A person's injury because of what happened is not as serious as his view on it. The matter itself is not important, what matters is people's attitude towards it. So, if you can't change things, change your attitude towards it. If your attitude changes, things will change.

In ancient times, two scholars, A and B, met a coffin on the way to catch the exam. A said, what bad luck, met a coffin, the exam will be dead; B said, coffin, promotion and wealth, it seems that my luck has come, and I will definitely be admitted this time. When they answered the questions, their efforts were different, and as a result, B was admitted. When I got home, I told my wife which coffin was really smart.

Mentality affects people's ability, and ability affects people's fate. The quality of life depends on your daily state of mind. If you can guarantee that you are in a good mood now, you can guarantee that you are in a good mood today. If you can keep yourself in a good mood every day, you will get a good quality of life and experience a beautiful life that others can't.

A crow is planning to fly to the east. On the way, she met a pigeon and the two sides stopped in a tree to rest. The pigeon saw the crow flying very hard and asked with concern, "Where are you flying?"

The crow said indignantly, "Actually, I don't want to leave, but all the residents in this place think my voice is not good, so I want to fly somewhere else." The dove kindly told the crow, "Don't waste your energy! If you don't change your voice, you won't be popular anywhere. "

You cannot change the environment, but you can change yourself; You can't change the facts, but you can change your attitude; You cannot change the past, but you can change the present; You cannot control others, but you can control yourself. I like moonlight, but I am not desolate because of its quietness; Like a meteor, not sad because of brevity; I like the night, I don't cry for it; I like rain, and I don't despair about it. As the great American philosopher william james said, "The greatest discovery of our generation is that human beings can change their lives by changing their attitudes."

2. Live in the moment and make every day wonderful.

Life is a process, not a result. Life is a bracket, the left bracket is life, and the right bracket is death. All we have to do is fill in the brackets. We have to fill in brackets with beautiful and colorful things and good mood, and the result is over when it comes to brackets.

A man was chased by a tiger. He ran so hard that he accidentally fell off the cliff. He grabbed a crutch quickly and hung himself in the air. He raised his head and the tiger stared at him from above; He looked down and the abyss was waiting for him; He looked in the middle and suddenly found a ripe strawberry next to the rattan. Now the man has four choices: go up, go down, hang in the air and eat strawberries. Why do you think he is? -Eat strawberries. His mentality of eating strawberries is to live in the present. What you can catch now is that strawberry, so you should eat it. If you ask the children in kindergarten this question, they will not hesitate to answer and eat strawberries. Children are happier than us adults because they live in the present.

Thich nhat hanh said it well: When we talk about mindfulness of drinking tea, we are practicing returning to the present in order to live here and now. When our body and mind are completely settled in the present, the steaming teacups will clearly appear in front of us. We know this is a beautiful existence. At this time, we really communicate with this cup of tea. Only in this case can life really exist. This is it: the teacup is in my hand, my thoughts are on me, and I live here and now.

Living in the present doesn't mean drinking today and getting drunk today, but living in the present with the future as the guide. Don't get drunk today and make the Ming Dynasty sad. Philosopher Osho said: "I will not think too much about the future, because the future is produced by the present." If we can take care of the present, then we can take care of the future. The future will not come for no reason, it will start from this moment, and the next moment will also start from this moment. If this moment is beautiful, quiet and happy, then the next moment will be more quiet and happy. "

We often say that when I get old, I want to travel around the world; When I retire, I will do what I want to do; When the children grow up, I can ...

We all think that we have unlimited time and energy. In fact, we can realize our ideals step by step without wasting our lives waiting. If we can get closer step by step now, we won't live half our lives, but we don't want to see the final outcome.

3. Discover beauty and be optimistic and open-minded.

Once, the home of former American President Roosevelt was stolen and many things were lost. When a friend heard the news, he wrote to comfort him and advised him not to care too much. Roosevelt wrote back to his friend: "Dear friend, thank you for comforting me. I'm safe now, thanks for my life. Because, first of all, the thief stole my things and didn't hurt my life; Second, the thief only stole some of my things, not all of them; Third, the luckiest thing is that he is the thief, not me. "

It is absolutely unfortunate for anyone to be stolen, but Roosevelt found three reasons to be grateful and grateful. This story inspires us how to appreciate life, how to see the positive side in unfavorable events, and how to find many good sides around us. This is a philosophy of life and great wisdom in life.

