1, the original intention of learning normal subjects
Like many parents, those who urge us to study after work are for the sake of children, for the sake of better education and for the sake of being able to educate children. I read the book Positive Discipline on 20 18, and then I was attracted by the concept of "educating children in a way of respect, equality, no connivance and no punishment". I am an experiencer of the previous generation of "beating and cursing" education. When I am an adult, I can realize the limitations of my lifestyle and way of thinking brought by my parents' transitional control. This is not to criticize the disadvantages of the previous generation of education, but as parents of the new era, we hope to find a more scientific and theoretical education method, which we agree with and are willing to try.
From this, I began to learn positive discipline, and learning belongs to learning. In practical application, there are still many obstacles and even difficulties. Only when I realize that I have just mishandled my child's mistakes will I think of the positive discipline we have learned. Therefore, it is easy to learn a new knowledge, but it is difficult to apply it and stick to it. Later, in daily parenting, I constantly tried to use the concept and tools of positive discipline and received good results. So at the end of 20 19, I knew that there was lecturer certification teaching in the normal discipline. After learning that the training methods are divided into offline courses and online courses, I chose the latter according to my own situation.
2. The purpose and decision of textual research
The purpose of textual research does not necessarily mean that it is to go to the podium in the future. At this stage, the idea is simple. I think this is a systematic learning opportunity. Getting a certificate is a kind of reinforcement and sign for this matter itself, which means that I agree with this matter, and there is also an idea to spread this parenting method to more parents. Personally, it seems that few people study to raise children. Most of our parents ask their parents for their parenting experience, and we seldom consciously improve the current educational environment.
Because of my work, I have a strong interest in psychology, and I have read some psychological books related to children's education and psychological development. I deeply realize that only when I have a good understanding of the laws and trends of children's development and my own children will I explore educational methods suitable for children. I believe that every child is unique, so there may not be a universal education method that can be applied to every child, but I look forward to inspiring people around me, especially my family, to work together to guide our children to develop in a better direction.
Let me talk about applying for the self-taught examination in official website first, because I know that the self-taught examination requires watching 6.5 hours of English subtitles-free videos and some English PDF documents. Of course, the cost of self-study is half cheaper than that of participating in training institutions. Therefore, there will be certain requirements for our English ability and study plan. You must think it over before you make a decision. However, because I have to work, I have to spend almost all my off-duty time with my two children. The online and offline courses don't have a complete three-day time, and my self-study ability is not bad, so I decided to go to the examiner to apply for the self-study exam.
3. Self-taught examination process and psychological changes.
Every time I make a fresh decision, that moment is particularly exciting. At the end of 20 19, I bought a self-study course taught by a tutor, and then made a study plan according to a sister's self-study guide. Faced with the dense English letters, I had a headache. More importantly, I gave up halfway. Later, due to the impact of the epidemic and the change of mentality in 2020, it was not very optimistic, so this shelve came to 202 1. I'm tired of work this year, thinking that I can't lie flat like this, and I don't think I should be a quitter. I want to set a good example for my children. I am determined to pick it up again and pass the certificate.
So in this way, re-determine the goal, sort out the study plan, identify the learning difficulties and key points, and overcome them one by one. Make full use of the fragmented time to complete the study and answer questions, and get the long-awaited "Certificate of Family Lecturer in Positive Discipline" the day after handing in the papers. Then, at the beginning of April, I decided to take part in the class as a lecturer. With this courage and determination to achieve my goal, I successfully passed the certificate.
Finally, I summarized a chicken soup. When you decide to do something, no matter how difficult it is, you will find a way and never set limits for yourself. Just as we believe that children have the motivation to improve themselves, we should also believe that we have the ability to overcome difficulties.
4, the next step plan
Getting a license is just the beginning. What I want to do next is actually to really apply what I have learned to practice and empower my parenting path. I think I will practice, share, summarize and improve hard. I don't want to be a parenting expert either. I just want to be a mother who can disturb the child's inner order less and influence the child more positively.
The road ahead is long, and we practice hard. It may not be perfect, but we are working hard. Just like actively disciplining emails sent to me: remember, there are no perfect parents or perfect teachers, so enjoy the journey!