Hello, everyone, I am a student of Huaxia Siyuan Psychological Network. I participated in the international standardized training course for psychological counselors. The speaker is Mr. Zhang Daolong. This time I mainly want to share a case with you. The interview and evaluation of Mr. Dao Long showed us the importance and significance of psychological counselors participating in standardized training, and also showed us the humanistic spirit, wisdom and rich life experience of Mr. Dao Long. The case is as follows:

There is a boy in Grade Two, who is introverted. He mainly wants to improve interpersonal relationships and plan his career. He grew up in a family where his mother was bossy and strong, his father was weak and stingy, and his father often traveled abroad and came back two or three times a year. My parents divorced five years ago and have been living with my mother. My father later established a new family.

From junior high school, once his mother mentioned all kinds of bad things about his father, he would take the initiative to comfort his mother and talk to her so that she wouldn't be angry all the time. After talking with him, my mother's personality has gradually improved, and the relationship between mother and child has also improved. And he also grew up with age, from hating his father at the beginning to understanding his father. In high school, father and son added WeChat, and the relationship between father and son was easing and improving. Usually, he cares about his father's life and health from time to time.

He likes psychology and wants to apply for psychology. After evaluation, the consultant approved his choice. Now it is difficult for him to adopt an evasive attitude in interpersonal communication, which is caused by inferiority complex.

Let's take a look at his family experience. His parents divorced when he was very young, and his mother had a bad temper, which made him feel inferior easily. Although he would try to solve his mother's psychological problems, he chose to suppress his heart and not talk to others. He is afraid of making friends because he has experienced many things that children will not experience since he was a child. Therefore, the solution of teacher Zhang Daolong's monism is to reduce anxiety and stress through exercise. Exercise is the best way to relieve stress.

The development route of boys is often in coincidence. In junior high school, he adjusted his mother's mood, improved her mood and made her character better. He also repaired the relationship between father and son. These are all like self-study. He has these talents, a counselor's spirit of helping others, and the ability to * * *.

Moreover, he felt too fat, so he bought a treadmill at home and kept exercising every day. Moreover, he felt psychologically troubled and took the initiative to find a psychological counselor to solve it. This is all because he took the initiative to find a solution to the problem, so his character can also be improved by opening up with friends and making more friends.

Moreover, he chose a normal college to apply for the psychology department. Often the admission score required by the psychology department is not particularly high, and the ratio of male to female is 1:4. It's no problem to find a girlfriend. And now the psychological counseling industry is mostly female psychological counselors, so there are often some risk factors. For example, some male visitors often have other ideas in the process of psychological counseling, which has certain security risks for female psychological counselors.

Then he is tall and big, and when he arrives at that station, he will scare many malicious visitors, have a little respect for male visitors and a little sense of security for female visitors, which will be a good advantage for his future consulting career.

He needs to study psychology at university for four years, so he is slowly breaking through his shortcomings in personality. Of course, if he wants to be a psychological counselor, he must be able to talk to people! People who often grow up in a smooth family will not consult well, because they will not have a good impression and feel the pain of visitors.

Then, if he has previous experience, he can understand other people's emotions well, which is an advantage for him to engage in psychological counseling in the future. However, he studied psychology knowledge in college for four years, and his mentality became sunny. He studied hard, accumulated experience in this field, was good at expressing his own ideas, and gradually made more friends, and then took the initiative to care about other people's psychology. This is a good training for himself.

When I was in junior high school, I could talk to my mother and make her character better. I also chose to understand my father, and my relationship with my father improved. At that time, he didn't study psychology systematically! Then he will study psychology knowledge in the university for four years, and his growth and advantages will be greatly improved, and he will go to the psychology industry. Psychological counseling is a sunrise industry, and he will become a good consultant. I believe.

Faced with such a case, our students feel that they don't know how to help the little boy except sympathize with him. Then Mr. Zhang Daolong used cognitive behavioral therapy, motivational interview technology and focus solving technology to let the little boy see his own advantages and future study and career development direction. Finally, the visitors were very satisfied and sincerely thanked Mr. Dao Long.

Later, I sorted out what Mr. Dao Long said after the interview and during the supervision, which touched me a lot. Later, I added some ideas of my own.

Why is psychological counseling a "high-ranking" career? Because it will maintain social stability, play a harmonious role in people's minds, and play a vital role in turning a person into a useful person and a good person.

When we see this discussion, will there be many micro-families and many psychological counselors who think that only one divorce case will cause such great harm to children? Is that propaganda that divorce is not allowed? Don't!

Not advocating divorce or not, but letting parents see what impact divorce will have on their children, so how can I protect my children if I want to divorce?

Then, as the father of the child, I can choose to divorce and remarry, or I can choose to have another child with someone else's woman, but I still have to protect my ex-wife's child so that he doesn't feel separated from his mother and no longer cares about him. Children actually understand the reasons for their parents' divorce, but they still long for their parents to give him complete love!

So, as a child's mother, she tells her children all the bad things about her ex-husband all day, and as a result, she forces her children to be consultants. Is this a good result? Will it be what mom wants to see?

The meaning of our life is definitely not to have sex with someone, have another child and get divorced, is it? So now that we are married, or not divorced, the child has become like this; Divorce, children become like this.

Then two-thirds of the total population don't come to psychological counseling, but who will tell them these truths? We can have a second chance in life, and we can make our children shine on you. shine on you is better than blue, so we need to cultivate our children-do the right thing first, then do the right thing.

We should not create our own sufferings, nor should we let our children inherit them.

A good consultant has humanistic care and wisdom.

Then, the change of consultants comes partly from their own feelings and partly from every real case of consultation. We will feel and think from the cases we have consulted, which will have a far-reaching impact on our lives. Every life deserves to be seen, so what we need to do is to help visitors with wisdom and care.

I want to change society, but I don't have that great ability. I can change myself and visitors first, and I'll teach. In this process, my visitors and my students will also change me, so when they all come together, it will become a changed society.

One person can't change the society, but we can change it together, because the society is made up of you, me and him. But none of this is what you thought. You didn't want to do great things, but you became great before you knew it.

Let's do it. We have the right direction and goal in life. You will feel happy if you do the right thing with the right person at the right time and for the right reason. This is the biggest reward, and we have already got the reward.

We go our own way, and at the same time open up a path for others and practice this thought and concept of benefiting others and benefiting themselves.

Thank you very much for the changes that Teacher Zhang Daolong has brought us, and thank Huaxia Siyuan Psychological Network for cooperating with Teacher Dao Long to set up an international standardized training course for psychological counselors. Such a good course is really worth learning. Whether you are a counselor or not, you can make great progress in this course.

As Mr. Daolong said: the strategy of consultation takes place in the consultation room, and the change of consultation takes place outside the consultation room. We need to believe that visitors have the ability to change themselves.

Like Mr. Daolong, we should have humanistic care, diagnosis and differential diagnosis, evaluation and conceptualization, and propose treatment plans. The counseling aimed at solving the troubles of visitors is psychological counseling, which allows visitors to leave the counseling room with goodwill.

These can only be achieved through learning. I hope more people who are willing to learn will join us, so that we can do the right thing with the right people at the right time. Teacher Daolong often says: Seize all the time to learn useful knowledge. thank you