thinking will lead to a positive attitude towards life. Keep your mind on the move. If a person starts with a negative attitude, it is difficult to become the positive person he wants to be.
3. Influence others with good feelings, confidence and goals.
Because people always like to be with positive and optimistic people. Use this positive attitude to develop relationships and help others acquire this positive attitude.
Be grateful
In daily life, people with negative mentality often complain, while positive people will be grateful. If you often shed tears, you can't see the stars. If we are grateful for all the good things in life and nature, life will become better.
There is a saying: "A girl cries because she has no shoes until she sees a person without feet." Many things in the world are often that we don't cherish what we have around us, and we regret it when we lose it.
5. Make everyone you meet feel important and needed.
Everyone is eager to feel their own importance and the needs and gratitude of others. /kloc-Emerson, an American philosopher and poet in the 0/9th century, said, "One of the best compensations in life is that people help themselves after sincerely helping others."
6. Learn to praise others
Shakespeare once said, "Praise is the sunshine that shines on people's hearts. We can't grow without sunshine. " Praise has an incredible driving force, and sincere praise of others is like a clear spring in the desert, which makes people feel refreshed.
7. Learn to smile
A smile is a pleasant expression. Facing a smiling person, you will feel his confidence and friendliness, and at the same time, this confidence and friendliness will also infect you and make you feel confident and friendly to each other. Smile is a meaningful body language.
8. Find the best new ideas
People with positive attitudes are always looking for the best new ideas. These new ideas can increase the success potential of people with a positive attitude. As the French writer victor hugo said, "Nothing is more powerful than a timely idea."
Some outstanding inventions of Thomas Edison, one of the greatest inventors in the world, were born while thinking about a failed invention and trying to find additional uses for it.
9. Never think negatively that nothing is impossible.
Never think negatively that anything is impossible. First, you should think that you can, then try, try again, and finally you will find that you can.