Personal etiquette sitting posture Keep a good sitting posture.
Elegant sitting posture conveys confident, friendly and enthusiastic information, but also shows elegant and solemn good manners.
We often see some indecent sitting postures, such as legs spread apart, legs shaking on the ground and legs still high, which are really pleasing.
A lady should stand with her hind legs touching the chair and then sit down gently. Her knees must be close together, and her legs can be placed in the middle or on both sides.
If you want to cross your legs, put your legs together. If you wear a short skirt, you must cover it carefully. In particular, some ladies who often walk around and work or want to sit on a high platform are not suitable for wearing short skirts, and their legs are inseparable. When a man sits, his knees can be separated a little, but not more than shoulder width, and he can't lie on the chair with his legs apart.
1. Basic requirements when seated
1) Sit behind others.
Out of courtesy, when you sit down with a guest or at the same time, you should distinguish between seniority and inferiority, and ask the other person to sit down first, not first.
2) Sit on the left side of the seat.
If conditions permit, it is best to approach from the left side of the seat when sitting. It's polite and easy to sit down.
3) Say hello to people around you.
When sitting, if you know someone nearby, you should take the initiative to say hello. Even if you don't know each other, you should nod first. In public. If you want to sit next to others, you must ask their permission. Also, be gentle, don't rattle the seat.
4) Use your back to approach the seat.
When sitting in front of others, it is best to turn your back on your seat, so as not to turn your back on each other.
The correct way is to lean close to the seat, stand with your back to you, retreat your right leg, confirm the position of the seat with your calf, and then sit down as the situation requires. If necessary, hold the seat handle with one hand.
2. Requirements for leaving the seat
When leaving your seat, you should pay attention to five points:
1) explain in advance.
When you leave your seat, if someone is around, you should first signal to the other party with words or actions, and then stand up.
2) Pay attention to the order.
Leave your seat at the same time as others, and pay attention to the order of getting up. Those who are inferior to each other should leave their seats later. When the position is higher than the other party, you can leave your seat first. When the two sides have similar identities, they can get up and leave their seats at the same time.
3) Get up slowly.
When you get up and leave your seat, you'd better move slowly. Don't "drag your feet", don't ring your seat, and don't drop the seat cushion and seat cover on the ground.
4) Leave from the left.
After sitting up, leave your seat to the left.
3. How to place the lower limbs
After sitting, most of the lower limbs fall into the sight of others. No matter from the angle of civility and politeness, or from the angle of elegant and comfortable sitting posture, we should pay more attention to the placement of lower limbs after sitting posture.
1) "sit tight" formula.
Suitable for the most formal occasions. The requirements are: the upper body and thigh, thigh and calf should be at right angles, and the calf should be perpendicular to the ground. Knees and feet, including the heels of both feet, should be completely together.
2) Hanging legs and knees.
Mostly used by men, more formal. The main requirements are that the upper body is at right angles to the thighs, thighs and calves, and the calves are perpendicular to the ground. Knees are allowed to separate, and the range of separation should not exceed shoulder width.
3) Convex first and then bend.
It is a sitting posture suitable for women. The main requirements are: after the thigh is tightened, one leg is extended forward, the other leg is bent, both feet are on the ground, and both feet are kept in a straight line.
4) foot adduction.
Suitable for general occasions, both men and women. The main requirements are: first, the thighs are close together, the knees can be slightly opened, and the calves can be bent back to the inside after being slightly separated, and both feet and soles are on the ground.
5) Legs are folded.
Suitable for ladies wearing short skirts. The requirement is: the legs overlap up and down, and there is no gap between the overlapping legs, just like a straight line. Feet tilt to the left and right. After oblique placement, the legs form a 45-degree angle with the ground, and the toes stacked on the floor are perpendicular to the ground.
6) Tilt your legs.
The lady who is suitable for wearing a skirt sits in a lower position. Requirements: First put your legs together, and then put your feet obliquely to the left or right, so that the inclined legs form a 45-degree angle with the ground.
7) Cross your feet.
Suitable for all kinds of occasions, both men and women. Knees come together first, and then feet cross at ankles. It should be noted that the crossed feet can be retracted or tilted, but don't extend too far forward.
4. Upper body posture
After sitting, the posture of the upper body is also very important.
1) Pay attention to the correct head position.
Don't raise your head, bow your head, tilt your head, twist your head, etc. The whole head looks like a straight line, perpendicular to the ground. At work, you can look down at the papers and articles on your desk, but when you answer other people's questions, you must look up, otherwise you will ignore them. When talking with people, you can look straight ahead or face each other sideways, and you can't point your head at each other.
2) Pay attention to the upright body.
After sitting down, your body should also pay attention. Need to pay attention to the following places:
One is the back of the chair. Shit, it's mainly for rest Therefore, when sitting because of work needs, don't lean your upper body completely on the seat back, and it is best not to lean at all.
