First of all, when parents communicate with their children, the most important premise is equality. Only by standing on an equal footing can we communicate better with children, so that children will regard their parents as their confidants. Assuming that parents are always in a condescending position in front of their children, they always talk to their children with a serious face and harsh language, which will inevitably make them feel scared and disgusted. Over time, children are afraid to reveal their feelings directly to their parents. This will not only help children's education, but also make communication between themselves and their children more difficult, forming what we often call the "generation gap".

Listen to children's thoughts

"Listening" is one of the best expressions in communication. In children's innocent hearts, parents' listening is a sign of respect for them, which will make children understand that this is their parents' concern. It is also important to listen to children's thoughts, so as to understand their inner true thoughts, let them learn and grow better, and choose the future they want, not the future imposed on them by their parents. If you do this, you will not only improve communication with your children, but also make them hate their parents more. If this situation is irreversible, it will make children rebellious.

Accommodate children's shortcomings

Parents should not only attach importance to and cultivate their children's advantages, but also understand and tolerate their children's shortcomings, so as to communicate with them well, or take some good measures to help them improve their shortcomings, and they should not condone their growing shortcomings, which will make their children develop bad habits, especially in doing things, and let them learn to do their own things and not develop excessive dependence.

Words of encouragement to children

Finally, when parents communicate with their children, parents should say more words to encourage them, which will build their self-confidence and help them develop the habit of speaking civilized language when communicating with others, instead of "swearing". As the saying goes, a good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts in June. It can be seen how much influence words have on people's hearts, and children's hearts are so simple and fragile. Talk well, communicate well, deepen family affection and family happiness. I hope parents can communicate with their children when they encounter problems or make mistakes.

Parent-child communication skills II.

Recently, many parents of college entrance examination students reported that there was a problem in communication with their children, and now they don't know how to communicate with their children at all, which is undoubtedly unfavorable to their physical and mental development.

The main reasons for poor communication between parents and students are as follows:

Improper communication. Sometimes when children are thinking about other issues, or when they are in a bad mood and don't want to talk, parents just discuss with their children at this time, and the result will definitely arouse their resentment and be rejected.

An inappropriate way of talking. Some parents are simple and rude when communicating with their children, either focusing on their own will, "You must listen to me" or "I am absolutely right", or severely accusing "it is not good here and it is not good there".

The conversation is too repetitive. Some parents tell their children the same thing every time, and the platitudes turn into nagging. After a long time, children will naturally get bored.

Did not form the habit of communication. The attitude that many children neglect their parents is gradually formed. Parents don't have the habit of establishing communication when their children are young, or they don't care about their children because they are busy with work, or they spoil their children's Mandarin. Over time, children will feel that it is unnecessary to communicate with their parents.

Words have nothing to say. Sometimes parents want to communicate with their children, but the conversation always fails to find the key point, which is of no substantial help to the children, and the children go in one ear and out the other, which naturally has no effect.