Professionals can't be smooth sailing in their career and life, and all kinds of failures and helplessness need us to face bravely and calmly. At this time, is it to complain about life blindly and get depressed from now on, or to be grateful for life and get up after falling down? British writer Thackeray said: "Life is a mirror. You laugh, and it laughs. " If you cry, it will cry. "

4. Work is a paid and enjoyable learning process.

Facing the complicated market environment, Li Dongsheng, the head of ——TCL, a group enterprise led by ten thousand people, said that there was no pressure, and "work should be regarded as a paid and enjoyable learning process". Only those who are good at learning can turn pressure into motivation; Only those who are good at learning will have the desire to keep pursuing progress, take on greater responsibilities and get more chances of success than others. "

As the leader of an enterprise, Li Dongsheng has high demands on himself. He has always stressed: "Only by maintaining sufficient growth can we lead a team to grow." It is with this spirit of learning that Li Dongsheng led his team to turn a small local enterprise with a loan of 5,000 yuan into a large group with sales exceeding 20 billion yuan in 20 years, and it has been growing at a high speed with an annual growth rate of more than 50% for seven consecutive years.

If everyone learns such a simple art-love your job, whatever it is, you enjoy it without asking for any recognition, then we will definitely have a better and happier self, otherwise the world has put you in a painful mode. You think what you do is good, not because you love it, nor because you do it well, but because the world recognizes it, rewards it and gives you a gold medal or a Nobel Prize. This is a very sad thing in life.

Many people always work with the attitude of "no pains, no gains". Of course, there is nothing wrong with this mentality. The problem is that if this mentality is too serious, it will make you fall into distress and depression, and you will not enjoy the happiness and happiness brought by work. For example, the boss who finished a job well said nothing, and always felt that he was missing something and was very lost; Conquered a difficult problem or signed a big order, the boss didn't get a raise and promotion, and he was always indignant and thought that the boss was sorry for himself; Do a big favor to a colleague. He doesn't even buy a cup of coffee. It's really boring If you always work and live with this "answer blows with blows" mentality, you will not only experience happiness, but will eventually tire yourself out. Anyone with independent will will live according to his own love and understanding of work, and regard work as a pleasant learning and living experience, regardless of what others think.

5. Enjoy the process instead of focusing on success.

After China's Zen Buddhism spread to Japan, the spirit and wisdom of Zen Buddhism penetrated into every corner of society and produced many varieties. Tea ceremony, flower path, bow path and kendo are all branches of Zen Buddhism. Musashi Miyamoto, a great Japanese modern kendo master, and his high-legged Liu Sheng and Shoulang are two great swordsmen who know the true meaning of Zen.

At that time, when Yagyu visited Master for the first time, he couldn't wait to ask, "Master, you have been there before, and your eyes are as bright as a torch. You see, with my background, when can I become a first-class swordsman? "

Miyamoto thought about it and said to him emphatically, "About ten years."

"Wow, ten years is too long?" Liu Sheng, who is young and eager to become famous as soon as possible, said eagerly, "Master, I am a strong-willed person. What if I work harder and harder? "

"So, it will take twenty years." Miyamoto looks serious.

Liu Sheng was puzzled and asked, "What if I work day and night, forget all about eating and sleeping, and study hard all the time?"

"Then you won't succeed in thirty years!"

Miyamoto's words are really puzzling. He asked piteously, "Master, why is it so strange to practice kendo? Why does the harder you work, the longer it takes to reverse? Please tell me, what is the reason? "

Miyamoto earnestly taught him: "If your eyes are fixed on the word' success', where can you look at yourself?" The so-called first-class swordsman always keeps an eye on himself. "

Yagyu was sweating with surprise, and now it dawned on him.

In our career and career journey, do we also have Yagyu's psychological journey? We must remember that "haste makes waste". The happiness of success lies in the process, not the success itself.

Please remember that if we can "wake up in the morning, shine on our faces and greet the future with a smile;" At noon, glory is at your waist, and you live in the present; At night, glory is at your feet. Be yourself in a down-to-earth manner. "Then, we enjoy the wonderful process of life, and our life is always full of sunshine.