The second is the occupation of the chair surface. In front of elders, it's best not to sit full of chairs. After sitting, it accounts for about 3/4 of the chair surface, which is the most polite.
The third is the orientation of the body. When you speak, in order to show your attention, you should not only face each other, but also face the whole upper body at the same time.
3) Pay attention to the placement of arms.
After sitting down, there are five main ways to keep your arms in the right posture:
One on both thighs. Put your hands on one thigh, or put your hands on both thighs after folding, or put your hands on both thighs after hugging.
The second is on one thigh. When you talk to someone sideways, you usually put your hand on your thigh.
The third is to put it on the bag file. When a lady in a short skirt sits facing a man without any obstacles in front of her, she can put her wallet or documents on her lap together to avoid "walking away". Then, you can put your hand on it, or fold it, or hold it.
The fourth is to put it on the table in front of you. It is feasible to put your hands flat on the edge of the table or put your hands on the table. Sometimes, you can cross your hands on the table.
Fifth, put it on the armrest of the chair. When sitting up straight, put your hands on the armrests on both sides. When sitting sideways, put your hands together or shake hands and put them on the armrest on one side.
5. No sitting posture
When sitting in front of others, you must observe the basic rules of self-discipline and respect for others, and don't use a foul sitting posture.
1) The legs are too wide.
If the legs are too apart, it is very indecent to spread the thighs or calves. Especially ladies in skirts, don't ignore this.
2) Improper leg support.
After sitting, put your legs together, not to say that it is absolutely impossible. But the correct way should be two thighs, and the legs must be close together. If you put one calf on the other thigh and leave a big gap between your legs, it is presumptuous.
3) Keep your legs straight.
That's neither elegant nor harmful. If there is a table in front of you, try not to stick your legs out.
4) Put your legs on the desk and chair.
For comfort, some people like to put the luggage rack high, or even lift it to the table or chair in front of them. This behavior is exquisite. It is not appropriate to put your legs on the seat.
5) Shake your legs.
Sitting in front of others and shaking your legs repeatedly will not only upset people, but also give people a very unstable impression.
6) Pointing.
No matter what kind of sitting posture you take, don't point your toes at others, because it is very impolite.
7) Step on other things.
After sitting down, your feet are usually on the ground. It's very impolite to stomp around.
8) Take off your shoes and socks with your feet.
It is obviously very uncivilized to take off your shoes and socks with your feet when sitting in front of outsiders.
9) Touch your feet with your hands.
It is extremely unsanitary and unsightly to touch your calves or feet with your hands after sitting.
10) Hands are dislocated.
After sitting down, put your hands on the table when there is a table in front of you. One hand, two hands under the table, or elbows on the table in front of you are not allowed between your legs.
1 1) Put your hands on your legs.
Holding your legs with both hands is a comfortable and relaxed rest posture, which can't be done at work.
12) Upper body leans forward.
After sitting down, my upper body is prone on the desk and chair or my lap, which can only be used for rest. Instead of going to work.
6. Sitting posture in different situations
1) In more relaxed and casual occasions, you can sit more stretched and more free.
2) When talking, negotiating and talking, the situation is generally serious and suitable for sitting in a dangerous position.
The upper body is required to stand upright, the hips are sitting in the middle of the chair, and both hands are placed on the table or one hand is placed on the armrest of the chair. Feet can be placed side by side, or knees can be slightly divided into calves, or knees and calves can be staggered back and forth and gathered left and right.
3) In social occasions, in order to make the sitting posture more beautiful, you can use the method of sitting slightly on your side, with your head and body facing each other, your knees together, your feet together, and your feet together. When you sit down, you should tidy up and tuck your skirt under your legs to avoid being indecent.
4) When listening to others' instruction and instructions, the other party is a respectable person and a distinguished guest. In addition to sitting up straight, you should also sit in the front half or edge of the chair seat and lean forward slightly to show a positive and important attitude towards each other.
Different sitting postures mean different things. Let's take a look at the meaning of the following ten sitting postures to guide the usual sitting posture.
1) Sitting in danger, the tense posture of the upper body is a serious performance;
2) People with deep chairs and straight backs have a psychological advantage;
3) Shake your feet or legs to convey your inner anxiety and impatience;
4) Men sitting with their legs crossed are confident and dominant;
5) Women who naturally put one leg on the other show confidence in their appearance;
6) Frequently changing the posture of legs is an anxious expression of emotional instability;
7) Putting your feet on the table to extend your sphere of influence shows that this person has a strong desire for domination and possession, and will be arrogant and rude when dealing with people;
8) Educated women sit with their ankles crossed instead of their legs crossed. This posture is not only beautiful in appearance, but also euphemistically conveys the meaning of refusal.
9) People who have been sitting in chairs show psychological disadvantages and mental instability, and cater to each other or get ready to get up at any time.
10) In the meeting place or public place, when sitting, cover your mouth, cover your mouth and touch your chin, mostly listening to each other with a "judging" attitude.