"I was so angry I didn't say anything. I have to say it. I said, they don't listen! " Light snow said angrily on the other end of the phone!

I won't know until I ask. It turns out that Xiaoxue, who is introverted, has just attended a meeting in his department at ordinary times. She can't speak on such occasions, but the leader insisted that she say something, but she did.

As a result, when she said it, others were either playing mobile phones or whispering, and she said nothing!

What makes people even more angry is that Xiao Li added some modal particles to his point of view and said them in his usual way, but he won everyone's positive response.

Xiaoxue couldn't help complaining: "This world is really unfair. Should introverts be bullied? " If only I were an extrovert! "

It's really annoying to encounter such a thing. Obviously, no one takes their own ideas seriously. Others copy them, but they can get everyone's approval.

Is this really just a question of introversion?

How do introverts crack workplace games?

Sylvia Loken, an introverted German corporate trainer and doctor of linguistics, likes silence. Since 2003, she has been consulting for this particular introverted group. She accompanied the introverts around her to success step by step, and she had a say in the work of introverts.

According to Dr. Sylvia Loken, there are two disadvantages for introverts to attend working meetings:

The main reason for this disadvantage is that introverts are deep thinkers who are better at listening than arguing. Therefore, in the face of meeting occasions, introverts will feel that this is a tiring chore and easy to shrink back. On the other hand, introverts pay more attention to actual implementation and often regard some opinions of the meeting as bragging.

One of my visitors shared a particularly interesting thing with me. Recently, they are busy putting forward rectification suggestions and actively encouraging everyone to ask questions and then solve them. An employee raised the problem that it is not easy to eat overtime at night.

Then, the company asked the employees who made suggestions to come up with solutions. The employees suggested that the company add meals in the evening. The company replied that there were too few people working overtime at night to serve food. However, employees who ask questions should continue to think about this rectification proposal.

At first, the staff who asked questions were puzzled. I put forward the problem, and I have to think about how to rectify it. The point is, I don't think you will adopt it, so what makes me think? But the group has been urging the submission of such a report.

There is no lack of this kind of thing at the unit meeting. Many times, everyone speaks very positively, but in the end, it is rarely implemented. As a person who likes to be more serious and introverted, it is easy to pay little attention to the speech at the meeting.

Introversion has its own unique advantages, such as profound thinking and meticulous execution, but how to better protect yourself in the face of meetings?

Sylvia Loken, in her book "Introverted Psychology", gave six principles of conference speech to help introverts solve conference problems.

Introverts are often afraid to speak, not because they are out of stock, but because they are afraid.

The more you dare not speak, the more leaders and colleagues will think you have problems.

Self-confidence in speaking is exercised. Every meeting is like a public speech. Talk more, and you won't be afraid.

In order to ensure that every speech can be meaningful, the best way is to give full play to the strengths of introverts, listen carefully and analyze on paper, so that when speaking, it will not be meaningless.

And good content is often the beginning to attract others.

Talking is not just saying it. Only by ensuring that others listen to us can we succeed.

Introverts tend to ignore logic because they pay attention to details when they speak. So make an outline before you make a speech, or think about the main idea of your speech.

At the same time, because introverts are prone to fear when they speak, they often ignore the way they speak. Dr. Sylvia Loken believes that keeping a good speaking state, using simple short sentences and ending with a downward tone at the end of the sentence can not only express the sentence clearly, but also show the meaning.

In the process of speaking, volume, speaking speed and eye contact are also very important. When speaking, you should make eye contact with the decision-makers in the venue to win their attention and trust.

If you are still too nervous, you can just stare at a colleague as a private conversation with him, which will also reassure yourself.

For introverts, speaking time in meetings is often less than that of talkative colleagues. With fewer opportunities and less time, leaders will naturally not remember you.

You know, the speaking time sometimes determines a person's rights and value in the team, otherwise why do leaders often talk for so long?

We may all have the feeling that people with status can digress at will and spread their thoughts, while people without status are easily interrupted by others, and their speeches will only get few responses.

Introverts often lack a sense of status. Others can talk and want to hide themselves. It is normal for leaders not to be optimistic.

Therefore, you need to buy yourself more time during the meeting. If you are not good at long speeches, you can get more opportunities to speak to balance.

When you speak, you should pay more attention to the people at the top of the meeting. You should know that your opinion is to convince him. Therefore, even if you are arguing with colleagues at the same level, you should pay attention to the people at the top when you speak at the meeting. Persuading him to believe what you said is more important than persuading colleagues.

Introverts tend to be afraid of arguments and expect absolute fairness, but this is often not the case in reality.

Some people can easily seize the opportunity to attack introverts. They know that you have no mouth, and stepping on you is the easiest way to show them. So when you are talking, it is easy for them to interrupt you or make personal attacks.

However, such a situation can easily make introverts feel pressure and even raise their hands. In this case, we need to use the "first aid kit".

Xiaoxue once complained to me that the selection of advanced candidates for meetings in their units is often scheduled in advance. Leaders will ask everyone who to vote for this year, and then inform those people who to vote for. This made her particularly disgusted with this kind of meeting, and she couldn't wait for leave before the meeting.

In fact, canvassing in advance is very common. Many times people will start looking for their own small groups before making a decision, so as to ensure their success.

If some resolutions are involved, they will often be reached before the meeting. This is a well-known hidden rule, so plan ahead before the meeting.

What's more, for introverts, personal communication is simpler than multi-person communication, which is more conducive to security and predictability.

Sometimes what is decided at the meeting may not be carried out. Although the value of the meeting lies in the degree of implementation after the meeting, it must be said that many meetings are just for meetings.

Just like the one who asked questions to the unit, he asked questions himself and then wrote rectification opinions, which were not adopted. The problem is not to be solved, but to be raised.

Although such meetings are a waste of time, we can't deny the existence of such meetings.

If this meeting involves your immediate interests, you might as well make use of the persistent advantages of introverts to keep in touch with colleagues in this field, or try to make a resolution in writing. Such a resolution is more stable and easier to use as evidence.